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What Do I Do Now?: Building a Solid Christian Foundation
What Do I Do Now?: Building a Solid Christian Foundation
What Do I Do Now?: Building a Solid Christian Foundation
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What Do I Do Now? Building a Solid Christian Foundation by Nakia Trader is a must-read for new believers and spiritual leaders alike. With insights gleaned from her own experience, Trader offers practical steps and workable solutions for those strug

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Release dateJun 29, 2023
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    What Do I Do Now? - Nakia Trader

    This Is My Story

    "N

    o one loves me. My dad doesn’t love me. I am worthless and unworthy of love. No one will ever love me." The words flowed from my mouth. Like a waterfall, there was no end to how I was feeling inside. I was drunk and curled up inside a two-star-motel bathtub in Baltimore, MD, weighted down by ten years of accumulated sadness, loneliness, and feelings of worthlessness because of my father.

    But it did not begin that way.

    My father was an associate pastor at Liberty Church. People loved to come on Thursday nights and Sunday mornings to hear him preach. My father would preach so powerfully under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit that the altar was always full of people ready to give their hearts to the Lord. Knowledgeable in the Word of God, my father taught me that the most important thing for a Christian was to love and fear the Lord.

    When I was 11 years old and a few weeks before school started, my four siblings and I went to a Christian summer youth camp with the other children from our church. To say the least, I was not excited about spending the remaining weeks of summer at a church camp. I felt miserable because I was concerned that my fellow campers would find out that I occasionally wet the bed—plus, I was just tired of going to church all the time!

    I felt like my parents forced my siblings and I to go to this summer camp; therefore, I was determined to be defiant. I was smart-mouthed and sarcastic to the youth director, constantly rolling my eyes at any little thing she said and sucking my teeth whenever asked to do something. By the second or third day, she banished me from swimming with the other children during our free time. Instead, I was to help staff set up for the activities. I could hear laughter coming from the children—including my siblings—at the swimming pool. My heart ached at missing out on all the fun, and I determined not to continue my bad behavior. I got myself together.

    Thankfully, I made it through camp without anyone finding out about my occasional bed-wetting. But more importantly, I did not finish camp that summer without meeting the most important love of my life—Jesus Christ. Up until the moment I accepted Jesus into my heart, I did not realize I was a sinner. I had often heard about John 3:16 and other oft-quoted Bible verses, but none of that mattered the night I was saved from my sin. The campers had gathered in their groups that summer night to perform dance routines, skits, and other performances for our parents, and my group was performing to Fred Hammond’s You Are the Living Word. (It’s still one of my favorite songs to this day.) During the performance, I finally listened to the words after days of rehearsing to it.

    After the performances, the youth pastor gave an altar call and began talking about how much God loves us and how He sent His Son to die for us. My heart felt like it was going to pound out of my chest as I listened to her, and my body began to sway uncontrollably. I tried to gain control of myself, but then I just gave up and began to cry out, I need You, Jesus. I asked God to forgive me and accepted Jesus into my heart.

    Becoming a Christian allowed my father and I to establish a relationship in which he was my mentor in Christ. He took me to Christian conventions, conferences, bookstores, and introduced me to influential Christian leaders. My father took the time to instruct me on the importance of praying and reading the Bible. From the ages of 11 to 15 were my golden years, where I fell deeper in love with God and immersed myself in becoming the perfect and ideal Christian. I sought desperately to please my father to show him that I am everything he instructed me to be. He was pleased, and in my mind, I became the perfect Christian.

    The Dark Age

    WHEN I TURNED 16 YEARS old, I entered what I called, the dark age. I began to work part-time at a local mall after school and was excited to start claiming monetary independence from my parents. But as soon as I began to make money, my dad took on a new persona. He began to use hurtful words toward me, such as worthless and good for nothing because I could not afford to give him more money for gas. For years, I endured threats and insults from my Christian mentor, father,  and pastor for reasons that did not make sense. I desperately wanted to please him by working hard, getting good grades, being active in church programs, being best friends with the pastor’s granddaughter, giving him money, and doing whatever else he asked of me. I wanted to please him badly because he was the only person that ever took an interest in me and was  my father.

    The need to please him took precedence over my feelings, and I began to feel less than valued, loved, respected, worthy, happy, and a Christian. I often went to my mother about how my father was making me feel, but that only ended up making things worse on me. When my mom confronted him about it, he retaliated by picking me up late, insulting me further, calling me names, and more. Eventually, I begged my mother to stop standing up for me! Many nights I drenched my pillows with tears over the lack of understanding of how a God-fearing man could transform into someone so cruel and heartless. Losing that one person I believed I could rely on shattered my reality and broke me down to my core. I felt trapped in my mind and was unable to talk to anyone nor was I able to process those feelings. Therefore, I bottled them up. At my core, there was God. I loved Him. I loved Him so much that I fought with all my might to resist the hatred I had toward my father. I prayed more, and everything seemed to get better...for a time.

    Then one night after getting off work at 9 PM, I stood outside of the mall

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