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    Independent Thinking on Loss: A little book about bereavement for schools (Independent Thinking On... series)
    Independent Thinking on Loss: A little book about bereavement for schools (Independent Thinking On... series)
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    Independent Thinking on Loss: A little book about bereavement for schools (Independent Thinking On... series)

    By Ian Gilbert

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    Written from the personal experience of a parent and his three children, Independent Thinking on Loss: A little book about bereavement for schools details the ways in which schools can help their pupils come to terms with the death of a parent.
    A child loses a parent every twenty-two minutes in the UK. Childhood bereavement brings with it a whole series of challenges for the children involved challenges they will deal with all their lives. The research shows teachers want to help, but don't know what to do.
    This book is a start.
    Written by Independent Thinking founder Ian Gilbert together with his three children, Independent Thinking on Loss is a personal account of the way educational institutions tried and succeeded, tried and failed and sometimes didn't try at all to help William, Olivia and Phoebe come to terms with the death of their mother.
    Several months after their mother's death, BBC's Newsround aired a brave and still controversial programme in which four children talked about their losses. This prompted Ian and his children to sit down and think about their own experiences and draw up a fifteen -strong list of dos and don'ts that could help steer schools towards a better understanding of what is needed from them at such a difficult time.
    The warmth of reception of this handout led the family to expand their advice and suggestions into what has now become Independent Thinking on Loss, the proceeds of which will go to Winston's Wish, one of the UK's leading children's bereavement charities.
    Ian, William, Olivia and Phoebe encourage educators to view death and bereavement as something that can be acknowledged and talked about in school, and offer clear guidelines that will make a difference as to how a school can support a bereaved child in their midst. They also explore how conversations and actions little ones, whole-school ones, genuine ones, professional ones, personal ones in the school setting can make an awful scenario just that little bit easier for children to deal with.
    Suitable for anyone working with children and young people in an educational setting.
    ?Independent Thinking on Loss is an updated edition of The Little Book of Bereavement for Schools (ISBN 9781845904647) and is one of a number of books in the Independent Thinking On series from the award-winning Independent Thinking Press.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherIndependent Thinking Press
    Release dateMar 9, 2020
    ISBN9781781353646
    Independent Thinking on Loss: A little book about bereavement for schools (Independent Thinking On... series)
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    Ian Gilbert

    Since establishing Independent Thinking 25 years ago, Ian Gilbert has made a name for himself across the world as a highly original writer, editor, speaker, practitioner and thinker and is someone who the IB World magazine has referred to as one of the world's leading educational visionaries.The author of several books, and the editor of many more, Ian is known by thousands of teachers and young people across the world for his award-winning Thunks books. Thunks grew out of Ian's work with Philosophy for Children (P4C), and are beguiling yet deceptively powerful little philosophical questions that he has created to make children's - as well as their teachers' - brains hurt.Ian's growing collection of bestselling books has a more serious side too, without ever losing sight of his trademark wit and straight-talking style. The Little Book of Bereavement for Schools, born from personal family experience, is finding a home in schools across the world, and The Working Class - a massive collaborative effort he instigated and edited - is making a genuine difference to the lives of young people from some of the poorest backgrounds.A unique writer and editor, there is no other voice like Ian Gilbert's in education today.

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      Book preview

      Independent Thinking on Loss - Ian Gilbert

      INDEPENDENT

      THINKING

      ON …

      LOSS

      Ian Gilbert

      with William, Olivia and Phoebe Gilbert

      A LITTLE BOOK ABOUT BEREAVEMENT FOR SCHOOLS

      For Grandad.

      ‘When a person we love so much leaves us, it is hard, but we draw strength from the life they lived, from the memories they have left us and from the hope that they held for the lives we have left to live.’

      Let’s not tell our sad stories.

      JERRY MAGUIRE (1996)

      FOREWORD

      Since establishing Independent Thinking in 1994, we have worked hard to share with educators around the world our belief that there is always another way. The Independent Thinking On … series of books is an extension of that work, giving a space for great educators to use their words and share great practice across a number of critical and relevant areas of education.

      Independent Thinking on Loss is a welcome but challenging addition to this series, looking not so much at the nature of teaching and learning or the wider education system but, instead, at what a school can do when the worst happens to a child in it. As it will.

      Nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one, regardless of our age. Or theirs. Whether we know that death is imminent, expected and inevitable or whether someone is snatched away from us so suddenly that we never had time to say goodbye, neither is better, neither is right; whatever happens, the loss hits us and it really, really hurts.

      As part of our duty of care to the children and young people in our classrooms, the least we can do is to prepare ourselves to deal with a child losing a loved one. This is important not only because we can help to minimise the disruption to their schooling and their future lives, but also because it’s the right thing to do.

      But what do you do when you are faced with the situation of a child losing someone close to them and you simply don’t know what you should say or not say, do or not do?

      This book will help you to answer that question.

      The memory of June 2008 is forever etched on the lives of Ian Gilbert (founder of Independent Thinking) and his three amazing children, William, Olivia and Phoebe. Their hopelessness and anger, courage and bravery after the children lost their mum comes through loud and clear in this hard-hitting book. Many people around them at the time did the right thing. Many did the wrong thing. Worse, many did nothing.

      The overwhelming need for schools and communities to at least have an idea of what to do in order to help children who are experiencing loss, and its aftermath, is why this book is so important.

      NINA JACKSON

      CRAIG CEFN PARC

      CONTENTS

      Title Page

      Dedication

      Epigraph

      Foreword

      I. Fergus Crow, CEO, Winston’s Wish

      II. Ian Gilbert, Founder, Independent Thinking

      III. William Gilbert, Customer Experience Manager, Dubai

      IV. Olivia Gilbert, Lending Associate, Melbourne

      V. Phoebe Gilbert, Final Year Student, Sheffield

      VI. The Lessons

      One

      As soon as the death is known to the school, have a senior member of staff talk to the immediate classmates about what has happened. Stamp out any gossip and offer support for those who may be affected.

      Two

      Send a condolence card and encourage classmates to do the same. Saying ‘I didn’t know what to do’ and doing nothing is a form of moral cowardice – and why should you be let off the hook? No one else knows what to do either.

      Three

      When the child comes back to school talk to them (but don’t patronise them). Ask them how they would like their teachers to act.

      Four

      Teach other children to know what to say and how to handle things.

      Five

      School can be the place to escape from what is going on at home (‘Home is home and school is school’). Respect that wish as much as possible.

      Six

      Grieving is mentally and physically exhausting.

      Seven

      Be tolerant of homework and other work commitments – evenings may well be spent grieving and talking, not working. Agree work commitments with the child, though, and be firm but caring as you try to ensure they don’t get too far behind (and thereby add a feeling of failure to their grieving).

      Eight

      Talk to the spouse if they come to the school. Show them you know and care and are there to help. Don’t just ignore them because you don’t know what to say. That is more moral cowardice.

      Nine

      Keep on talking to the child and letting them know you still remember, even just in small ways.

      Ten

      Remember the anniversaries.

      Eleven

      Be aware of areas you may cover in the curriculum that may bring back memories (Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, birthdays, life after death in RE, areas that touch on any illness such as cancer or mental illness and so on).

      Twelve

      When another parent dies, make sure you are mindful of other children who have lost parents, or indeed any loved one, as it will bring many memories back.

      Thirteen

      Learn about helping children to cope with bereavement from the various agencies out there.

      Fourteen

      Time heals in bereavement as much as it does following an amputation. It is just what you go through to come to terms with things better.

      Fifteen

      Thank you for taking the time to read this. You can make a terrible situation a bit less stressful for a grieving family.

      VII. Resources

      Copyright

      I

      FERGUS

      This is a unique and special book.

      Schools need practical, everyday guidance on how to support bereaved children in

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