A Head Full of Everything: Inspiration for Teenagers With the World on Their Mind
By Gavin Oattes
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Welcome to life. Teenage life. The most awkward 7 years you’ll ever have; 84 months of change, 364 weeks of weird and 2,555 days of scrolling and inconvenience. In the grand scheme of life, it’s not a lot. Unless you’re an actual teenager, in which case, it’s EVERYTHING!
“It’s the best years of your life!” they tell us.
And yet, while it should be, for so many it just doesn’t feel like it. For most it’s an emotional assault course of acceptance, stress, anxiety, heartbreak and peer pressure, all whilst navigating the ‘hashtagony’ of social media. Misunderstood by society and misrepresented by the media, teenagers have it tough.
A Head Full of Everything demonstrates that being a teenager doesn’t have to suck. And when it does, there’s some cool things you can do to make it suck a little less. This book will challenge you to embrace your inner weird, to never grow up, be true to yourself, protect your mental health and be sure that for your 7 glorious teenage years, you act your age. Literally.
Bestselling author, award-winning comedian and international keynote speaker, Gavin Oattes has written a personal development title for teens with a difference – there’s no waffle, no dad chat, no fluff. Full of hilarious, real-life inspiration and a few crazy ideas along the way, A Head Full of Everything will leave you feeling motivated, energised and reassured that nobody has life all figured out.
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A Head Full of Everything
Inspiration for Teenagers with the World on Their Mind
Gavin Oattes
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Title: A head full of everything : inspiration for teenagers with the world on their mind / Gavin Oattes.
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Identifiers: LCCN 2021052114 (print) | LCCN 2021052115 (ebook) | ISBN 9780857089014 (paperback) | ISBN 9780857089052 (adobe pdf) | ISBN 9780857089021 (epub)
Subjects: LCSH: Teenagers—Life skills guides. | Self‐esteem in adolescence. | Teenagers—Conduct of life.
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Cover & Interior illustrations: Peter Cotter
For the ones who worry, the ones who dream, and the ones forever being told to sort and put away the washing.
The Bit Before The Beginning
Now, before we get properly started here, I'm keen to get something out of the way.
I know there's likely to be only one real reason for you to be reading this book, and that is your parents bought you it, right? Possibly even a teacher, but my money is on the parents!
Why? Because ‘It might be helpful’. There is of course a chance you bought it for yourself which is totally cool but I'm guessing for most, this book was gifted to you.
It just means that if you were given it by your parents then you've probably questioned the real reason for them giving you it, i.e. exactly what is it they think I need help with?!
And based entirely on the fact it's a gift from your parents, I'm probably going to have to work a bit harder to prove to you this book is actually a proper kick‐ass read. And even now you've just questioned the fact I used the phrase ‘kick‐ass’. Damn those parents!
But whatever the basis is for you now owning a copy, you've got it in your hands for a reason. Something out there brought you to this point and you're currently at the ‘opening few pages stage’ of this book, in other words over the next few pages you'll be trying to decide if you'll keep reading or not? And, well, you've probably questioned just who the author is, what age he is and what does he know about being a teenager!
Please allow me to introduce myself, I promise to keep it brief….
My name is Gavin Oattes, I stand on stage, and words come out of my face.
Ok, maybe that's too brief!
I basically get booked to write and deliver talks for awesome companies such as Nike. Even cooler though is the fact I sometimes get to speak to extraordinary organisations such as the NHS. But the coolest part of my job is speaking to teenagers.
I started out in comedy as a teenager. In the beginning people told me to get a proper job. I tried that but really missed the ‘not so proper job’. So I took the proper job, and the not so proper job, stuck them together and somehow ended up running a business that I love. And having now worked with over 1.5 million teenagers and some of the biggest companies in the world, someone has had the crazy idea to let me write books! I'm just going to go with it and who knows, maybe this way I'll get to make a bigger difference and work with millions more.
You see that's my goal, to make a difference in the world. That's it. I had no plans to be an entrepreneur, I'm not academic, I worry loads, I'm not cool, I can't sit still, I've failed hundreds of times, I overthink things and I doubt myself every day. But I work really hard and I love what I do.
Oh, and I love to swear. Please note, I only use the occasional mild sweary word in this book or else I'd get into trouble. In fact, I'll probably still get into trouble. You'll notice though, whilst I might occasionally say bad words, I don't say bad things … there is a difference!
So back to whether you'll keep reading or not. That's technically my job, so let me tell you this; this book might just change your life. At the very least it will challenge your thinking and give you a good laugh along the way. And I promise, it will help you.
‘Help me with what?’ I hear you ask. You see, we all need help from time to time but that's a question only you can answer.
I just need you to do two things … keep an open mind and pop your phone on silent!
‘You’ll turn out ordinary if you’re not careful.’
—Ann Brashares
CHAPTER 1
Somewhere Now
Schematic illustration of a Question mark.Being a teenager is brilliant and shite.
Now, there's a sentence that's never been written at the start of any book ever. Until now, obviously. A famous author once told me, ‘Be sure to always start with a bold statement, Gavin!’
So, there's my bold statement. To be honest I could probably finish the book there too. A one sentence book. A one pager that would make more sense to teenagers than any other book ever written.
Being a teenager is brilliant and shite. The end.
Schematic illustration of two flies.Technically that's two sentences, but you get the idea!
Life gives us 7 years of teenagering. In the grand scheme of things, it's not a lot. And yet, it's EVERYTHING when you're in it. 7 years, that's 84 months of change, 364 weeks of weird and 2,555 days of WTAF!
Life throws everything it can at us during this time. All the highs, all the lows and everything in between. It's the ultimate sandwich of life. Kid life on one side, grown‐up life on the other. And in the middle, 61,320 hours of scrolling and inconvenience.
3,681,644 minutes. Every single one a gift.
Schematic illustration of counting minutes.Yes, a gift.
Schematic illustration of sperms.After all, you're lucky to be here. Of all the 100 million sperm, it was you. That, dear reader, is a very big thought and one that probably makes you want to throw up in your own mouth. But, it's also true. We are all lucky to be here. And the fact we get to ‘teenager’ for a while is really pretty special.
Parents tell us our teenage years are ‘the best years of our life’. They can be, but the truth is, most grown‐ups have forgotten that, sometimes, our teenage years are also horrendous.
Teenagers are completely misunderstood. The reality is, being a teenager is just like being a toddler all over again. Toddlers are always trying to discover their world in new and exciting ways, because they don't know anything about it.
You're also trying to discover the world too. But this time you've got every single stress imaginable on your shoulders. Friends, looks, parents, social media, exams, boys, girls, expectations, etc., etc.
The media paints a picture. They tell us you're all obsessed with sex and drugs. Apparently, you all sit on a lot of benches and get drunk, causing trouble.
Schematic illustration of a symbol.Anytime I was unhappy or going through a tough time, my parents used to tell me it was down to hormones. Great, thanks for the helpful advice during this awful experience that I'm having, glad to hear it's just hormones….
Truth is, teenagers are decent human beings. I'm pretty sure you know very well that the choices you make now will affect the rest of your life. You don't need to hear this every single day. There's not a single teenager out there who aspires to live a life of regret.
For many it sucks to be a teenager. Treated like a child, expected to act like an adult.
Well, I've written this book to show you it doesn't have to suck. And when it does, there's some cool things you can do to make it suck a little less. See, you're not a child and you're not quite a proper adult yet either. You're a teenager.
When I was 11, I thought life would be better when I was a teenager. At 13, I couldn't wait to be 15. At 15, I was chasing 17. And at 17, I just wanted to be 21.
It all moves so fast and many of us are in such a hurry to grow up that we forget what it means to be young. Many are so focussed on the future that they forget to enjoy where they're at, right now.
What's the rush? Slow down.
In fact, let's slow down so much for a moment and put things firmly in reverse….
Thiiiiiiiiiis Much Excited!
Think back to when you were 5 years old. Everything was magic. Even school, right from day 1.
I was reminded of this when my own son started school.
‘YOU'VE GOT A SON, GAV?! JUST HOW OLD ARE YOU?’ We'll get to this later….
My son's name is Kian and at only 5 years of age he served up a perfect – and very much needed – lesson in life. And I'll never forget it.
His first day at school was, bizarrely, a Friday. It was a two‐hour taster visit and then he'd start his first full day the following week. I woke up on the Monday of that week to discover Kian stood beside me at 6 am dressed in full school uniform. I reminded him that his first day was in fact Friday.
‘I know,’ he replied firmly, ‘can't you tell what I'm doing?’
I thought about it and replied, ‘No idea!’
‘I'm practising.’
He practised on Tuesday, he practised on Wednesday and of course on Thursday. He forgot on the actual Friday, but we'll let him off as he was knackered from all his early mornings, but that's not the point.
I woke him on Friday, and he leaped out of bed, threw his uniform on and came sprinting into our room. My wife and I smiled weary early‐morning‐parenting smiles.
I told Kian that I'd never seen him this excited before in his entire life. He agreed wholeheartedly.
‘That's because I've never been this excited in my entire life.’
Schematic illustration of a cartoon image representing this much.There was a brief pause before he delivered the best bit.
‘And I've been alive for five years!’
‘In fact Dad, I'll show you how excited I am. I am THIIIIIS MUCH EXCITED!’
Please picture a 5‐year‐old with his arms stretched so wide they're almost touching behind his back. Shoulder blades touching.
As a teenager, you can probably remember being 5. Pretty much everything's exciting at that age, so to be beyond ‘normal’ excitement and to have ventured into ‘THIIIIIS much excited’ – we're in ‘Christmas Eve/Disneyland’ territory. Or ‘Disneyland on Christmas Eve’ territory, something of which I have never experienced but I can begin to imagine just how exciting this is.
That morning, my wife and I had a wonderful discussion about how, in that moment, there were thousands of young kids all waking up feeling the same – buzzing, pumped and ready to go. Raring to throw themselves into the next step of life's adventure. The same adventure that you're still on.
We continued to talk about how amazing it is that some people remain like that throughout life. Every single step of the journey, we meet them, the infectious energy they have, the buzz.
And then we had a really weird discussion about how some people never feel like that again. Something goes, fizzles out, vanishing entirely for some.
Could it be that some people peak at 5?
There is, of course, a downside to taking the next step in your adventure. Fear. Worry. Stress. Anxiety. You are excited and yet it's tinged with what might go wrong. It might not work. Failure is an actual thing. You know because, as a teenager, you've experienced it.
But when you're 4 or 5 these feelings can be somewhat new and confusing.
Fee‐Fi‐Fo‐Fum
So there I was, week 1 of Primary School. Five years old and learning to fit in, whatever that means.
It was Friday, the final day of week 1. My school experience so far had been outstanding. New friends, old friends, Hide ‘n’ Seek and as much ‘Heads Down Thumbs Up’ as I could possibly imagine.
Magic.
We came back into the class after Playtime fresh from a game of ‘Tig’. The Head Teacher, Miss Smart (real name) popped in for a chat.
‘Good Morning boys and girls.’
‘Goooooood Mmmmoooorrnning Miiiisss Smaart.’
Miss Smart was about to tell us something that would be a game changer for me.
‘Boys and girls, for the first time ever, this Christmas, we are going to put on a school pantomime.’
I couldn't believe what I was hearing. A pantomime, in my new school. I loved pantomime.
‘Not only are we putting on a pantomime boys and girls but we need some of you to be in it.’
Well, this just about sent me over the edge. My school were putting on a pantomime and some of us were going to be in it! I couldn't wait to tell my mum and dad.
‘The Pantomime we will be doing this year is Jack & The Beanstalk.’
My absolute favourite pantomime ever. I could see it in my mind. The giant's enormous mechanical legs walking across the stage as ‘fee‐fi‐fo‐fum’ rings out across the theatre.
‘We need 5 pupils from this class to be the mice who run on stage every night and steal the giant's cheese.’
Mind. Blown.
Schematic illustration of mind blowing emoji.I was imagining myself sitting in the audience with snacks‐a‐plenty. I could see the mice, the cheese and again, the giant's legs. And me. I could picture it. It was going to be hilarious.
I was experiencing an excitement I had never felt before. A rush of pure adrenaline that felt magic. It was new to me, and I liked it. I liked it a lot.
Throughout life we are presented with opportunities. I was about to be presented with one that would ultimately shape my entire life. I kid you not, what happens next changed everything for me.
Remember, I was 5.
‘Hands up if you want to be one of the mice in the pantomime?’
My hand was up the second she even began to say the word ‘hands’. Imagine the fastest hand in the world. My hand was faster than this. Look at your own hand right now (I dare you). Go on, look at it and move it up in to the air as fast as