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    Don't Just Have the Soup: 52 Analogies for Leadership, Coaching and Life
    Don't Just Have the Soup: 52 Analogies for Leadership, Coaching and Life
    Don't Just Have the Soup: 52 Analogies for Leadership, Coaching and Life
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    Don't Just Have the Soup: 52 Analogies for Leadership, Coaching and Life

    By Alan Heymann and Lindy Russell-Heymann

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    Alan Heymann is not an expert in any one given thing, nor do his talents extend to researching a thing thoroughly enough to write a book about it. Instead, he is an avid collector of stories. Since beginning his career as a television journalist a quarter century ago, he h

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherPeaceful Direction
    Release dateNov 11, 2021
    ISBN9780578306018
    Don't Just Have the Soup: 52 Analogies for Leadership, Coaching and Life
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    Alan Heymann

    Alan Heymann is an executive and leadership coach based in the Washington, DC area. His coaching practice is called Peaceful Direction.

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      Book preview

      Don't Just Have the Soup - Alan Heymann

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      DON’T JUST

      HAVE THE

      SOUP

      DON’T JUST

      HAVE THE

      SOUP

      52 Analogies for Leadership, Coaching and Life

      Alan Heymann

      Illustrations by Lindy Russell-Heymann
      Cover art by Dennis Samson

      Copyright © 2021 by Alan Heymann

      All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.

      Printed in the United States of America

      First Printing, 2021

      ISBN 9780578305998

      Peaceful Direction

      2703 Dennis Ave

      Silver Spring, MD 20902

      thesoupbook.com

      Contents

      Introduction

      Section 1

      The Leader Mindset

      1 Your leadership super suit

      2 Secure your own mask before helping others

      3 The spire in Pittsburgh

      4 Seeing beyond the hood ornament

      5 At 40,000 feet, or stooping to pick up a dime?

      6 Make sure you have the votes

      7 The talented locksmith

      8 Waiting for the fire alarm

      9 Running past a bicycle

      10 The boulder and the forklift

      11 Pushing papers, cleaning cages

      12 Freshly cut grass on your boots

      Section 2

      Communication

      1 Don’t just have the soup

      2 30-60-90 design

      3 TIME Magazine and Twitter

      4 Cook the pantry, or use a recipe?

      5 New glasses, or new nose?

      6 The hole in the wall

      7 Structural integrity, or coat of paint?

      8 The donut and the hole

      9 The floor mats

      10 The slumber party parent

      11 The misdirected airplane

      Section 3

      Time and Attention

      1 Sand, pebbles and rocks

      2 The 50-pound weight on your back

      3 A toothpaste decision

      4 Presidential laundry

      5 Mail the gas bill

      6 You’re not a bus

      7 Life in the batting cage

      8 The river or the pool?

      9 Free swim

      Section 4

      Relationships

      1 Here comes the General

      2 Spinach in my teeth?

      3 Building the better bridge

      4 The warning light

      5 Don’t wash the rental car

      6 The uncomfortable sofa

      7 The road trip

      8 The elevator ride

      9 Grandma’s chocolate cake

      10 The frozen shoulder

      11 The helicopter manager

      Section 5

      Transitions

      1 The robot vacuum career path

      2 Gov. Edgar in the back seat

      3 Buying a new house

      4 I won the election

      5 What’s in your backpack?

      6 Selling off the furniture

      Section 6

      Coaching

      1 The 5 a.m. winter run

      2 Jigsaw puzzle session

      3 The TV series

      Artwork Attributions

      Author’s Acknowledgments

      About the Author

      About the Illustrator

      Introduction

      Why a collection of analogies?

      The world’s cup runneth over with books about leadership and coaching. You’ll find tens of thousands of these at your favorite online megastore, and I’ve probably read a couple hundred myself. Some are by the world’s best thinkers in the field, who bring their extensive educational background and work experience into their scholarship. Many of these books fall along two lines: a new model for how our minds work and how to change our behavior, or a deep dive into a particular subject (like delegation, prioritization or spending less time on your email).

      What you have in your hands is not one of those books.

      I am not an expert in any one given thing, nor do my talents extend to researching a thing thoroughly enough to write a book about it. What I am is an avid collector of stories. Since beginning my career as a television journalist a quarter century ago, I’ve come to know that humans make meaning in their lives through stories. As an executive coach, I help my clients unpack and see through their own stories, achieving more success as a result.

      The frame of a story matters. I’ve found that reframing is one of the most powerful tools in the practice of coaching. The process of meeting clients where they are, of reframing their thoughts around a universal or familiar story, has made me a more effective coach. Analogies are a simple way to weave that story together. Sometimes, analogies come to me in the middle of a coaching conversation. Sometimes, clients throw their own analogies into the mix. I’ve picked up a few from other coaches along the way as well.

      What you’re about to read is a collection of 52 analogies for coaching, leadership and life. They’re organized around 6 topics:

      The leader mindset

      Communication

      Time and attention

      Relationships

      Transitions

      Coaching

      Lastly, here’s a quick note on how this book might be useful. You could read it cover to cover. You could read one analogy a week for a whole year. And it’s small enough to keep on your shelf as a reference when a story might be useful in helping you reframe something in your own life. I’d encourage you to bookmark these pages, make notes in them — or even order an extra copy to cut out the illustrations and post them around your office.

      Why the soup?

      Lindy and I had a few ideas for the title of this book, all of which came from the collection of analogies. A couple of them seemed especially strong. Then along came Dennis Samson, a talented designer I’ve known for more than a decade. Dennis was working on the cover art and threw one of my own analogies back at me! He was looking for a file in a particular format, and wrote that he was about to accept the soup before he decided to ask again for what he really needed.

      We’ve all heard stories of people who seem to bend the world to their will, rather than the other way around. I’m thinking about the leader with the Diet Coke button under his desk, or the band that expects the post-concert bowl of M&Ms with all of the green ones removed. I imagine it must be disappointing when not everything ends up just so.

      But some of us mere mortals wind up disappointed when someone or something doesn’t meet our expectations because we haven’t made those expectations clear. As you’ll read, accepting the soup is about settling for something that falls short of what we need.

      Please don’t just have the soup.

      Alan Heymann

      Montgomery County, Maryland

      November 2021

      Section 1

      The Leader Mindset

      In coach training at Georgetown University, we learned to coach the entire client. This means encouraging our clients to notice and understand what is going on in the body and the spirit in addition to the mind. Indeed, knowledge workers can always use a reminder that the body isn’t just a sack of meat that carries our brains around.

      Still, leadership coaches aren’t doctors and we’re not clergy. We dwell most often in the realm of the

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