Mystical Empress Magical Relationships: Quantum Techniques to Enhance Relationships

A note from the Mystical Empress

In writing this book, I wanted to give you an entirely new magical model for all relationships. This book is not defined by age, gender, or sexual orientation. In your human experience, you engage many kinds of relationships.

For those who are searching for love, I offer you a definable road map with many hidden treasures. For those who desire positive changes in their current, personal and professional relationships, I offer you tools for harmony & longevity. For those who have loved & lost, I offer you renewed hope for finding what was thought to be lost.

As I never quite saw myself a teacher of relationships, I merely followed my passionate desire for my own joyful, connected relationship. I spent years sampling a variety of experiences, constantly refining myself & my desires, until I came upon my life partner, and soul mate, Matt, who had agreed in our soul contract to offer me the gift of understanding energy in relationships. He allowed me to move within new identities & new realities, to arrive at my wonderful dream of relationship. The techniques I created are what this book is about—my personal discoveries in molding energy as it pertains to relationships.

Before we get started, I do want to confirm that, yes, creating your ideal relationships will be work. Judging by the volume of relationship calls that I receive, I’d say this is the top focus in most peoples’ minds. So, if you’re going to relate, you may as well understand how to create happy, fulfilling relationships, right? Right!

My wish for you? The courage and focus to create and achieve all your relationship dreams.

They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom. Confucius

Many Magical & Mystical Wishes,

Charis Farfalla, Mystical Empress

My Introduction to Quantum Physics

Once upon a midnight dreary, while I pondered, weak and weary…

suddenly there came a tapping, as of someone gently rapping…

The Raven, Edgar Allen Poe

Relationship as a Laboratory

My spiritual path began by reading Linda Goodman’s Star Signs. I remember reading Linda’s book in my early 20’s and fearing that I was going against my Christian beliefs. Linda wrote in such way that she inspired me with a desire to learn more. Then, during my Saturn return¹, I started reading Jane Robert’s channeled, non-physical entity named Seth. Linda’s writing was beautifully poetic, dotted with many riddles & mysteries, while Seth was very scientific and methodical. Seth was very deep and sometimes difficult to comprehend. Somehow, though, I knew his books were magic! As I flipped through the pages, I knew I was learning the secrets of the universe. My passionate drive to learn more pushed me to break from convention and study metaphysical and spiritual studies.

From the earliest age, I was always viewed as a leader and a guide by my peers. My years spent in study, introspection, and meditation, eventually evolved into a career as an intuitive, life coach, shaman, and astrologer. My studies helped me to teach and guide others who needed answers.

When asked by clients, How do you learn what you know? How do you grow psychically and spiritually? I respond with a warning: Be careful of what you seek. As you progress down the path of wisdom, you will eventually come to a fork in the road that will require a decision. You will choose to turn away from blossoming wisdom, in favor of old belief systems (i.e., someone else’s truth), OR you will courageously push through fear to discover your own truth. For once you know something, you cannot unknow it. The knowing makes it very difficult to return to the old life dynamics.

My crossroads came when I went to my first class-reunion, during my Saturn return. I found myself in what I thought to be a delightful philosophical conversation with a man; however, I became a wee bit tipsy and said a little too much in the way of shamanic soul retrievals. The next day, at the class picnic, I learned that man was a Baptist deacon and had told all my friends that I was a witch who did rituals. This may not sound like much to you, but this was the Bible belt South. I left the picnic in humiliation and tears. That night as I went to sleep, I prayed: God, if what I’m learning is wrong, I will burn all of my books and never look back. If I’m on track, I will move forward. Please give me a dream to let me know. The next morning, I recalled my dream: I was in a town of people who were like zombies. They all thought and acted alike and wanted me to conform. I ran through the town looking for someone to help me. I came upon a judge who tried to subdue me long enough for the mob to catch me. From that dream forward, I never looked back on my decision to pursue my quest for spiritual knowledge. Instead, I moved forward with great passion and fervor! Looking back, if I had not made that decision, a major part of me would’ve died. I was born to do the work that I do today.

Years later, I unknowingly stepped into the quantum lunatic fringe in the field of acting. I very naturally took to theater and film where I could apply my psychological insights to my characters & their lives. During an audition for a play, I met my first soul mate. I will never forget the moment I laid eyes on him. A handsome guy; he strolled in the theater, complaining about his father, and his arrogant, cocky demeanor won my immediate contempt. Josh reminded me of one of those buff, self-absorbed villains who vies for the attention of the lead character’s love interest. On stage, I wanted nothing to do with him, and he constantly picked on me. There was something about him though, that I could not shake. He filled my thoughts almost constantly. Once the play had run its course, I thought I was finished with him. Goodbye & good riddance!

Three months later, a local filmmaker was holding auditions for an independent film. When I arrived for the audition, Josh was sitting at a table, smug as usual. I considered walking away from the part, but I decided I would not let him interfere with my acting dream. Unbeknownst to me, I was auditioning for the part of his wife. Later, I found out that he had played a pivotal role in me landing the part.

Have you ever had one of those life-defining moments, when you felt the world stop and everything hinged on one decision—and in that decision, you knew your life would never be the same? I had that moment immediately, following the second audition. Josh pulled me aside and said, I’m moving to NYC as soon as we finish this movie, and I won’t be coming back. We have to get it filmed in 7 days. I thought, It’s now or never. If it’s going to happen, it must happen now. I had no idea why I thought those words. I had no idea what the it meant either. I only knew the pull was stronger than anything I had ever felt, and I needed answers. So, I accepted the movie role.

The movie was a very intense, dramatic film about a marriage being torn apart by the accidental death of a couple’s son. I intended that for the entire seven days of filming, I would completely immerse myself in my character and her life. Lacking little formal training, I did not realize I was naturally falling into the Method acting technique. I was only following my instincts for my new role.

The movie plot centered around married high school sweethearts who were caught in a tragedy of trauma, loss, and addiction. The lead character, Josh, was guilt-ridden by his own negligence in the death of his son. Grieving their loss, the family unraveled as the husband sank into alcoholism and spousal battery. The finale was the wife (me), murdering her husband and then herself. Not light-hearted scripting! Ultimately, the script would pull up deep, repressed memories, many of which were buried in past lives.

As the movie wrapped, Josh moved to NYC to pursue his acting career, and I returned to my former life as a wife and business owner. However, something was very off. In 7 days, my life felt like it had completely crumbled. What had seemed like reality was nothing more than an illusion in my head. As I sat on my porch swing looking across my land, I felt like an alien. I knew nothing, not my husband, not myself. I couldn’t understand how a few days could make such a turbulent, abrupt impact on my life. A psychic friend told me that he feared I had suffered a nervous breakdown. The memories of this place were fading fast, and I had no attachment to my former life anymore. A life that felt as solid as concrete only one week before was now utterly unrecognizable. Something had shifted that could not be comprehended. It would be six years before this shift would be fully understood.

Until the movie, I had spent my entire life driven and focused toward achieving goals. My life was very structured and accomplished. Now, I was feeling trapped by the rigidity of it all. And for the first time in my life, I had no direction and no goal to achieve. I felt like a whirlwind. My very structured, conforming husband could not accept all the changes occurring in me. Eight months later, after repeated attempts to pull our marriage back together, my husband, exasperated by it all, left. During one of our final conversations, he said, I don’t know you anymore. Nothing you could say or do would surprise me at this point. These were words coming from a man who had known me since childhood. He was right! I didn’t know myself either!

Because I was a seasoned astrologer, I knew there were a few astrological culprits here. First, Uranus, the planet of sudden changes, freedom, and rebellion was cycling through my astrological natal chart² first house of self-identity. Meaning, I was completely reinventing myself into a much truer, authentic, soul- aligned human being. It didn’t help that Uranus was also moving through my husband’s 7th house of marriage & partnerships, which often indicates marriage upheaval and divorce—if the marriage is unable to embrace the newly changed spouse. Additionally, Pluto, the planet of death-like transformation and new birth, was moving through my 10th house of career and public reputation. With this shift in me, my business in horticulture was phasing out, while my new identity as a spiritual teacher was emerging. Yes, a new life was unfolding, with the sudden force and brilliance of a lightning bolt! (Lightening is a symbol of Uranus.)

Several months passed before I could even speak of the film without bursting into tears. I later discovered that the film had revealed past life relationships with Josh. To pinpoint what had happened to me, I voraciously studied everything I could find about soul mates: astrology, numerology, dream interpretation, metaphysical books & psychic readings. I consulted with other astrologers about the strange pull this Josh had on me. I also learned how to do astrology relationship charts, to understand the indescribable energy of soul mates.

With an ending marriage, I needed to make decisions about my home and business. I had always wanted to leave Louisiana since the time my adoptive family took me there from California. Now I had my opportunity! However, my life felt like a spinning tornado that had not yet touched down. I knew it was not the time to make permanent life decisions--yet.

I spent the summer in NYC to attend acting school, but mainly I went to clear my head and make new decisions about my life. I thought, with a new location, I could finally figure my life out. At the Western School of Feng Shui, we had learned the value of travel. As we travel, we leave our comfort zone and habitual patterns. New locations hold no familiarity; thus, they inspire us to grow beyond our normal boundaries.

NYC seemed so HUGE and daunting, but something in me really wanted the challenge to prove myself. With no contacts in the city, I relied on my psychic skills to find an apartment. During my stay in NYC, I was mostly a loner, although I made some friends with my roommates and classmates. I had two very brief visits with Josh; he encouraged me to move to NYC to pursue my acting. Although I had no answers for my life’s direction, NYC, full time, did not feel right, and I knew I was not transforming beyond horticulture into an unpredictable acting career. As with all things in my life, acting was a metaphor for the new career that was being seeded.

Manhattan gave me strength in myself that I had never known. Life in the city challenged me every day. As a psychically sensitive person, the energy of the city was overwhelming, and I found myself struggling to get through each day. I had several teary meltdowns. Through it all, however, I discovered a very free-spirited, independent woman who was now very capable of being outside the security of a relationship. Looking back, my fearless, independent adventure in NYC was one of my proudest accomplishments of this lifetime. Even to this