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    From AAA to XXX: A Dictionary/Commentary on Porn and Porn Addiction
    From AAA to XXX: A Dictionary/Commentary on Porn and Porn Addiction
    From AAA to XXX: A Dictionary/Commentary on Porn and Porn Addiction
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    From AAA to XXX: A Dictionary/Commentary on Porn and Porn Addiction

    By Olivia Luv

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    From AAA to XXX is an important resource for recovering porn users and addicts, their girlfriends and wives, women and men who want to leave the porn industry, and therapists working with any of these groups. Researchers will find original hypotheses and commentary that will spark exploration of previously ignored aspects of por

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherFuture Directions Publishing
    Release dateOct 26, 2021
    ISBN9798985062618
    From AAA to XXX: A Dictionary/Commentary on Porn and Porn Addiction

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      From AAA to XXX - Olivia Luv

      Introduction

      People who view pornography are doing something that many of them consider unhealthy, and some of them cannot stop. A majority of the population thinks that porn is immoral. That includes many porn users. Porn is now being recognized in many places as a public health hazard. It damages users, their partners, and the sex performers who participate in it. The aim of this dictionary and commentary is to help anyone who wants to rethink porn. This may include people in all three of the aforementioned categories. If even a few readers come to fresh insights or understandings or begin to use new terminology or an old term in a novel way, the dictionary will have served its purpose. It is also important to note at the outset that the underlying values of this dictionary and commentary are health and happiness. I believe that these values are shared by almost everyone, even when they have lost sight of them momentarily.

      The list of terms included below is not exhaustive; that would be a much larger undertaking. Instead, it is focused on some essential terms that porn users, their romantic partners, online sex actors, and therapists should know and on ideas that may lead to thinking about porn in a new way. It may also be useful to researchers since it contains hypotheses about what might be examined in future studies. An underlined, bolded term within the text indicates a term (or a derivative of a term) that is defined and discussed elsewhere in the document. It will only be bolded and underlined the first time it appears in the discussion of a particular term to enhance readability (but it will be bolded and underlined again when it first appears in discussions of other terms). Additional terms are bolded for emphasis but are not in the list of defined terms and hence are not underlined. Some of the terms are new and have been coined for this document or are terms not often associated with porn or porn addiction. In those cases, the reader will be led to an entry by hyperlinks found in other parts of the book. The word porn is never bolded in this document because it is never defined (there is no agreed-upon definition). The term O-Mi is only bolded and underlined in this introduction. Familiarity with its meaning is assumed in the rest of the document.

      The terms, except for the first (O-Mi, on p. 1) and the last (solutions in the conclusion), will be in alphabetical order (AAA to XXX). O-Mi is a new term introduced as an alternative to porn. It is an acronym. The letters that make up the acronym represent two activities that are part of online sex viewing—and, of course, sex magazine and film viewing that are not online. By citing these two activities (ogling and masturbation) in the term itself, there is more clarity than in the word porn. Note, however, that the term porn, though not defined in this document, will be used frequently because it is familiar to readers and because it is used by many of the cited sources. For these reasons, using it will enhance the readability of the book, but it is hoped that readers will see the utility of the acronym O-Mi for future use in discussions of sexual images. Thus, O-Mi will often be used here with the word porn but will sometimes be used alone.

      Also, note that in many, but not all, instances no differentiation will be made between a porn user and a porn addict. Obviously, not all users are addicts; some users do not have the level of compulsion and the sense of losing control while viewing O-Mi images that addicts have. But negative effects on the brain occur without addiction (Love et al., 2015; Watching Pornography Rewires the Brain, 2019; Wilson, 2017, p. 107), and it is hard to pinpoint when porn use becomes an addiction. The outcomes for the O-Mi viewer are often more of a matter of degree than of type (except for the minority of child porn viewers who are pursued by law enforcement). Hence, no attempt is made here to draw a hard and fast line between porn use and addiction.

      So, let’s look at AAA to XXX and a lot in between. I’ll examine our current porn conundrum and explore new and old ways of thinking about porn. Since many of the entries and commentary examine reasons why porn use is problematic, the conclusion will lay out some remedies to the tsunami of porn use.

      Terms and Commentary

      AAA: accessibility, anonymity, and affordability

      The Triple A Engine of Porn. They are the three reasons why porn is so ubiquitous and tempting in the electronics age.

      Porn is readily accessible on electronic devices of all types (with most use occurring on phones and tablets, not computers). In many cases, the user is completely anonymous; no one knows about their O-Mi viewing. With the internet, users need pay no money, unlike users in the past who bought magazines and videos and were perhaps more likely to go to strip clubs to get their fill of nudity and semi-nudity. As a consequence of AAA, there is an explosion of porn and, with it, a pandemic of use and addiction (de Alarcón et al., 2019; Cooper & Scherer, 1999) (see porn pandemic).

      Accountability partner

      A person who helps another stop a problematic habit or addiction. In this book, an accountability partner is someone who helps a porn user or addict stop viewing O-Mi’s.

      The accountability partner keeps abreast (pun intended) of the actions of the person who is trying to change and calls them on it when they backslide. They can be a professional (perhaps a therapist or health-care worker), a fellow twelve-step member, a friend, a romantic partner, or spouse. They know the porn user and his O-Mi viewing habits well and help address the anonymity issue of porn (see accessibility, anonymity, and affordability).

      Many people will not be able to get off porn without an accountability partner. For an accountability partner to be helpful, however, the porn user must commit to being open and calm when asked about his progress. Of course, some accountability partners are unreliable and don’t take their responsibilities seriously. If you are trying to kick a porn habit or an addiction, don’t delay in finding a different accountability partner if your current one is not helping you stop using porn.

      Addiction

      Repetitive behaviors resulting from a craving for some stimulus. More and more of the stimulus is required to get the high. Over time, the circuitry of the brain is rewired.

      With regard to O-Mi usage, changes in brain structure begin to occur with even small amounts of viewing. One study showed that 16 percent of high school seniors (an age group where sexual appetites would normally be high) who consumed porn once a week experienced low sexual desire (compared to zero percent of abstainers) (Wilson, 2017, p. 52).

      All addictions are diseases of the brain. Once the brain is altered, people make consistently poor choices around the substance or behavior to which they are addicted (Smith, 2019). Since all addictions involve similar brain changes, this book will reference research on other addictions that suggest hypotheses about porn addiction (which has not reached the same level of research). Smoking, in particular, is frequently compared to porn consumption, but findings on other addictions such as alcoholism and heroin dependency are cited because they may also suggest insights about what we should examine in future studies of porn use.

      Addictions increasingly take over people’s lives, crowding out other activities and relationships. Some people will remain casual and occasional viewers of O-Mi’s, but accessibility, affordability, and anonymity, along with loneliness, depression, boredom, and horniness, may result in pornography addiction (see chipping, compulsion, defenses, psychological, Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, mental health, and pornaholic).

      The DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) does not recognize porn addiction as an illness. However, the World Health Organization diagnostic manual (the International Classification of Diseases, or ICD-II) has added compulsive sexual disorder to its roster of diagnoses. Its definition appears to encompass porn addictions (Silverstein, 2018).

      BDSM

      Bondage, dominance/discipline, sadism/submission, and masochism. These acts are commonly depicted on internet sex sites.

      These acts are referred to as "kink by those who are positive toward them or as sexual deviance by those who are concerned about mixing power, aggression, and violence (whether role-playing" or real) with sex. BDSM is on a continuum with bondage (women in porn are often tied up or handcuffed) on one end of the scale and sadism and masochism on the other end. Many porn viewers seek out BDSM online and then want to try it themselves and get partners involved.

      Though BDSM activity is widespread in the online sex world, the only random sample study conducted on it to date was in Australia in 2001-2002. That study found that 1.8 percent of people had been active in BDSM activities in the prior year, and these practices were more common among gay, lesbian, and bisexual people than among heterosexuals (Richters et al., 2008). Given the stigma associated with the subject, there was probably some underreporting in the study. Nonetheless, the number of people who participate in BDSM activities regularly appears to be very low.

      Porn is likely making BDSM more acceptable, but do we really want general cultural acceptance of sex that mixes the enactment of power disparities, gender roles (men are usually in the dominant position and women are usually, but not always, in a submissive position), and role-playing or real aggression and violence, even if it is consensual? (In online depictions, BDSM is not always consensual—see trafficking

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