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    Becoming Community: Meeting in the Intersection of Truth and Love
    Becoming Community: Meeting in the Intersection of Truth and Love
    Becoming Community: Meeting in the Intersection of Truth and Love
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    Becoming Community: Meeting in the Intersection of Truth and Love

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    How we minister matters--especially to those who have already been hurt by the church. Instead of ministering out of God's love and compassion, the church has often ministered to the Queer community out of a deep-rooted fear. Why do we administer hatred instead of allowing the balm of the Holy Spirit's tender care to define our actions?

    The integrity of the gospel message has been hurt by the way many of us have wielded the power we have been given. Becoming Community is a call for us to renew our Christian commitment to social responsibility and justice as a primary focus of the church. We must challenge the practices and visions which we hold most important in our communities. Are our ministries truly inclusive to all who would seek to find solace at the feet of Christ?

    Regardless of whether a person might adopt a philosophy of affirmation or denial of queer practices as God-honoring, one trait must remain in our response: inclusion. Without intentionally inclusive language, care, and practice, can the church live up to the higher calling that we have been given? Is it possible for every individual to be genuinely included in our communities?
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWipf and Stock
    Release dateOct 15, 2021
    ISBN9781666716399
    Becoming Community: Meeting in the Intersection of Truth and Love
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    Olivia A. Phillips

    Olivia A. Phillips has served in a variety of cross-cultural ministries and co-planted a church in Toronto with her husband, David. During these years of ministry, Olivia began to identify barriers which make the gospel less accessible due to culture, language, or lifestyle. Her goal in ministry is to empower all of God’s children to thrive in transformed lives and communities. She and David have a two-year-old child, Tristan.

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      Becoming Community - Olivia A. Phillips

      Becoming Community

      Meeting in the Intersection of Truth and Love

      Olivia A. Phillips

      Becoming Community

      Meeting in the Intersection of Truth and Love

      Copyright © 2021 Olivia A. Phillips. All rights reserved. Except for brief quotations in critical publications or reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any manner without prior written permission from the publisher. Write: Permissions, Wipf and Stock Publishers, 199 W. 8th Ave., Suite 3, Eugene, OR 97401.

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      paperback isbn: 978-1-6667-1637-5

      hardcover isbn: 978-1-6667-1638-2

      ebook isbn: 978-1-6667-1639-9

      09/14/21

      [Scripture quotations are from] New Revised Standard Version Bible, copyright © 1989 National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

      Scripture quotations marked (NIV) are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com The NIV and New International Version are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.®

      Taken from After Modernity. . .What? by Thomas C. Oden. Copyright © 1990,1992 by Thomas C. Oden. Used by permission of Zondervan. www.zondervan.com

      While stories shared in this book are true, some names and identifying information may have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.

      Table of Contents

      Title Page

      Preface

      Abbreviations

      Introduction

      Part One: Setting the Stage for Informed Ministries

      Chapter 1: Sexual Identity and the Church

      Chapter 2: Transforming Our Vision of Responsibility

      Chapter 3: Approaching the Scriptures in Humility

      Chapter 4: Building a Biblical Community

      Part Two: Avoiding Ministries That Kill Community

      Chapter 5: Things to Avoid in Practical Church Ministry

      Chapter 6: Things to Avoid as Individuals Ministering to Our Communities

      Chapter 7: Things to Avoid in Ministering to Family and Friends

      Part Three: Ministries That Make a Difference

      Chapter 8: In the Image of Christ

      Chapter 9: Creating a Culture of Intimacy

      Chapter 10: The Importance of the Individual

      Conclusion

      Questions for Personal Reflection

      Bibliography

      I write for you.

      Preface

      I write this book for the many individuals that have been hurt by the moments when we have gotten things wrong. I write for those who have suffered when we have used Scripture as a weapon instead of as the source of our great hope and love.

      For the family who, in the Fall of 2008, were forced to move out of the area by their relentless acts of violence and hatred committed by the local Christian community towards their teenage daughter who identified as lesbian.

      For the child who, in 2009, was told by their Christian mother that they were no longer welcomed in their home because they decided to embrace a gender identity that did not match their birth sex.

      For the young woman who, on Christmas Eve 2011, was outed by her mentor and pastor—for the sake of protecting others from her queerness, and now suffers from ongoing struggles with depression.

      For the parent who worried that their child would face hate because they were struggling to understand their identity within a binary system of gender.

      For the one who moved thousands of miles away from their Christian family that had more interest in deadnaming them than showing them the love of the God they loved.

      For the ones who cried in my arms after I gave seminars on the topic of sexual and gender identity, and expressed the fear they had over trying to walk through their identity with their Church family and pastors.

      For the child who lived as a closet gay, instead of finding the support he needed within his Church and family.

      For the one who confessed to me that he had to hide his testimony of coming to know Christ as it involved coming out about his transition because his Church told him if he shared about his journey he could no longer serve or attend.

      For the ones who have felt a pang of fear when I shared my profession as a pastor because of past hurts in their lives.

      For the Gay Village in British Colombia, Canada that suffered yet another hurt on August 24th, 2020, when a pastor chose to defend the Gospel from sinners by breaking the leg of a prominent Sportscaster who challenged his perception of God’s love.

      For every individual who felt less than, because we—like slavers—have used the Gospel to justify our actions.

      I write for you.

      Abbreviations

      Introduction

      In preparing to write this book, I have often thought of my friends and family members who have experienced the hate and pain that the church has offered them. I have thought of the hurt they have experienced for which I too am responsible. I have thought of what they see when they see an image of Christ, or a picture of the church. It isn’t the love we hope for them to see. How could it be love and hope when all we have offered is more hatred, hurt, and judgement?

      This has led me to the conclusion that how we minister matters. If it didn’t, the way that the church has been perceived by our culture would not be as negative as it currently stands. Those in the culture around us have seen our choices, our actions, and our reactions—and many have chosen to become people of faith, but not people of church. Those who live on the east coast of Canada are more likely to experience a general fondness for the church than what you may experience as a reaction in Toronto, Vancouver, Ottawa, or in many of our First Nations communities. Our time of ministry in the US taught my family that this is not a unique circumstance. In some places, to say, I go to church immediately places you within a negative, radical, exclusionist group.

      How do we minister effectively in the ever-changing tides of culture? How we minister matters—especially to those who have already been hurt by the church—whether in the distant or recent past. Instead of ministering out of love and compassion, the church has been often ministering out of a deep-rooted fear. In total honesty, this fear is not that Christ will not triumph, but that the liberties found in the dominance of Christendom will disappear. This may seem like a negative event; however, we must remember that Christendom was not necessarily a positive event for the church. The integrity of the Gospel message has been hurt by the way we have wielded the power we have been given.

      What has brought us to administer hatred instead of allowing the balm of the Holy Spirit’s tender care to define our actions? We need to renew our Christian commitment to social responsibility and justice as a primary focus of the church. As such, our churches must begin to question the practices and visions which we hold most important in our community. Is our ministry truly inclusive to all who would seek to find solace at the feet of Christ?

      In terms of how the church should respond to issues of Sexual & Gender Identity, there must be a united answer given. This important step may seem impossible in many regards, as the topic is so widely debated both in and outside of the church. However, without solidarity in at least treatment of those who identify themselves as a member of the Queer community the church will be ineffective.

      As you begin this book, I want to warn you that I am not here to tell you what you need to believe about sexual or gender identity. I am not writing this book to promote either a liberal position or a conservative one on the matter of identity and sin. If you are looking for a book to help you justify a particular position, please look elsewhere.

      What I promise to offer you in this book is a place to consider how to love others as an ally—even if you do not agree on matters of sexual and gender identity. My intent is to create a space in which we can have real discussions about what God’s kingdom and community look like. Depending on your position on matters of identity, you may translate my recommendations differently than other readers, and that’s okay. The goal is to become a community with one another.

      There are three main positions that must be considered for a Christian to take in response to non-binary practices. These perspectives of the church on Queer sexual activity are: Celibacy; Marital, Covenant or Equal-Partnership; and Casual Intimacy. Celibacy promotes complete restriction of Queer individuals from sexual relationships. Martial, Covenant and Equal-partnership would describe Queer relationships as an acceptable lifestyle for Christians provided the partners are equal-status, consenting adults and the relationship is one of a monogamous, covenant and lasting kind.¹ Casual relationships would include any member of society provided it involves adults . . . not simply within covenant relationships.²

      Regardless of whether a person might adopt a philosophy of full acceptance, or full denial of Queer practices as God-honouring, one trait must remain in their response: inclusion. Without inclusive language and practice, the church does not live up to the higher calling that it has been given. Every individual has the right to be included in our communities.

      Our differences in tradition and the interpretation of Scripture as denominations does not mean that one position is innately more holy or God-honouring than others. A note must here be taken from Feminist theology, there must be a theological movement of various strands which are united in a determination to secure change for the better in terms of social justice.³ In this fallen world, it is our collective Christian responsibility to

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