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    Why Bad Things Happen to Good People and What Can Be Done About It: A Christian Perspective
    Why Bad Things Happen to Good People and What Can Be Done About It: A Christian Perspective
    Why Bad Things Happen to Good People and What Can Be Done About It: A Christian Perspective
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    Why Bad Things Happen to Good People and What Can Be Done About It: A Christian Perspective

    By Ken Yabuki M.Div. MFT

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    Life is full of challenges. Some of the challenges we face in life are so painful that we invariably ask, Why is this happening to me? The Bible promises a day in the future when there will be no more pain and no more sorrow when the Lord establishes a new heaven and a new earth (Revelation 21:1-4). But until then, bad things will continue to happen. But we are not helpless. The Bible provides answers to suffering that will help us deal with the painful challenges we face. By following Biblical prescriptions we can grow spiritually and emotionally. Lifes difficulties will no longer be viewed as evils, but as challenges to be overcome with victory; lifes adversities can be made to work for us rather than against us.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWestBow Press
    Release dateApr 24, 2015
    ISBN9781490876948
    Why Bad Things Happen to Good People and What Can Be Done About It: A Christian Perspective
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    Ken Yabuki M.Div. MFT

    Ken Yabuki, a former pastor, is a counselor with Asian American Christian Counseling Service (AACCS). A graduate of Waseda University, Japan, he received his M.Div. degree from Fuller Theological Seminary and an MA in Psychology from California State University, Los Angeles. He has been active in the field of mental health counseling for over forty years. He has also conducted listening workshops for Christian groups in Japan and the United States. For further information, Ken may be reached by e-mail at [email protected].

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      Why Bad Things Happen to Good People and What Can Be Done About It - Ken Yabuki M.Div. MFT

      What Others Are Saying About This Book

      Ken Yabuki engages the subject of human suffering in a way that is both lively and elegant. Every chapter is highly useful and insightful. He argues that suffering and adversity can actually strengthen one’s Christian faith. He offers a practical and realistic approach to managing the dark times Christians go through.

      Anthony So, Ph.D., D.Min.

      Associate Professor of Practical Theology

      Logos Evangelical Seminary

      "Mr. Yabuki has conducted listening seminars at our annual conference in Japan for three years in a row. He has also had personal interactions with those struggling with emotional pains and many people, including myself, have been comforted. I have found this book very relevant for Japanese Christians because: 1) It is written by a ‘wounded healer’ who identifies himself with those who are going through suffering; 2) It deals with the problem of suffering from a Biblical perspective with a focus on the grace of God; and 3) It is a book that summarizes what the author has been practicing for over 50 years. I would like this book translated into Japanese. The Lord will bless many Japanese through this book."

      Rev. Kenichi Nakagawa

      President

      Harvest Time Ministries, Japan

      Ken Yabuki addresses ultimate issues of life in a way that people can understand and relate to. He combines a biblically based pastoral perspective with his experiences as a therapist to help those going through pain and suffering. He not only presents rational arguments but also supports them with practical insights. This makes this book unique and helpful. As a hospital chaplain, I would recommend this book to my patients.

      Davy Lin, M.Div., MFT

      Hospital Chaplain, Los Angeles, CA

      "Ken Yabuki offers a thoughtful and biblical perspective on the problem of pain and the hope found in Christ. What may surprise us, though it shouldn’t, is that the power of Christ powerfully flows through us not primarily through our pontifications or pronouncements – however true these may be. Christ’s love and truth overflows from Christians as they offer the gift of listening. I have personally experienced this ministry from him along with hundreds of others who have benefited through his ministry in the US and Japan. I trust the readers will benefit from his years of experience compiled in this succinct and yet thorough work."

      Rev. Tim Yee

      Senior Pastor

      Union Church of Los Angeles

      Pastor Ken Yabuki brings his pastoral and counseling experiences together in a book to help believers understand and respond to the eternal questions about human suffering and the resulting emotional and spiritual challenges. Using the truth of Scripture and the tool of psychological counseling, he provides practical applications of what he has learned from his own research for truth via his experiences in the church and his years of working with clients as a therapist. He presents a well-researched, accessible book effectively communicating the pragmatic value of embracing God’s grace. As a bilingual and bicultural individual, he provides examples and illustrations which will resonate with a variety of readers. A valuable resource for anyone of faith, personally struggling or assisting others with the difficult questions which arise from our human condition.

      Alan Oda, Ph.D.

      Professor of Psychology, Azusa Pacific University

      Chairman, Board of Directors

      Asian American Christian Counseling Service

      Why Bad Things Happen To Good People And What Can Be Done about It

      A Christian Perspective

      KEN YABUKI, M.DIV., MFT

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      Copyright © 2015 Ken Yabuki, M.Div., MFT.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

      Unless otherwise noted, all scripture verses quoted in part or whole are from the 1990 New International Version (NIV) of the Bible, published by Zondervan. Verses designated as NKJV are quoted from The New King James Version, published by Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1985. One hundred of the self-rating statements used by Dr. Raymond Cramer in his book The Psychology of Jesus and Mental Health are reproduced by permission of Zondervan.

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      ISBN: 978-1-4908-7695-5 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4908-7696-2 (hc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4908-7694-8 (e)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2015905999

      WestBow Press rev. date: 4/24/2015

      Dedication

      This book is dedicated to my wife Georgia who has been the love of my life for 45 years and to my son Preston and his family, Kathy, Nicholas and Jacob who bring so much joy and delight into my life.

      Contents

      Introduction

      Chapter One:  Different Perspectives On Why Bad Things Happen To Good People

      Non-Christian Perspectives

      Christian Perspectives

      Chapter Two:  Dealing With The Pain Of Suffering – A Christian Approach

      Being Strengthened by the Word of God

      Crying Out to God in Prayer When in Distress

      Learning to Commune with God in Silence

      The Lord is Only a Prayer Away

      Christian Fellowship and the Ministry of Listening

      Chapter Three:  Growing Through Emotional Pain

      Continued Quest for the Why of Life

      When Prayers are Not Answered

      Worry and Anxiety

      Discouragement and Depression

      Frustration, Anger and Resentment

      Relationship Difficulties

      Challenges in Marriage

      Challenges in Parenting

      The Problem of Aging

      Chapter Four:  Continuing To Grow Through Emotional And Spiritual Challenges

      Struggling with Doubt

      The Power of Surrender

      Living One Day at a Time

      A Mark of Spiritual Maturity

      Benefits of Suffering

      The Power of Humility

      Agape Therapy: A Christian Way of Being in this Broken World

      Chapter Five:  Summing Up

      Summary and Conclusion

      Measuring Your Own Progress

      Epilogue:  When All Else Fails

      Appendix:  Spiritual/Emotional Difficulty Inventory

      Recommended Readings

      About the Author

      Introduction

      We live in a world with no scarcity of bad news and many people live with a sense of subliminal foreboding. All of us are exposed to the possibility of something bad happening to us and we may fear it is not a matter of if but when. Deep down we want to believe that if we do our best to be good people, we should be spared of anything tragic happening to us. However, we all know that the reality is not that simple. We know that bad things do happen to good people and that they can happen to us as well. Throughout history people have asked the question, Why do bad things happen to good people? Every day in our lives when faced with a difficult personal crisis many of us ask, Why me?

      Many thoughtful persons have proposed various answers. Philosophers, theologians, religious teachers and others have addressed this issue for centuries and many of their answers are very helpful but the case is not yet closed. People continue to ask the question wanting to know the answer. Despite the warning of King Solomon against writing of many books (Ecclesiastes 12: 12b) I have decided to try my hand in writing this book to suggest some answers that might help at least some people who are struggling.

      I am approaching the topic as a Christian who struggled with this issue for over 50 years. I have grappled with it in my own life and discussed it with the people I have tried to help as a counselor. Much of what I have to say may not be anything new since it is based on Biblical teachings which are familiar to all of us. If there is anything new, it would be that the answer is not to be found by attempting to discover some new and brilliant ideas to dispel the conundrum once and for all. Rather the answer is to be found as we go through our life’s journey with the Lord as our Shepherd in the company of a few trusted friends with whom we can share the pain and joy of life. It is a growth process that occurs as we apply the word of God, learn to deeply commune with the Lord and interact with a few friends who can become our listening partners.

      I would like to acknowledge my indebtedness to all the people by whom I have been impacted, including numerous Christian writers, teachers, pastors, friends, colleagues and many of the people I have had the privilege of counseling. I learn so much from my counselees because very often I see myself reflected in them.

      Chapter One

      Different Perspectives On Why Bad Things Happen To Good People

      Throughout human history man has grappled with the question of why bad things happen to good people and religious and cultural traditions have come up with various ideas and perspectives. I have placed them in two broad categories, Christian and non-Christian. This is not meant to be a divisive statement. It is done in order to point out the significant difference between the non-Christian and the Christian approaches. The former primarily relies on man’s self-efforts to deal with the problem of human suffering whereas the latter heavily enlists help from God. It should be noted that even Christians are frequently influenced by non-Christian ideas in some ways without being aware of it.

      Non-Christian Perspectives

      Karma is an old Hindu concept based on the idea that we come back to live on earth repeatedly and when bad things happen to us, we are paying for the evil deeds we committed in former lives. As we pay for our misdeeds committed in former lives with our suffering in the present life, we will eventually be freed of all our debts.

      Buddhism teaches that suffering is caused by human desires and cravings. By learning to give up cravings we can reduce suffering. Also by not dwelling on the past or focusing on the future we can be spared of unnecessary pain.

      Natural religions are based on a belief in a variety of deities and teach that bad things happen when the deities are displeased with people. In order to make the misfortunes go away or prevent them from happening, people must please the deities by practicing certain rituals or appease the evil spirits by making prescribed sacrifices.

      Belief in bad luck is difficult to be rid of. It is easy for us to fall for a superstitious belief that certain things bring misfortunes. In America people feel uncomfortable about the number thirteen. Some hotels do not have the thirteenth floor. Some people may refuse to plan anything on a Friday which falls on the thirteenth day of the month. In Japan some hospitals have no fourth floors because the number four is pronounced shi which is also how the word death is pronounced in Japanese. Many ethnic and cultural traditions have similar beliefs. People believe that by avoiding those unlucky entities they can avoid bringing misfortunes on themselves.

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