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    What Do You Say to Someone in an Elevator?
    What Do You Say to Someone in an Elevator?
    What Do You Say to Someone in an Elevator?
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    What Do You Say to Someone in an Elevator?

    By Angus MacIntyre

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    What do you say to someone in an elevator?
    This book could have been titled: Uncomfortable, Embarrassing Moments, or Awkward Occasions, or A Guide for the Unbelievable Shy, or You Can Choose To Be Painfully Politically Correct and Shallow In All Social Situations. It is not just about what to say to someone in an elevator. Rather it is about all of those awkward occasions in which we find ourselves at a loss for words. This is particularly difficult when we are in a time bind with only a few minutes, or in some cases a few seconds, to say something or do something to relieve the tension or bring humor to an otherwise awkward situation.
    Wakes, funerals, lineups, parking lots, public transits, taverns, hospitals, waiting rooms, airports, the homeless, the handicapped, professors, clerks, civil servants that arent so civil, and the like all provide us with the opportunity to reach out and touch somebody in a human, caring way.
    It is my wish that by the end of this book all those who chose to read it will gain some insight into why these events are so difficult. We can also ask ourselves what we can do to bring some humor to these clumsy moments so as to make them more tolerable, and maybe even, more enjoyable to ourselves and others. We might even arrive at the day when we would not simply be ready to respond to these ungraceful moments but to actually anticipate and look forward to them. I wish!
    I have work worked and studied through the USA and Canada for over forty years and most of the stories told here are from my personal experience in awkward or embarrassing situations in too many communities to mention. This book is important because it deals with lost opportunities in life when we have the opportunity to reach out and touch others in situations that are often uncomfortable or awkward for most people.
    Judging from those who have read a copy it seems that everyone can relate to those situations. The book will have wide mass appeal to teenagers and seniors and all those people in-between.


    What Do You Say To Someone In An ElevatorK FAQ
    Why did you write the book?
    The reason words are so important is because of the difference we can make in the lives of others with just a few well chosen words. This would seem especially true in those awkward moments in life when we only have a few seconds or minutes to say or do something that can touch another human being deeply.
    What is the focus or theme of the book?
    Awkward occasions that make us uncomfortable are a common, almost daily occurrence. They happen in line-ups at the supermarket, in hospital waiting rooms, at the bank, in elevators, at airports lounge or waiting areas, in airplanes, and in dozens of other situations. Why are they so awkward and is there anything we can do to prepare for these occasions to make them more tolerable? What do you say to someone in an elevator tackles this common dilemma that every human being has faced many times in their life.
    Why is it important for people to read this book?
    People who read this book will be encouraged to think outside the box about their own behaviour and how they can influence others in difficult or awkward situations. They will also be encourage to prepare for these situations in order to take better advantage of them.
    What makes this book different from others on humour?
    This book does not attempt to create situations in order to be funny. It simply takes advantage of those situations that occur several times every day when, if we were to think about it, we could laugh at ourselves or others in a kind and gentle way.



    Words that describe the book?
    X Humourous
    X Dealing with awkward moments or occasions
    X Preparing for uncomfortable moments
    X How to handle embarrassing moments
    X A guide for shy people

    Was this the original title you had in mind?
    No. My first title was What to Say to Someone in an Elevator. However, the more I thought about this the more I real
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherXlibris US
    Release dateOct 10, 2013
    ISBN9781493109814
    What Do You Say to Someone in an Elevator?

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      What Do You Say to Someone in an Elevator? - Angus MacIntyre

      Copyright © 2013 by Angus MacIntyre.

      ISBN:       Softcover       978-1-4931-0980-7

                       Ebook             978-1-4931-0981-4

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the copyright owner.

      Rev. Date: 10/08/2013

      To order additional copies of this book, contact:

      Xlibris Corporation

      1-888-795-4274

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      CONTENTS

      CHAPTER ONE—What Do You Say To Someone In An Elevator?

      CHAPTER TWO—Examples of Other Situations

      CHAPTER THREE—What Do You Say to Street People or

      the Homeless?

      CHAPTER FOUR—What Not to Say and When Not to Say It

      CHAPTER FIVE—What Do You Say to Someone in a Line-up?

      CHAPTER SIX—What Do You Say to Someone in a

      Waiting Room?

      CHAPTER SEVEN—What Do You Say to Someone at a

      Wake or Funeral?

      CHAPTER EIGHT—What Do You Say to Someone When

      Using Public Transit?

      CHAPTER NINE—What to Say to Someone in a

      Public Washroom

      CHAPTER TEN—What Do You Say to Someone When

      Surrounded by Hundreds or Thousands?

      CHAPTER ELEVEN—Can We Create Situations for Meaningful

      Exchanges If We Only Have a Brief Moment for Interaction?

      CHAPTER TWELVE—Go For It and Enjoy!

      About the Author

      Also By The Same Author

      Jobs Are Not The Answer . . . But then What Is?

      A book about how to think outside the box using your gut feelings on social, economic, and world issues.

      DEDICATION

      This book is dedicated to three people who have had a major influence on my life.

      To my older brother Lorne who has been a major inspiration for me at every stage of my growth and development. Always a friend and supporter, Lorne has taught me so much about values and ethics, being of service to others, being clear on whom you are and living life according to that knowledge.

      Mary M. Gillis is the best boss anyone could ever have, a mentor, a colleague, a friend, a challenger, a criticue, and a supporter. Mary, although she would not wish to do so, has to share the credit for much of what groups, organizations, and communities have been able to accomplish as a result of my working with them. But she must also, in the eyes of our critics, share some of the blame. I appreciate Mary’s feedback on early drafts of this book.

      The book is also dedicated to the memory of Creighton Brown, the former Regional Director for the Company of Young Canadians (CYC) in Atlantic Canada.

      Creighton was my boss for a couple of years in the CYC and one of the best friends I ever had. He was an excellent training-course designer and facilitator for many years with the federal government in the areas of human relations, community development and conflict resolution. Creighton had the uncanny ability to draw out the best in everyone.

      He had a wonderful sense of humor and always looked for the funny side of any situation. It was Christmas time when the federal government called the Regional Directors to Ottawa and announced the demise of the CYC. Because of a severe winter storm Creighton had to take the train back to Nova Scotia. In conversation with a young couple on the train, Creighton shared the story of the annihilation of the CYC which he had just experienced. In order to lighten the situation he shared the fact that his other profession was no longer a viable option for him.

      Oh, what’s your other profession? I’m an Anglican priest. So what’s wrong with that? We’re both practicing Anglicans. Creighton took a good stiff drink and changed the subject.

      Creighton saw his role as questioning and challenging you to think about what you are doing. Once you had considered all the alternatives and made your mind up, he would support you in whatever you had decided to do. A person of high integrity and a great friend to all who knew him, he dedicated his life to making the world a better place for everyone, especially the underdog.

      You can read several of his poems—Late Nights and Cheap Wine—on my web site at: www.klog.ca.

      EPIGRAPH

      Over 70% of patient error in hospitals could be avoided if communication between nurses could be improved at the change of a shift.

      From a recent interview with a nurse on the CBC radio.

      The void created by the failure to communicate is soon filled with poison, drivel, and misrepresentation.

      From

      C. Northcote Parkinson

      The average doctor lets you speak for 18 seconds before interrupting you when he/she has asked you why you are there.

      Dr. Brian Goldman—on CBC radio program

      White Coat—Black Art—Dec. 2009.

      FOREWORD

      Have you ever found yourself in an awkward situation, which was not of your making and yet you felt uncomfortable? Why were you uncomfortable if you were not responsible for creating the disconcerting situation in the first place? Maybe more importantly, what, if anything, could you have done to put yourself, and maybe others, at ease?

      This book is about such situations and what you might consider doing about them. When the title of this book was mentioned to people the response has been universal: What a great idea for a book. It seems that most people can identify with those awkward moments we all experience in life, whether they are in an elevator or in other circumstances we encounter.

      Simply asking people what they would say to someone in an elevator elicits a variety of responses, but seldom silence. It seems that many people can relate to the awkwardness, whatever the particular circumstances. When the question is posed, the first thing many people do is smile. People are also quick to recognize that the principle of what you might say to someone in an elevator might apply to many other disconcerting circumstances in life.

      My goal is to share and explore some of these awkward situations with you. If you find the anecdotes interesting enough to try a new behaviour the next time you find yourself in one of these discomforting situations that will be a real bonus. Read on and I hope you enjoy!

      PREFACE

      Words are important. Words are terribly important. Words are terribly, terribly important. We talk or write to communicate. It is an essential prerequisite in our society. Without communication we

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