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    My Mother, My Friend, My Child: Life Before and After Alzheimer's
    My Mother, My Friend, My Child: Life Before and After Alzheimer's
    My Mother, My Friend, My Child: Life Before and After Alzheimer's
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    My Mother, My Friend, My Child: Life Before and After Alzheimer's

    By Carmie Renda

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    As many as five million Americans have been diagnosed and are living with Alzheimer’s. This number will triple in fifteen years. This disease is real and has no boundaries.

    Before my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, I knew little about the disease. I now have a better understanding of what she felt and how she coped in the beginning.

    In this book I have tried to show how my mother went from being my mother to my best friend to my child. To capture Mom’s entire life story, I’ve mixed in my journal, Home Alone with Mom -- from ten days we spent together in 2010 -- with stories from her life in the Italian-American community on the south side of Des Moines, Iowa.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherLulu.com
    Release dateMay 16, 2014
    ISBN9781312196674
    My Mother, My Friend, My Child: Life Before and After Alzheimer's

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      My Mother, My Friend, My Child - Carmie Renda

      My Mother, My Friend, My Child: Life Before and After Alzheimer's

      My Mother, My Friend, My Child: Life Before and After Alzheimer’s

      By Carmie Renda

      Copyright © 2014 by Carmie Renda

      All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review or scholarly journal.

      First Printing: 2014

      Acknowledgements

      Thanks to all my friends and family. Without your encouragement, this book would not have happened. Special thanks to Sandy Deyoe and Dr. Joan Roberts for help in editing my writing.

      Your Mother is always with you

      She’s the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street.

      She’s the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick, and perfume she wore.

      She’s the cool hand on your brow when you’re not feeling well.

      She’s your breath in the air on a cold winter’s day, the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of the rainbow.

      She is Christmas morning.

      Your Mother lives inside your laughter and she is crystallized in every teardrop.

      A Mother shows every emotion… happiness, sadness, fear, jealousy, anger, helplessness, excitement, joy, sorrow … and all the while, hoping and praying that you will only know the good feelings in life.

      She is the place you came from, your first home, and she’s the map you follow with every step you take.

      She’s your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy, but nothing on earth can separate you…

      NOT TIME… NOT SPACE… NOT EVEN DEATH…

      Author Unknown

      Preface

      This book originated in the winter of 2010 when I was home alone with my beautiful mother, Mary Rose Renda, who has Alzheimer’s disease. After the first day of being with my mother, I decided to keep a journal.

      Let me just say up front that there is nothing funny about Alzheimer’s disease. The journal I kept is written in humor, but in no way do I feel the disease is funny.  

      As I was writing about the first day, I realized that my friends might enjoy reading about my days of adventure. I emailed some of them. They loved it and encouraged me to keep writing and sending the daily updates. Others found it so entertaining that they forwarded my journal to their friends.  Soon, I had people asking me to be added to my daily updates of what I called Home Alone with Mom. Some encouraged me to write this book.

      As many as five million Americans have been diagnosed and are living with Alzheimer’s. This number will triple in fifteen years. This disease is real and has no boundaries. I hope and pray every day there will be a cure or preventative drug for this disease soon.

      There has been new testing but nothing has been found to help Alzheimer's patients.  I recently saw a segment on CNN about Dementia Village, a very large facility in the Netherlands. It is a little city within a city and is the only one of its kind in the world. Dementia Village has two staff members to every patient.  They can walk and interact much like we do in our own cities. If you would like to view this, go to www.cnn.com and search for dementia village.

      Before our mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, we knew little about the disease. We now have a better understanding of what she felt and how she coped in the beginning. Watching the progression of this disease is dreadful.

      I consider us to be one of the lucky families. My mother cannot remember my name or if I am her child. However, my mom has been very blessed. For the most part, she does not display anger and agitation. Some families have to deal with cursing, hitting and terrible rages. On most days, my mother is very pleasant and happy. Mom never smoked or drank; she ate healthy and exercised. Mom worked into her mid-seventies. I remember my mother at my age. She worked and took care of everyone much like I do every day. No one can really know what it is like to care for a loved one with this disease unless they have been through the daily care taking.

      I often wonder if I will be struck by this horrible disease. I look for signs of the disease in myself daily. If I forget something or do something a little strange, I think this must be the start of the road to nowhere. Knowing how active and healthy my mother was, the idea of me getting Alzheimer’s disease is too much to even think about. My mother's mother, Nana Pigneri also suffered with this disease. From what I have read and learned about the disease, there is a possibility that it is genetic.

      Many things have impacted my life of 66 years. Being my mother's child has been a true learning experience. My mother was and is a great influence on me. From birth, my mother taught me many things. She is still teaching me every day.

      My mother having Alzheimer’s disease has taught me what unconditional love truly means. I can only compare this love to the love you have for a tiny baby--a baby who depends on you for everything. When I look into my mom's eyes, I wonder what she is thinking and if she feels safe, much like you look into a tiny baby’s eyes.  Mom and I have gone full circle. When I was tiny,

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