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    Finding Love (This Time for Real)
    Finding Love (This Time for Real)
    Finding Love (This Time for Real)
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    Finding Love (This Time for Real)

    By Marta Hari

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    Avoid the errors that are stopping you finding love with this practical manual.

    When we want to have a relationship, the understanding between men and women seems simply impossible. It is not surprising, since we speak very different languages. "Finding Love (This Time For Real)" addresses this problem in clear, relaxed language that will make you feel like you're chatting with a friend. However, just as you would with your best friend, Marta Hari will say things straight to your face. This book also addresses the most common mistakes that women make when relating to a man who we are attracted to.

    Love, according to Marta Hari, begins with the game of seduction. A game which, like everything, has its rules and you have to learn them if you want to win. It is a strategy game, in which you have to start by knowing that you are the queen, a key piece, with key movements.

    "Finding love (this time for real)" is not a book for just any woman. It appeals to brave women, who have already reached their limit of love failures and are ready to take charge of their lives.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherEdiciones Fortuna
    Release dateJun 26, 2020
    ISBN9781071553442
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      Finding Love (This Time for Real) - Marta Hari

      Let's call things by their name

      The first thing I would like to say is that I want this book to be practical, easy to read, understand and study. Because I imagine you will want to study it until you have assimilated everything that I´m going to tell you. To achieve this, I am going to use language as clear as possible and this includes calling things by their names. I want to talk to you like I talk to my friends and that when you read this you hear the voice of one of your friends. Therefore, if among friends you would say that such and such a man is a pig or a bastard, then I will use those same words here. Goodbye to the politically correct, that does not take us where we want to go. So, directly to the point and with plain words. With a certain humour in some parts because there is no need to be dull or academic about these things.

      Regarding the content, I just want to ask you one thing, to put yourself in my hands, to surrender to the process. At least while you are reading this book. If at the end you decide that there are more things that you do not agree with than what you like, well, that is your choice and you have every right to leave the book on the shelf or do with it what best suits you. But do finish it, don't leave it halfway. It will not be too difficult if you really are determined to find love and now is the right time. Why am I asking you to do this? Because in the following pages you will find a series of statements and concepts that will most likely ring different bells in your head. The same thing happened to me.

      About fifteen years ago a book came into my hands that talked about some of the things that I am going to tell you now. I admit that when I read it, I kept judging phrase by phrase practically everything the author said. My critical spirit (of which I am certainly proud) accompanied me word for word, just as I had been taught at university. I am not asking you to accept all my words as valid. All I ask is that you read the book to the end and that only once you have done this you decide if you want to approach the new man that you find with these concepts or not.

      I don't know if your story is similar to mine. As I will tell you in the following chapters, my academic training, my character, my concepts about the world and about gender equality ended up playing against me many times when it came to men. I want to clarify that I am not going to defend at any time neither sexism, nor inequality, nor any of the things that the women who walked the road before us fought against. Simply, and I´m summarizing, I am going to tell you that I have come to the conclusion that men and women are different on a biological level and that largely determines our functioning when it comes to relating to the opposite sex. It is neither good nor bad, you will see this phrase repeated throughout the book many times because I honestly think it is like this: neither good nor bad. Just as it is neither good nor bad that someone has light or dark eyes, that they are taller, shorter, thinner, that they have black or blonde hair. That our way of perceiving reality and relating to it is different from that of men does not deserve, in my opinion, a value judgment. With that said, I don't want to delay the start of the book anymore. Let's start now with everything I want to tell you. Thank you very much for joining me throughout these pages.

      Who am I to tell you how to lead your love life?

      Who is this woman to tell me what I should do with my love life? Who is she to give me advice? You are surely wondering this, so I would like to introduce myself very briefly. I am not a psychologist, coach, or expert in human relationships. Nothing of the sort. I am not engaged in any branch related to human behaviour. Everything that appears in this book is a compendium of my own thoughts, conclusions and, of course, a good number of books, courses, and workshops that I devoured in the heat of despair during one summer. A hot summer in which I reached my limit. As is often the case, before a major change occurs, a crisis must occur.

      Well I was having mine. Almost 50 years old and not only alone, but permanently badly accompanied. One after another, without stopping. I no longer knew if it was better not to have a partner or continue in my never-ending casting of bastards. Yes, I wondered if karma had taken against me. If all men were bad (an idea that I always rejected when observing certain wonderful men who are close to me and who, alas, are in a relationship). I went through life wondering if I was unlucky or if the problem was me, if I had some twisted psychological mechanism that led me to choose the worst men.

      Conclusion? The problem was mine. I can confirm this. But not because of choosing the worst, but because of my profound ignorance regarding the opposite sex. It did not matter how many partners I had had, how different some men could be from others, men of different nationalities, characters, and professions. In the end, despite all the experience, I knew nothing. That was my downfall.

      I will tell you that I am a woman who would be considered liberated. My generation had a wonderful time. Everything that the women of the past had won regarding female liberation, our rights and equality, was instilled in us by fire. They taught us to be free, independent, sure of ourselves. We were encouraged to study, to not settle, to have a university degree and to choose how to live. So, I studied, something that I feel blessed for and that I would not change for anything in the world. I studied everything I wanted. I went to university and fell so much in love with that space and what it offered me that I have two degrees and a doctorate. No one told me what to study, no one got in my way, not only because I was lucky enough to live surrounded by more or less respectful people (both men and women) but also because those who knew me knew that it would be useless to oppose me or try to influence my decisions.

      And yes, I was born a warrior. Since I was two years or so I have always been strong. It is not that I consider myself as such; It is precisely the reactions of those around me from my earliest years that made me see very soon that I was a woman not to be messed with, a woman with such strength that you cannot contradict me without getting hurt. I was proud of it then and I still feel proud of it now. If you ask yourself why I am telling you this, it is because everything that defines my character, which I certainly have not abandoned, became my black hole, the one that devoured me over and over again.

      While I did not understand the nuances that I will reveal to you in this book, what I liked most about myself was what made me most unhappy. Life can be so ironic many times, that our best virtue, can become our worst enemy. That is why I wanted to start this book by telling you a little about myself and my personality, about what defined my life.

      Do I have a partner now? Yes, I say it with pride and with great happiness. By my side I have a wonderful, extraordinary man and if you could see the smile I have while I tell you this, that would surely be enough for you to assess my level of happiness. I am deeply in love. I have a man who, above all things, has made me feel even more proud of myself, because I have chosen him, because he is exactly what I had always dreamed of. But let's rewind, he's not exactly what I always dreamed, no. It's more like I dreamed him from the moment everything changed inside my head. That key moment when I finally realized that not all men are bastards, that fate was not against me, that there were no gods on Olympus constantly mocking me. It was when I realized that all my failures on a sentimental level were solely due to myself. Yes, because the first point and

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