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    Tame Your Emotions
    Tame Your Emotions
    Tame Your Emotions
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    Tame Your Emotions

    By Zoe McKey

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    Do insecurities and a lack of self-confidencekeep you down? Do you feel inferior and worthless compared to others? 



    Good news: you CAN turn the sinking ship of negative feelings around. Emotional insecurities can be changed and improved by understanding the nature of the emotions and learning the pathways to handle them. Everything you now perceive to be impossible is achievable. You just have to learn how to overcome your limiting beliefs. 

    Chase away your fears and smash your obstacles with the power of emotional stability. 

    Tame Your Emotions is a collection of the most common and painful emotional insecurities and their antidotes. Even the most successful people have fears and self-sabotaging habits. But they also know how to use them to their advantage and keep their fears on a short leash. This is exactly what my book will teach you – using the tactics of experts and research-proven methods. 
     

    Emotions can't be eradicated. But they can be controlled.


    * How to control your thoughts to take remarks less personally.
    * How to handle disadvantage or highly adverse conditions. 
    * How to use your personal strengths to your advantage.
    * Develop the ability to connect with others – despite social anxiety. 
     

    Fear tells you that you're on the path of improvement.


    *Heal your emotional insecurities with three simple, 5-minute exercises.
    *Control hypersensitivity.
    *Identify and ditch the worst forms of emotional insecurities: arrogance, aggression, and overconfidence.
    *Learn to help your partner with his or her insecurities.

    Understanding and learning to control our emotions open up the gates of a happy and balanced life. Emotional stability gives you a peace of mind. You rarely lose your temper and don't hurt yourself or those around you so often. You will understand your emotions better thus you'll know the right response to them – rational responses not impulsive ones. 
     

    Become confident, composed, and emotionally secure today with the help of Tame Your Emotions!

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherZoe McKey
    Release dateJun 11, 2020
    ISBN9781393497172
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      Tame Your Emotions - Zoe McKey

      Introduction

      What are emotions?

      The word emotion comes from the Latin motere, which means to move. More precisely, if we stick the prefix e to the Latin word, it means to move away. Emotion, as a word, implies taking action. The most basic, instinctual emotions lead us to act or react to the external stimuli we experience.

      Scientists have had a hard time discovering what’s at the center of our emotions. Usually, we separate our rational mind, represented by the brain, and our emotional world, represented by the heart. There are lots of funny pictures about the struggle between these two and their fights on the Internet.

      But, we know that our brain is responsible for our emotions too. More precisely, two little almond-shaped clusters called amygdala, situated on either side of our brain. If we want to create a timeline, the hippocampus and amygdala were the two main components of our ancestors’ brains. Later, through evolution, we developed the cortex and the neocortex. The amygdala is responsible for emotional memory. In fact, the amygdala is so involved in our emotional agenda that if it gets divided from the rest of the brain, that person won’t be able to weigh the emotional value of anything.

      If we feel that we’re the victim of injustice, pain, fear, or danger, the amygdala reacts instantly, sending an alarm message to the rest of the brain. It’s like the brain’s security system, if an intruding intention gets to us, the amygdala starts howling, the danger zone’s red lights start flashing and rotating, and all our lousy brainworkers get an emergency email sent to their computer. Depending on what kind of danger we face, the brain starts taking action.

      For example, if we feel anger, we get a rush of adrenaline, the blood flows into our hands as we prepare to grab that stick and attack. Our heart beats like crazy, and in our mind, we picture steam coming from our ears like in old, clucking coffee machines. If we feel scared, the blood flows to our legs to make it easier to switch into flight mode, if necessary. Our face becomes colder, since most of the blood drained out of it to support our legs. That’s why we get that chilly feeling when we’re afraid of something. Our body releases hormones to turn our high-alert mode on and enhance our ability to make the best decisions for our safety.

      When we are in love, for example, our brain sends a message opposite of fear and anger. We feel generally relaxed, sexually satisfied, and we would rather not separate from the subject of our love ever, ever, ever.

      The aforementioned hippocampus is responsible for remembering facts and events. The amygdala remembers emotions related to these facts. For example, the hippocampus recognizes your spouse and the amygdala tells you that you love him or her.

      ON THE LAND OF THE irrational

      We often talk about emotions as being the land of the irrational. More often than not, it is a challenge to try to explain why we feel as we do. How often do we hear or think things like: But it makes no sense. You have no reason to feel like this. Where did this emotional reaction come from? We can feel weird and misunderstood at the same time because we can’t understand why we react a certain way. However, we feel offended if someone questions the legitimacy of our feelings.

      Has this happened to you? You felt okay, but then suddenly, for no apparent reason, you became tense and reacted with an emotional outburst to a seemingly innocent remark. And when somebody asked what was going on, you were unable to give a logical explanation. You just said, I don’t know, this is just how I feel.

      I bet it happens more often than you realize. You think these emotions pop up, out of the blue, without a logical explanation. And meanwhile, they are difficult to sum up as a simple you did this, so I felt that this and did that equation. There are always hidden reasons for why we react the way we do.

      This book talks about the dark side of the emotional world. Why do we have negative emotions in different situations? I’m not a negativist, but let’s face it, when we react positively, that’s a blessing, we don’t want to change that. We want to gain control of our negative, hurtful, and harsh emotions.

      There is this saying, think outside the box, but when it comes to understanding our emotions, the most important thing is to understand what is inside that box — our mind. The roots of different present reactions can be traced back years or even decades. Decades of misunderstood emotions can evolve into serious insecurities. This book will give you an easy to follow plan to learn, understand and balance your emotional confidence:

      -  What emotion do you feel?

      -  Why do you feel that emotion?

      -  How would your life benefit if you managed to understand the emotions in question?

      -  A step-by-step guide for how to learn to control or overcome emotional insecurity.

      Klaus Scherer, an excellent psychologist, states that emotions are not only feelings, they are cognitive appraisals, physical symptoms, and action tendencies. To break this down, let me give you an example. [i]

      Imagine yourself in a forest. Suddenly you hear a loud rustling in the bushes. To judge whether or not the noise represents a threat to you, you need a cognitive appraisal. You probably run some options — starting with things like wind or a fat bunny and working up to a vicious wolf or a bear — through your brain. Before deciding to activate the fight-or-flight response, you have to appraise the possibility of danger. It would be irrational to think of every possibility as scary, but also unwise to disregard every potential threat and pretend everything is fine.

      Meanwhile, you identify the possible threat. You will probably experience some physical symptoms, as well, that are connected to the turbulent feeling you have because of the unclear nature of the disturbing stimulus. You may feel a rush of cold, a chill, sweating palms, verbal or nonverbal expressions, and a rapidly beating heart. These physical reactions are all

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