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    Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties
    Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties
    Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties
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    Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties

    By Gabi Conti

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    A bitingly funny field guide to modern love from the woman who's dated them all.

    Through highly relatable anecdotes from a decade of dating, Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties dives into the joys, frustrations, and hilarity of swiping right on relationships.

    After a world-shattering breakup in her early twenties, comedian Gabi Conti logged thousands of hours on dating apps, conducting research and gathering intel on our behalf. Real and relatable, this dating guide is laugh-out-loud funny without being prescriptive or cynical.

    • Each chapter focuses on a different type of guy and offers advice on how to deal, from The Guy Who's Great on Paper to The Guy Who Texts "sup" at 2 a.m.
    • Includes charts, quizzes, and "Boy Bingo"
    • Captures the frustrations, heartache, and hilarity of Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and all other online dating apps

    For the modern, app-using woman, this hilarious dating guide profiles 20 stereotypical men, from their physical appearance and dating style to red flags, tips, and success stories.

    Filled with charts and quizzes, hysterical anecdotes, and helpful insight from therapists and dating coaches, these pages offer advice and humor in equal measure.

    • Offers sincere advice to cope with dating app horror stories
    • Great for fans of How to Date Men When You Hate Men by Blythe Roberson, Bye Felipe: Disses, Dick Pics, and Other Delights of Modern Dating by Alexandra Tweten and HEY, U UP? (For a Serious Relationship) by Emily Axford and Brian Murphy
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherChronicle Books Digital
    Release dateMay 26, 2020
    ISBN9781452179896
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    Gabi Conti

    Gabi Conti is a podcast and talk show host, writer, comedian, journalist, and dating expert. She lives in Los Angeles.

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    Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties - Gabi Conti

    PREFACE

    Names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals and the very fragile male ego.

    All ages in the book reflect when this manuscript was first written in 2019.

    Introduction

    NEW BOOK, WHO DIS?

    I’m a hopeless romantic who has always had terrible luck with dating. I’m kind of like Taylor Swift, but with less of a girl squad and more of a belly button. So, I started talking about it. At first with my girlfriends over brunch, then (per their request) with a licensed therapist. I also went on a lot of dates. Since I was single for most of my twenties, I dated about two guys a year, with many first and last dates in between.

    Then I did the math. Wow. I easily went on ten thousand hours’ worth of dates in my twenties. According to Malcolm Gladwell, that makes me an expert. A dating expert. The more I dated, the more I wrote, and eventually, I turned my experiences into a book. At the time, every pitch I sent to the female-driven blogs I contributed to gave me the very helpful feedback of, Love it! But can you make it a list?! So I did, and Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties was born.

    I soon realized there are timeless tropes, or patterns, in dating and relationships. Remember when ghosting became a thing, and everyone was like, That happened to me!? Well, there’s plenty more where that came from. Twenty in fact! Yep, there are about twenty different types of guys you will date in your twenties.

    But this book isn’t meant to be man-shaming. A lot of these types go both ways. Just because you’re dating a type of guy in the book doesn’t mean you should dump him immediately! We all have our issues. There are even tools in here to show you how to make it work.

    Your twenties can also be a state of mind. A time when anything feels uncertain or new. Maybe you are just getting out of a long-term relationship or marriage and haven’t been single since high school. I got you. Dating in your twenties can be full of obstacles, like roommates, distance, or that little voice in your head that keeps screaming, What are you doing with your life?! To quote Ally McBeal, Love is, um, well, it’s like an obstacle course and some people let the obstacles win, and then there are those who don’t.

    This book is for those who don’t let the obstacles of dating in your twenties win. You may even discover that the guy who becomes your person is one (or more) of these guys. Which is totally fine! Just because your guy fits into this or that category doesn’t mean your relationship won’t work. Each chapter of this book is meant to help you navigate your way through the zoo that is dating in your twenties. You know, that fun and flirty time when it feels like everyone else around you is pairing off Noah’s Ark style, and you’re stranded in the wild just trying to get a text back?

    Well, that basically makes you a unicorn, and unicorns are, like, really pretty. So you’re, like, really pretty! Beyond the challenge of dating in your twenties, dating at any age today can feel impossible. While social media is bringing us together, it’s also tearing us apart. There’s the white noise of rom-coms, reality dating shows, and love songs. The Bachelor convinces us that it’s normal to propose to someone you’ve known for only nine weeks. It’s not. That’s why only one out of the twenty-two Bachelor winning couples are still together. That’s a 4.5 percent success rate! Disney raised us to believe that if we’re patient and kind to animals, and fall asleep at just the right time, someday our prince will come. But when he finally does come, all you get from his magic carpet ride is a raging UTI.

    This book features short stories about my dating failures and successes. While dating can be terrible, it can also be funny (after enough time has passed). All of my dates have been given aliases to protect their privacy and to protect me from a flood of angry emails/lawsuits. I’ve given each guy a chance to approve and weigh in on his story. As a journalist, I know you have to fact-check! This book is also filled with fun graphics, charts, and quizzes, along with advice from successful couples who overcame their obstacles, dating experts, and even the guys I dated. Love is a battlefield: Use this book as a shield—or a sword, if that’s your style.

    1

    THE GUY WHO GOT AWAY

    HIGH SCHOOL CRUSH

    TOP OF YOUR AOL BUDDY LIST

    CAN YOU GET YOUR

    VIRGINITY BACK?

    TASTE:

    Watermelon Smirnoff vodka

    LOOK:

    Popped collar, puka shell necklace, and strategically spiked hair

    SOUND:

    The One Who Got Away (Acoustic) by Katy Perry

    SMELL:

    Cafeteria french fries frying

    FEEL:

    Like the luckiest girl in high school

    t ell me everything, Vincent gushed, slurping a noodle at the only Thai restaurant in Westport, Connecticut. I was 16 and had just lost my virginity to my boyfriend, Will.

    The week before, Will handed me a condom and said gently, Whenever you’re ready, you can give me this, and I’ll know. So obviously the first person I went to was my gay best friend, Vincent. We rehearsed how I would hand Will the condom. I had to be coy but also seductive.

    I blew the condom thing, I admitted.

    I bet that’s not the only thing you blew, Vincent smirked.

    I told Vincent how I walked into Will’s house (his parents were out of town), threw the condom at him, and exclaimed, I am ready. Let’s do this! with the gusto of a 52-year-old divorcée. Vincent face-palmed. Then we toasted our Thai iced teas to me finally becoming a woman. Honestly, gossiping over chicken pad thai with my best friend was my favorite part of losing my virginity.

    Will and I came from different worlds. My world was musical theater with Vincent. We lived and breathed high school theater, despite never getting any leads. We were convinced it was because we were just too fabulous! Vincent and I were outcasts in the theater department because we liked to party, but the popular kids thought we were weird because we did theater. Will always seemed to be surrounded by friends in the cafeteria no matter what time of day it was. But somehow, he was a good student. He was a senior, on the swim team, and 420 friendly.

    Despite our differences, Will and I bonded online, even though my screen name was DramaQueenGC. It began when Will, or Wlbrt86, IMed, me Sup one afternoon. So I tried out a new away message: Shower. Care to join me? ;)

    I realize now this sounds like the flirting tactics of a cougar. But my suggestive status worked. Wlbrt86 asked me out on Christmas Eve. He picked me up in his silver Nissan, and we drove to the beach. We listened to the Black Eyed Peas, the good stuff where Fergie was less featured. He looked deep into my eyes, our faces glowed from his dashboard lights, and . . . he kissed me. My heart raced.

    Soon I got to know Will, instead of Wlbrt86. He was funny and a good friend, with this mole on his cheek I found incredibly sexy because I was really into Enrique Iglesias at the time. After we had sex, things got serious. We went to his prom and were inseparable the entire summer. I really thought this relationship would last. But we broke up when he went to college. After that, he always had a girlfriend, but deep down I wondered if someday we’d end up together.

    We lost touch until I was 28 and visiting New York over the holidays. I invited him to my comedy show, because if there’s one surefire way to impress the guy you lost your virginity to, it’s with a two-drink minimum and dick jokes.

    After the show, we caught up. I don’t know if it was the Christmas spirit, the vodka sodas, or how we joked it would’ve been the twelfth anniversary of our first date, but when Will kissed me, I felt my heart race all over again, like I was in the front seat of his silver Nissan on Christmas Eve 2003.

    I wondered if maybe this time it would work. Maybe I spent all these hours dating only to end up where I began. Deep down, I kind of hoped so. Until I realized we were from different worlds now. The only thing we had in common was being in love once. If we tried to date again, it would be like forcing an old AOL CD-ROM into a MacBook Air.

    I didn’t talk to Will again until I was writing this. I knew he had a girlfriend. So I Facebook-messaged him to be less invasive. I didn’t get a response. The next morning I opened up Instagram and saw a picture of him, his girlfriend, and a shiny ring. I imagined him, ring in pocket, and my message buzzing. I guess some things are meant to stay in the past. Sometimes The Guy Who Got Away got away for a reason. And while it might be hard to accept, you just have to listen to AOL and say, Goodbye.

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