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    The Death of You: A Book for Anyone Who Might Not Live Forever
    The Death of You: A Book for Anyone Who Might Not Live Forever
    The Death of You: A Book for Anyone Who Might Not Live Forever
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    The Death of You: A Book for Anyone Who Might Not Live Forever

    By Miguel Chen and Rod Meade Sperry

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    A  yoga teacher, punk rock bassist, and Buddhist teaches from experience on how approaching death and grief with a little more compassion and a little less fear will make for a better life—and a better death, too.

    DEATH.

    Even the word itself probably makes you a little uncomfortable. Just look at it, sitting there, demanding to be acknowledged. It might even make you a lot uncomfortable.

    We spend so much time trying to deny death, going on about our lives as if we and our loved ones are immune to it. Then, one day, its truth becomes undeniable. The Death of You doesn’t flinch in looking into this vital, urgent matter. Join Miguel for a wild ride where we get real about death—and even have a few laughs at its expense.  

    If you might someday die—or if you know someone who will—this book is for you. If you’re afraid of dying, this book is for you. If you’re excited about the Great Unknown, this book is for you. In plainspoken, kind, and encouraging language, Miguel will show you how to transform your relationship with death—and in doing so, you'll get to know your life in a whole new way. Today is the perfect day to start. Don’t wait—you’re not gonna live forever.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWisdom Publications
    Release dateSep 17, 2019
    ISBN9781614295983

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      The Death of You - Miguel Chen

          1    

      You Wake Up

      Dimly for thirty years;

      Faintly for thirty years —

      Dimly and faintly for sixty years:

      At my death I pass my feces and offer them to Brahma.

      — IKKYU (1394–1481),

      written as his own death approached

      YOU WAKE UP and get ready for your day: bathroom, shower, breakfast, brush teeth, walk the dogs, and go. You’re off to work.

      You spend your day at a job which, let’s say, you don’t hate. Maybe you even like it, a little or a lot.

      You get off work and go home to your family, or your partner, or your dogs, or your plants. You have dinner, spend some time unwinding, go to bed.

      You wake up. Repeat.

      Repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat.

      Then, one day, you don’t wake up.

      Because you’re dead.

      You don’t get up to use the bathroom, or shower, or have breakfast, or walk the dog.

      You don’t go to work, and it doesn’t matter if you liked your job — not anymore. You don’t go home to your family, or your partner, or your dogs, or your plants. You don’t have dinner, or unwind, or go to bed. None of those human concerns are yours anymore.

      It doesn’t really matter how you died. Maybe you had a heart attack in your sleep. Maybe a deranged lunatic suffocated you with your own pillow. Maybe you unleashed Death-Fart 5000 in a dream and it actually killed you. The deed is done. Your life is over and nothing will change that.

      So . . . what now?

      Well, your family and friends are, probably, supremely sad. You’d like to tell them it’s okay, but you know, you’re dead. Plus: Is it okay?

      The dogs will to have to find someone else to walk them, because you won’t be walking anytime soon. Or, ever.

      Work might be wondering why you didn’t show up. So what if they are? What are they gonna do? Fire you? There’s no more work, no more play. Unless you think the act of physically decaying is play.

      Your body will start to deteriorate, your flesh rotting away from the bone. You’ll surely let out a few last ghastly farts as the wind clears from your system. Finally, after your hair and nails go, there’ll be just a horizontal scaffolding of bones. Besides that, in a sense, all that remain are the memories held by those who you affected.

      Some of those memories might be really pleasant. Some might be downright awful. Doesn’t make much of a difference now, because (have I mentioned?) you’re dead. How people want to remember you is up to them, and there’s nothing you can do to change it now. They get to wake up and live with, or deny, your memory and your impact. You pretty much just get to be dead.

      There was still so much you wanted to do! So many places you never got to see! Your children (or your dogs or your plants) will have to grow up without you. Your partner, your loved ones will have to work through their pain and find a way forward. All your plans . . . poof.

      It’s a shame, too: you tried your best in life. You honestly did. You wanted to be a good friend, maybe a good parent, tried at least a little to be an inspiration to others. You worked hard every day to make the most of your time and leave your mark on this earth. Maybe you succeeded, but how could you know that now? To someone who’s not alive, could it even matter?

      What now? = Where next?

      When you’re talking about death, What now? can also mean, Where next? Does the end of your life mark the beginning of something else? Maybe an eternity of bliss? Will you be reunited with all your deceased loved ones? Is there some white light waiting to take you to heaven, where you’ll spend eternity floating on a cloud and eating from an endless taco buffet?

      Or maybe you’re off to hell. Have you considered the possibility that you’ve pretty much been an asshole and you’re going to burn for it? It’s worth considering! You might be headed to an eternity of excruciating pain and suffering, payback for all your sins. Bummer.

      Maybe you’ll end up in line, waiting to be reborn as a puppy, a snake, a dust mite, or another human. If rebirth or reincarnation is next, will you remember this most recent life? Will your mind, and your slate, be wiped clean?

      What if what’s next is nothing? Maybe you don’t even know you’re dead, because when your body died everything about you ceased to exist. You’re rotting in some grave with no idea what’s going on. Almost seems like a relief!

      But then, what if the exact opposite has happened, and rather than being reduced to nothing, you’ve expanded into universe itself, the only thing that’s actually died is the illusion of an individual self — and now you’ve finally come home to your true, ultimate nature. Maybe consciousness belongs to the universe itself and can see in all directions, understand everything — and your life was ultimately a sort of game you played with yourself. That sounds pretty good too.

      Or something else entirely?

      So what’s it gonna be?

      There is, of course, not a single person on this planet who can tell us for sure what will happen when we die — though people do have views, some of them quite strong. By the time anyone finds out for sure, it’s, well, a little too late to do much with the information. And so the rest of us are left to wonder and, if we’re feeling brave, to explore.

      Helping you be brave and explore is what this book aims to do. Together, you and I are going to look at all our ideas about death, so that you can make your own decisions about what its meaning is for you and how to your live life right now knowing that, no two ways about it, death is waiting for you at the end. Our friends will die, our perceived enemies will die, our dogs will die, our loved ones and family will die, WE will die.

      Jeez, Miguel, you say. This is a huge bummer.

      I hear ya — but it doesn’t have to be. Really. Yes, death breaks our hearts, but it doesn’t have to destroy us. I’ve had some serious experience with death, and I’d go so far as to say that connecting with it is what’s really brought me to life. There is so much freedom that arises from facing our fears, and if our biggest fear is death, then it seems crazy not to get comfortable with it.

      We can even learn to laugh about it.

      Now, dust off your farty old corpse, and let’s do this.

          2    

      Why Me?

      I’m gonna make my death fun. Because we’re all gonna die; why not have fun with it?

      Why do we worry all the way up until the death? We worry, worry, worry, then we die and we’re like: See? I told you I’d die!

      — KYLE CEASE

      I’M WRITING THIS book because I see a big problem. Death is all around us and we all seem to refuse to look it in the eye. Like we imagine that if we avoid thinking about death, we somehow won’t ever have to deal with it. But you and I both know that’s wrong.

      I’m not saying we need to become death-obsessed, constantly dwelling on the inevitable. What I’m saying is that if we all address and investigate this truth, we can use what we find to our advantage in our lives. How? How can any of this be to our advantage? More on that later, but, in short: understanding that everything will end helps us appreciate what we have now.

      Why I am qualified to write this book, part 1

      I’m not.

      Well, at least not more than anyone else. Every single one of us will, someday, become an expert on death: what it means when it’s someone else’s time, and what it means when it’s ours.

      So I’m not anyone special. But I have given this subject a lot of energy, and if you’re reading this now, you could maybe use a friend like me. This whole thing I’m doing by writing this book is about growing together. I want to share what I’ve learned about making peace with death. I want to encourage you to go deeper. And I want to know what you’ve learned too (I mean it! Contact information is at facebook.com/miguelgilbertochen). Then we can use what we find to help still other people.

      Why I am qualified to write this book, part 2

      As a child, I never really thought much about death. I had two loving parents, an awesome older sister, some close friends. It never occurred to me that these people might not always be there. My days were spent thinking about kid stuff, like comic books or going on adventures. If something unpleasant happened, it usually wouldn’t matter even by the end of that very same day. Kids are cool that way, unattached and pretty much living one moment at a time.

      We used to go to church when I was really little. Over time, my family shifted away from organized religion and more toward spirituality, but maybe that’s neither here nor there.

      I don’t remember much about church besides not really liking it. I do however remember a priest. His name is lost to me, but I recall he was a happy person

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