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    Do You Know Your Dad's Story? The Unasked Questions
    Do You Know Your Dad's Story? The Unasked Questions
    Do You Know Your Dad's Story? The Unasked Questions
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    Do You Know Your Dad's Story? The Unasked Questions

    By Glenna Mageau

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    "…a wonderful way for adult sons and daughters to hopefully improve relationships with their Dad, learn something new or just have intriguing conversations with their fathers…" Author Christine Jackson

    What do you really know about your Dad?

    Do you know much about his childhood? The difficulties he has faced? The fun things he did? The things he wished he had done?

    Your dad is so much more than the man who raised you. He grew up in a time very different from yours—the beliefs, habits, and expectations were very different, as were the way things were done. Your dad has seen a lot in his life, getting to hear his journey will help you to understand him in a whole new light.

    Start the conversation with your dad, especially if he is elderly. This book is a guide which provides questions to ask, as well as how and when to ask them. Use this as a way to grow, mend and/or heal the relationship between you and your dad; preserve this man's journey through life and in particular his role as Dad. His story is his legacy to you.

    "…this book, Do You Know Your Dad's Story? becomes more valuable as the decades slip past, providing a snapshot in time not only of the individuals but also of the era in which they lived…" p.m.terrell, international award-winning, author

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherQuadessence Press
    Release dateMay 5, 2019
    ISBN9781775269830
    Do You Know Your Dad's Story? The Unasked Questions
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    Glenna Mageau

    Glenna Mageau is an award-winning author, the write success coach and creator of the Women Writes Movement. Her passion is writing and to help women find their voice through writing. Her goal is to have everyone have fun with writing and to Write for the love of it! Her goal is to empower and inspire women to know there is more for them and to discover and explore their gifts and talents.

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      Do You Know Your Dad's Story? The Unasked Questions - Glenna Mageau

      Chapter 1

      Introduction

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      Your dad has lived a full life and now it’s time to discover his story. There are so many questions you’d probably like to ask your dad but you probably haven't had a chance or thought about taking the time to really get to know who this man is. I've given you a great way to get these conversations started.

      My goal is to help you to connect with your dad, in a new way. When you were a child, your dad was someone you looked up to—to be your protector, your guide, your mentor, your instructor. Sometimes he did it well and maybe sometimes he missed the mark. Sometimes you might have seen him a lot and sometimes hardly at all. You may have had a great relationship with your father or hardly one at all.

      In some ways, men and in particular Fathers, like to share and find it easy to talk about certain parts of their journey, their exploits, how they learned something... Unfortunately, they don't often share the personal stuff—the feelings, the tough things they've been through, those things that didn’t go well for them, what it was really like during their childhood... If it can be turned into a story, they are more likely to tell it. Some men are okay with bragging about their exploits and some aren’t. Some came from this position of ‘do as I say and don’t question me’. Some were all about teaching skills to their children. Some were all about their kids being seen and not heard. Some have parts of their lives that they won't discuss.

      Thankfully, times are changing but it is still somewhat of an issue for many men to open up and talk about themselves on a personal level. It can be really difficult, especially for older men, to really go back and share those things from their younger years.

      Males, especially going back in history, have been seen as the tough, hard-working person, responsible for doing the physical labor. Men were expected to work hard. And Dads even more so. They had to be strong, show that they could be the ‘breadwinner’ and do all the hard, physical labor that needed to be done and look after the important things (i.e. financial). Their responsibility was to look after their family—feed, clothe and shelter them—and all that encompassed. Dads often had to work a lot. Some were farmers or ran businesses, while others were the laborers. Some Fathers did really well at ensuring there was enough money to look after all the family needs but some really struggled with it. Times throughout the past have in some ways been much harsher for men and in other ways much easier. The expectations of men being the sole ‘breadwinner’ and responsible for the family is the expectation many Fathers were raised with. The further you go back in the time, the more prevalent it is.

      The sad truth is that Dads, especially older Dads, didn’t get much of an opportunity to spend time with the family as a family. They had too much to do and they weren’t often taught how to relate to or be a part of their kids every day lives. If they did find time to spend with their family, they might have struggled with leaving the harsh demands and expectations of life behind.

      It’s not whether we now see it as right or wrong, it's just what was. Times are changing and have changed a lot but there is still some of that expectation that men will take care of the physical needs of the family. Women have taken on a lot of that responsibility as well and thankfully are learning to give up some of their other roles—caregiver, nurturer, cook, cleaner... The responsibilities within a family are becoming more evenly distributed. At least to some degree.

      The times were very different in the early 1900s to the mid 1900s to the present. The changes have been quite drastic in what we have access to, how we do things and to the thoughts and beliefs about gender and roles. What is acceptable today was not even discussed 20 years ago, never mind 30, 40, 80, or 90 years ago.

      The role of dads has changed a lot over the last century. Dads are now more involved in all aspects of raising their kids but that wasn’t always the case. For a long time, Dads weren’t really involved in the day-to-day aspects of their child’s life—from their home life, raising them, to what they did at school, to that of attending their children’s events or activities.

      When we reach old age, we should be happy, healthy, loving life, know that we made a positive difference, know we matter and to feel connected. If possible, let’s do that for our dads, if you can’t heal that relationship for whatever reason, then heal it from your perspective. Our relationships with our dads affect our lives in ways that we can’t often measure, so the more we are at peace with that relationship, the healthier and happier we will be.

      Being a Dad, I’m sure, is the most incredible gift and best role in the world but not always the easiest. Dads had to be strong going out in the world. Why? Because times were tough, expectations were tough, and the work was tough, but they also had to be leaders, providers and guides. Not easy to go from being this tough person, who is doing a lot of manual labor or running a business and often doing volunteer work in the community, and then come home and be present for his family.

      Dads often have a more difficult time talking about their feelings than I think moms did or do. Especially the older moms and dads. Men were expected to do and be tough and hard-working and not complain or show emotion, especially for those things did not help feed, clothe or shelter the family. The problem is that we are emotional beings and when we stuff our emotions, we truly can only do it for so long. Anger tends to be the result. Unfortunately, one of the few places that it became the norm to express anger was at home. Sadly, this may have given you a really different view of your father and may have shown you a man who was very different in public than he did at home.

      Did older Dads get to experience raising children the way they would have wanted?

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