In the Arms of a Stranger: Stories from the Streets: My Life as a Paramedic
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Dale J Bingham
Dale J Bingham has been a licensed paramedic and emergency services worker since 1986. A graduate of the University of Utah's Physician Assistant Program he is also an emergency service educator, currently working as a Physician Assistant and Health Care Adminstrator Faculty member. He holds a Masters Degree in Physician Assistant Studies, a BS in Health Services and is nationally registered as a Paramedic. He is an accomplished writer and has given lectures nationally on the topic of emergency services. He is listed in the 2000 edition of "Who's Who of American Teachers".
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In the Arms of a Stranger - Dale J Bingham
Contents
DEDICATION
PREFACE
LIST OF ABBREVIATIONS
INTRODUCTION
~ DAY ONE ~
~ WRESTLEMANIA~
~ CLOSEST CALL ~
~ STOP AND GO ~
~ BIRDS OF A FEATHER ~
~ CHOICES ~
~ SMILE AS YOU GO DOWN ~
~ MY OWN NIGHTMARE ~
~ ANOTHER TOMORROW ~
~ TERROR AT MIDNIGHT ~
~ WITNESS TO A TRAGEDY ~
~ LIFE 101 ~
~ QUESTIONS ~
~ A DEEPER LOVE ~
~ HOUSE CALLS ~
~ MESSAGE IN A BOTTLE ~
~ HAPPY BIRTHDAY ~
~ ALMOST HOME ~
~ CHANGES ~
~ CLOSURE ~
THE AGREEMENT
~ ALL IN THE FAMILY ~
~ ONE OF OUR OWN ~
~ BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR ~
~ A MAN’S SOUL ~
~ ANGELS ~
~ HIDDEN SURPRISES ~
~ A FAITHFUL FOLLOWING ~
~ LAST DAY ~
AFTERWORD
CONCLUSIONS
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to all of those great partners and colleagues who I have worked with through the years; some who have become great friends and some that have disappeared into time. I thank you for your support and friendship as we worked through some of life’s most difficult situations. I look at EMS as a great team. I know that I never did anything by myself and acknowledge that I was just a player on this team. I am grateful to have had this opportunity to serve others.
I also thank all those patients who taught me how to love and gave me some great memories. I wish I could have saved all those who wished to be saved, but I know that medicine is a Fickle beast; You never know why or why someone walks out of a car that now looks like an accordion and why the young innocent victim of a minor fender-bender never walks away at all. As much as we want to believe it or wish it, I know that the ultimate decision lies in the hands of a higher power whose time line is not always the same as ours. My colleagues and I are just tools in his hands.
Most importantly I thank my beautiful wife Lisa, who REALLY taught me how to love and let me come home from shift and just be myself. She never asked me about my runs or bad calls. I am so grateful for that because when I came home I needed to leave the day back there on the unit and start fresh. That’s the only way I made it through.
I also thank my 4 beautiful children, Kourtney, Bryton, Bradley, and Kynzee. You are what I live for.
PREFACE
The Emergency Medical Services is a misunderstood and confusing entity. I have spent years trying to educate the public on its roles and responsibilities. I have tried to dispel myths and stereotypes about the men and women and the job they do. Nevertheless, many misconceptions still abound about what we do. I still have people ask me to this day, Is someone going to ride in the back with the patient?
Many still believe that we drive up as fast as we can, grab the patient from the throngs of death and drive off to the hospital even faster than when we got there. TV often portrays EMS workers as a wild group of cold-hearted thrill seekers who always slam the emergency room doors open as they enter the hospital.
The sad reality is that we really do not save that many lives. Not because of poor care, but because people do not always call us out to save their lives. They call us out for the flu, for a hip fracture, or because they just lost their husband and just need someone to talk to, and sometimes we even to have to tell them that their loved one has passed on. We play the role of caregiver, of lifesaver, of psychologist, of grief counselor, and wear many, many, different hats. Sometimes I wonder if a better term for what we do is life impacter
as opposed to lifesaver
. We impact a great many more lives than we save.
Training has expanded in recent years to become a true two-year program for those wishing to become paramedics. This is a largely misunderstood aspect of paramedicine. Schools are tough and demanding. The dropout and failure rate of paramedic programs tends to run very high. My own paramedic program began with over 30 students and I graduated with only 11. It is similar to the time to become a nurse yet specializes in emergency care as opposed to the long-term care focus of nursing. There are rotations in emergency care, obstetrics, pediatrics, psychiatric, and more. This doesn’t include the on-the-job training required of all paramedics and EMS workers. It is both demanding and difficult.
If you think about it we must be just as ready at 3 AM as we do at 3 PM. We must be prepared to go a day without food, without sleep, without using the restroom if the situation so dictates. We must be just as prepared to deliver a newborn child as we do caring for a 100-year-old nursing home resident. We do care, we do cry, and we do hurt. We can get angry, frustrated, and fed up. But through it all we realize that we have a job to do and it has to get done. People are counting on us.
My first trainer’s words still ring in my ears to this day. He said, one must be past feeling and never, ever, get involved with our patient’s pain and suffering. After all,
he continued, It’s not our fault they got hurt.
It took me about a day to realize that he was wrong. I have found over the years that those who give the best care are those who are the most caring and concerned for another’s welfare. Still, it is a learning process. The initial thrill and draw of this career soon diminishes and is replaced by a greater feeling and emotion for the welfare of others, whether that means saving their life or uplifting their spirits.
I was recently asked by someone what I felt was the most important thing I’ve gotten out of being an EMS worker. I can answer truthfully that it is to just love those you serve.
Love them and serve them without regard to race, gender, economic status, or any other factor. Always remember that no one sets out to be an addict or alcoholic, or to get cancer, or to live homeless. True, there are consequences to some of our actions and many of these are amplified in emergency situations, but not one of us is perfect. No one needs to tell the mother whose child is in critical care now that the child should have been in a car seat. She knows—more than we know. No one needs to tell the emphysema patient that she shouldn’t have smoked her whole life. She knows. Just love them and take care of them.
I hope this book reflects that love. I make no claims to perfection. I know that there are patients out there who were not pleased with my care. I have had and still have a lot of learning and growing up to do. But I know that I chose to be there for them, they didn’t choose to be there for me. And to all those that I have had the opportunity to serve, I thank you for welcoming me into your homes, your cars, your workplace, and your lives. And I thank you for putting your trust in me–a total stranger.
LIST OF ABBREVIATIONS
Ambu-bag–Brand name of the bag-valve-mask. Used to breathe for a patient
Aneurysm–A dangerous bulging or bursting of an artery Most often the aorta, the largest artery in the body
Asystole–Commonly known as flatline
. The heart has stopped beating Bretylium–A medication used to control rapid or fibrillating hearts Backboard–A hard board that the patient lies on to help keep their back
from moving BVM–Bag Valve Mask. A device used to breathe for a patient Cardiac Arrest–A patient’s heart has stopped beating C-Collar–A device put around the patient’s neck to keep it still C.I.S.D.–Critical incident stress debriefing CPR–Cardiopulmonary resuscitation Defibrillator–Device used to shock the heart D.O.–Doctor of Osteopathy D.O.A.–Dead on Arrival EKG–Electrocardiogram. Used to check the rhythm of the heart EMT–Emergency Medical Technician EMS—Emergency Medical Service EMSA—Emergency Medical Service Authority ER–Emergency room ETA–Estimated time of arrival Hemothorax–Blood in the lung cavity
Intubation–The process of putting a breathing tube down a patient’s