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    Funeral for a Stranger: Thoughts on Life and Love
    Funeral for a Stranger: Thoughts on Life and Love
    Funeral for a Stranger: Thoughts on Life and Love
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    Funeral for a Stranger: Thoughts on Life and Love

    By Becca Stevens

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    I have seen water move rocks. I have seen thistles break through boulders.

    If water and flowers can move stones, surely love can.

    Becca Stevens, from Funeral for a Stranger


    In this meditation on living and dying, Becca Stevens shares moving and hilarious stories about her life, love, friends, and our many families. 


    This delicately formed narrative is also a window into the soul of a priest. I loved it and will hold it in my heart with gratitude for years to come.

    -Phyllis Tickle, author of The Great Emergence: How Christianity Is Changing and Why

             

    Loneliness finds connections, depair meets celebration, and fear discovers faith. Join Becca on her journey to a funeral for a stranger. God will be there.
    -Don Schlitz, Hall of Fame songwriter of The Gambler

     

    With elegant simplicity Becca Stevens escorts the reader to the banks of the deepest spiritual wellspring.   Surely she ranks among our most gifted teachers on the things that matter most of all.

    -Stephen Bauman, author of Simple Truths: On Values, Civility, and Our Common Good


    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAbingdon Press
    Release dateSep 1, 2010
    ISBN9781426722349
    Funeral for a Stranger: Thoughts on Life and Love
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    Becca Stevens

      Becca Stevens is an Episcopal priest, survivor of childhood sexual abuse, social justice innovator, and tireless advocate for women survivors in her hometown of Nashville, Tennessee, and around the world. Her belief that love heals is her message and the underlying theme behind everything she does.       Becca has founded seven justice organizations around the world and has helped raise more than fifty-five million dollars to lift women out of poverty and into freedom. She is a dynamic speaker and spirited leader who is in high demand for appearances at events across the globe. She speaks internationally, leads workshops and action groups, appears in countless media outlets, is the president of Thistle Farms and heads the national network of its sister organizations, and helps support her home chapel in Nashville, Tennessee.       Becca has been featured everywhere from NPR to the New York Times, the TODAY Show to ABC World News. She has been recognized as a Top 10 CNN Hero and a White House Champion of Change. She counts among her friends and supporters Brené Brown, Nicholas Kristof, and Jenna Bush Hager. She has experienced and listened to stories from women all over the world, always finding more signs of God’s love in even the most horrific circumstances. Those stories often bring as much laughter as tears. Her work is her joy.  

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      This book is filled with thought provoking passages as a minister describes her experience officiating at a funeral for a woman she never knew. The author discuses how death impacts all of us and how we are all dependent upon strangers in both life and death. Even if you're not facing the death of a loved one, this book may be helpful in making sense of life.

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    Funeral for a Stranger - Becca Stevens

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    the call

    I was the minister for her funeral because I hate to say no. As an Episcopal priest, I'm not obligated to bury people who are not part of my congregation. I had received a message from the family asking me to bury their mother. I had planned to call them back and make a polite excuse, saying I was sorry I couldn't help. Then I was going to give them the number of a United Methodist minister who helps me when I get busy. Before I had time to call them back, though, the minister called me and said he wasn't available. I hate the idea of someone getting left out, especially in crisis, so when the family called again, I just said, I would love to help.

    Less than twenty-four hours later, I was driving to the visitation to meet the daughter and regretting my openness to the whole thing. I knew how much energy I had to invest to be present pastorally, and I was feeling the weight of a congregation that needed tending and charitable organizations to manage. I also thought about how the trip across town was going to ruin any hope of seeing my family that night. A wave of guilt washed over me. I wanted to be a good priest and a good mom. Most of the time the two roles complement and inform each other, but sometimes they are in direct conflict.

    Okay, I thought resolutely, I will get there, take some notes on this person whose name I have now totally forgotten, and try to get back home in time for the end of dinner.I am not sure how conversations happen inside my head.They seem to bubble up with possible solutions presenting themselves in the midst of all the information. Then, once I figure out a way to move forward, the conversations rest in peace for awhile.

    I get that ability from my mom. She raised five children as a single parent while directing a community center. She must have had thousands of conversations in her head while driving between meetings at the office and running children around town. My mom would walk through the front door after work and tell us what was going to happen that evening or the next day. There were never any real discussions or attempts to work out problems as a group. By the time the words came out of her mouth, it was a done deal.Our job was to get in line and carry out the plan so that everything could get done in the shortest amount of time.

    This is a great example of how I didn't want to be like my mom. Even as I was driving, though, I could see myself running into the house, just as my family was beginning to relax, and delivering the list of orders: begin homework, let the dogs out, turn off the TV for the love of God, and head toward the dirty dishes in the sink. I hope someday my children, when they have children of their own and are behind at work and late getting home, will realize that my head conversations helped me feel as if I still had control over my life. I hope they will know that in those conversations, they were the central characters, and they were loved the whole time I was figuring out how we could make our family work.

    The person who gets the worst of it is my husband, Marcus. After my head conversations, I forget I never actually told him what was planned. His life is already full, so it's hard for him when I change things to make it all work for me. Thank God he is used to this after twenty years. He knows that if he waits it out, another conversation will follow in my head and plans will change again to accommodate him.

    Sometimes I count these head conversations as prayers.I don't think they should count, but I count them anyway because I don't pray enough. Sometimes God is a part of my silent discussions, even though I don't give God an actual voice. God feels present when there is some clarity of thought or when I feel a little peace after struggling with an issue.

    To be honest, I am not sure how people have conversations with God, where God has an actual voice. I'm not saying it isn't possible, but it's always awkward for me to listen as people report these conversations. I once heard a woman from Honduras talk about a conversation with God in which she spoke and then God said, Va, which means Go. It struck me that God, as reported by the woman, spoke Spanish with a perfect accent, which made it sound like Ba, kind of a sheep sound. I knew that God would never say Ba to me because I would giggle and not listen. There have been beautiful and faithful people who have said God tells them what to get at the grocery store, whom to date, and what to wear. That God has a voice different from theirs is hard for me to grasp. The God of their understanding is much more detailed than the God of my understanding. Sometimes the stories leave me feeling as though God is less than God and not the author of life and love. I am a little cynical and skeptical about it all.

    So I'm usually content to leave God as the force of love pulling all the millions of silent conversations all over the world toward love. God needs to keep pulling my conversations toward love, especially in motherhood. I love my kids so much, and I hate that sometimes I bark orders tersely instead of saying, I am sorry that I missed dinner and now it's too late to make up that time: What's on TV?

    The private conversation in the car that day took place before I even arrived at the funeral home to meet the family.Just the idea of a funeral can get my mind going full throttle.Funerals startle our minds from the lull of living. When all of a sudden we are made to think about death, close range, we come to ourselves. A funeral takes precedence in our day as other, routine events get changed to make room.This mirrors what happens internally when we are going to a funeral. All the other thoughts move to the side to make room for thoughts like, Oh my God, we are all mortal, life is

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