The Power of Self-Esteem: Build Self-Esteem In 3 Simple Moves

Self-Esteem is the magic ingredient to success in life.

Lack of Self-Esteem quite often developed during your personal development of the first one or two decades. Since it developed, you have the chance to change it.

It is up to You! It is Your Decision!

Whether you have or develop Self-Esteem does not matter. Personally, I think developing a healthy Self-Esteem is even more helpful because you are going through a process with more mindfulness and awareness.

In fact, when you look at most of the successful people, whether they are successful in business, in relationship, in dating, in invention or reinvention or in life in general, all of them developed Self-Esteem one or the other way. After failure they were potentially getting back on their feet one more time than most of the others. They became Masters of their lives.

Richard Branson, whom I see as one of my mentors, developed a Yes-Mindset, despite his writing issue. He is truly a person that is always looking for a way no one else dared to go. He is fueling his progress with the idea of having fun in whatever you do.

Joel Bauer, my other mentor, needed to develop his own way through life despite some kind of developmental issues. But he not only overcame these issues, he mastered them and developed highly effective skills, which made him The Mentors Mentor.

Everything is out there. Grab it. Use it. Adapt what is helpful. Abort what you don't need. Make it your own. (Bruce Lee)

Dedication:

I never could have written this book without the support of my

beloved wife, Nadine. Thank you for believing in me and

supporting me and all of my crazy ideas, the good and the bad

days, for being at my side whenever I needed you and for

bringing out the best in me whenever I was on the way to lose

myself.

To my parents who always believed in me and supported me the

best way they could.

Also to my Uncle Fritz who gave me a kick in the ass at a time

when I needed it most.

To my Mentor Joel Bauer who always inspired

and empowered me.

To my friend and trainer David Cavanagh who never allowed

me to quit on my dreams.

To my teachers Georges Urffer, Peter Luescher and James

Ramey(†) who never lost patience in teaching me.

To Sir Richard Branson who was giving me

a private lesson for life when playing chess with me.

To all of my friends, teachers and trainers,

who helped me move forward in life.

I thank you from the heart!

Table of Content

FOREWORD

MY WHY:

Why I am the right person to train you:

MY MISSION

STEP I: MIND

SELF-ESTEEM

FAMOUS PEOPLE AND LOW SELF-ESTEEM

LOW SELF-ESTEEM

UNDERSTANDING LOW SELF-ESTEEM

How Low Self-Esteem Develops

Rejection

Lack Of Praise

Constant Criticism

Thoughts

Threats

What it means

Unconscious Fear

THE THREE FEARS

The Fear Of Public Recognition

Loss Or Abandonment

How Others Perceive You

Addressing These Fears

TEN REASONS THAT CAUSE LOW SELF-ESTEEM

Self-Hatred

The Perfectionist

Hating Your Body Image

Useless, But Are You?

Made Of Glass

Anxiety

Anger

Putting Others Before Yourself

Bullying

Trauma And Abuse

THE TOXIC CYCLE

A Healthy Perspective

The What If...?

HEALTHY BODY HEALTHY IMAGE

The Body Image

Your Body Perception

Affirmations of your body

Low Self-Esteem And Presentation

Stop Comparing Yourself!

In Conclusion

NUTRITION: FOODS AND LOW SELF-ESTEEM

Food And Its Effects

Nutrients

Types Of Mood Boosting Food

Omega-3 Fatty Acids

Vitamin D

Vitamin B

Selenium

Foods To Cut Down On

Sugar

Caffeine

Alcohol

THE THREE KEYS

Self-Acceptance

Your Voice

Self-Respect

The Three Keys: Self-Acceptance

List Your Positive Qualities

Part Two: Training The Brain

The Positive Life

The Three Keys: Our Inner Conversation

Delusions Within The It

How To Change Your Inner Conversation

Improvement

THE THREE KEYS: SELF-RESPECT

Values

Anticipate Failure

Honesty Is Key

Forgiveness

Self-Confidence

Your Network

Respect Your Body

Exercise Body And Mind

Dress To Feel Good

Respect Yourself Positively

You are unique!

PROJECTING A POSITIVE LIGHT ON YOURSELF

Affirmations

Visualizations

Your Brain

Combining Affirmation and Visualization

Your Inner Goal

One small step...

Defeating Negative Thoughts

New Approaches

Forget Negative Feedback

Beat The Negative Monster

Assuming What Others Think Of You

The Prediction

The Be All End All

Remove Your Negative Perception

Taking Blame Wrongly

Focus on the bad: The toxic cycle

DEFEATING SELF CRITICISM

The Unfairness Of Self-Criticism

Catching Self-Criticism Out

How To Tackle Self-Criticism

5 Questions

BEING ALONE

The Truth

Looking at our inner Selves

Learning to love the individual

Build Self-Respect

PRACTICE SELF-LOVE

A Reflective Period

Relationships, Friends, and Family

Edit Your Positive List

Healthy Body

Cleaning Your Environment

Comparisons And Self-Love

The Importance Of Spirituality

Improve Your Skills

Where Are You Happy?

Letting Things Go

STEP II: MISSION

PURPOSE

Why It’s Important To Have

Understand What Is Important

Chase Your Passion

What Is Your Purpose?

Self-Awareness

Focusing Your Determination

Materialism

Passion

Compassion

Give Back

Simplify Things

Daily Goals

Summary

LIVE WITH PURPOSE

Why It’s Important To Find Your Purpose

Life Meaning

Values

Self Worth

Fulfillment

Mental And Physical Health

What Is Your Purpose?

What Are You Passionate About?

What Do You Value?

Get A Strong Emotional Reaction

What’s Fun

Purpose and Happiness

Helping others!

What You Do For A Living Matters

How To Find Your Calling

Start With What’s Important To You

Listen To The Soft Voice In Your Head

Step By Step

It Doesn’t Have To Be Huge

Spending Quality Time

Nurture A Child

Downsizing

Start Now!

At Home and At Work

In Your Local Community

In The World

Be aware of your time

Truly Living Your Life

No more Excuses

Television

Time Thieves

Embrace Your Dreams

Never Stop Learning

Travel The World

New Cultures

Open Your Mind

Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Create Meaningful Relationships

Don’t Like It? Change It!

Good Relationships Take Work

No More Fear Of Failure

Spiritual Health

4 Needs we need

The Need To Find Meaning In Life

The Need To Have Hope

The Need For Values

Become A Kinder Person

Focus On Others

Reduce Stress

Don't Worry

Values and Clarity

The Center Of The World

Mediation And Prayer

A Simple Breathing Mediation

Temptations

Life Is About Serving

Your Inner Circle

Finding Your Niche

You will Change - And That’s Ok

What Do You Want To Be Remembered For?

SELF-DISCIPLINE

Weaknesses

Remove Temptations

Plan, Plan, Plan

Improve

Create New Routines

Eat Often And Healthy

Willpower

Contingency Plans And Self-Discipline

Rewarding

Self-Forgiveness

STEP III: MOVES

PAY ATTENTION TO THE LESSONS LIFE TEACHES YOU

Slow Down

Embrace Concentration

Be Persistent

WAYS TO MASTER SELF-ESTEEM

Push Out Negative Thoughts

Mindfulness

Know Your Strengths

Meditation

Body Love

Morality

Care For Your Body and Mind

Support Others

Improve Relationships

Failure Does Happen

YOUR MINDSET IS KEY

Never Stop Learning and Never Stop Growing

Avoid Boredom

Expand Your Life

Increase Creativity

Make Priorities

Gain Happiness

READING HABITS PROMOTE GROWTH AND CONFIDENCE

Stay Sharp

Get Strong

Be Open and Empathic

Improve Your Mood

BE AWARE OF YOUR ATTITUDE

Mind Your Emotional State

Understand Your Power

Turn Thoughts into Actions

3 SIMPLE STEPS TO CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE

Picture a Better Life

Avoid Becoming a Victim

Use Positive Language

OVERCOME LIMITING SELF-BELIEF

Your Inner Muppet-Show

Step One: Identify

Step Two: The Cold Hard Truth

Step Three: Trying On Other Beliefs For Size

Step Four: Emulate Action

OVERCOME NEGATIVE CONDITIONING

Overcome Conditioning

POWER POSE - REVERSE BODY LANGUAGE

What Is A Power Pose?

How To Strike A Power Pose

When To Strike A Power Pose

SELF REFLECTION

Am I Productive With My Time?

Is My Outlook Healthy?

Am I Prepared Every Day?

Am I Negative Before I Sleep?

Am I Trying Hard Enough With Others?

Am I Looking After Myself?

Are You On Track??

Your Choice!

HANDLING SELF-CONSCIOUSNESS

Why Are You Self-Conscious?

Push Back On Negativity

Confidence And Improvement

Stones And Glass Houses

Push Yourself

Try and Do

The Triple-A Rule

Receiving Criticism

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY OF YOURSELF

Being Aware

Independence From Reaction

Fear Of Change

The Igniting Thought

The Real Freedom

What is in it for you?

PRACTICING SELF-CONTROL

Meditation

Sleep Is Important

Habit-Making

Positivity

Having Support

Sugar

Technology

Build Your Muscle

LOVE AND SELF-ESTEEM

The Need

When We Lose Trust

Giving Up On Love

The Real Truth

A Healthy Perspective

Quick Jumpers

IMPROVING COMMUNICATIONS SKILLS

The Art Of Listening

The Occasion Of Talk

Body Language

Double Think Your Words

Richard Branson: Even Billionaires Take Notes

Respect

The Best Medium

Positivity

Self-Practice

Improve Your Communication Muscle

FIGHT ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION

Reality Check

Social Media

Expression Through Writing

No Comparison

Talk To Others

Develop Spiritually

Your Happiness

BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM NOW!

Update Your Look

Modify Your Social Media

Get Moving

Recognize Small Accomplishments

Be Proactive

COACHING: A POSSIBLE SOLUTION

Why Coaching?

Breaking Our Barriers

Create A Plan

Choosing A Coach

Coaches have Coaches

MENTORS CAN SKYROCKET YOUR DEVELOPMENT

Get There Faster

See Your Blind Spots

Have a Cheerleader

Receive Insight

LEAVING A LEGACY

A PRIVATE LESSON BY RICHARD BRANSON

Foreword

What is the reason to write a book about Self-Esteem? Without Self-Esteem, it will be difficult for you in life to move forward or to achieve any of your dreams. Not having enough Self-Esteem will result in other people defining your life and telling you what you are going to do. Without Self-Esteem, there is no chance for you to get what you want. I am sure this not what you want.

Self-Esteem is the key to your life. Is it everything?

The answer is: No. But definitely you need to achieve a certain amount of Self-Esteem, leading to self-confidence in order to start living a life by design instead of living the life of others, fulfilling the dreams of other people.

But even if you feel comfortable inside of companies and corporates, you need to have Self-Esteem. Why? Because there are always other people, trying to get you to do what they want.

We could say that Self-Esteem is like the fuel inside the jet of your life. With a full tank you are able to reach any destination while without or just a little bit, you event won't take off of fly for a long time.

This book is for you!

It is my gift to you since I had to start from scratch reinventing myself several time in my life and (re)building my Self-Esteem. I have helped hundreds of clients to build it, why not being at your side, supporting and guiding you to build your Self-Esteem, your self-confidence and self-worth?

Believe me. Maybe at the time it seems to be a true challenge. Well it is but: I am not special. I have no classic professional education. But I have specialized education and training. During my journey I developed a skill of watching, to role model, analyzing behavior and language. You don't have to do the same. My book and my trainings will save you 30 years of a learning curve. They will provide you the foundation and bridge the gap that education produced and left you with no skills to do it on your own.

Is Self-Esteem everything? No. But without a clear feeling of being OK the way you are, without Self-Esteem, you have no real chances today, even not in the internet-age where you think you can hide behind your screen.

As a result of our training, you will be able to develop all the skills you need, feeling confident and filled with Self-Esteem. This book is offering insights, ideas and actions you can take.

And when you are ready, you might even be interested in being trained to speak in front of audiences about your mission.

My WHY:

Although I had parents who wanted me to succeed, the way they were raising me - concerning my Self-Esteem - was not what I needed.

My parents were immigrants. As children they went through WWII. What they saw and experienced is out of any range what a non-war child can ever tell. Out of these experiences they thought that getting the best school and education would secure my future.

Well, for most people it does. And certainly I would not be able as a German speaking person to write a book in English without having a proper training.

But what I experienced in my childhood and youth was hard pressure to achieve good grades. There was not much space for me as a person to develop. My father was extremely strict and focused only on my grades and results at school. A culture of communication and discussion was never part of my education. Whatever grades I delivered were just not enough. Enjoying what we learned or what we experienced at school was not important. What I wanted or loved to do was not taken care of.

I remember my first school-teacher Georges Urffer. He was a revolutionary teacher at that time, including different types of learning, helping us to literally grab the results by constructing simple calculation machines or helping us to experience fields of mathematics that today usually only programmers learn but at that time was part of our scholar education. When my parents were asking me, what we did during school time, I often answered: We were playing, because that was how I experienced the learning process. I could tell from their reactions that they were not happy. Yet I could not argue or discuss about what and how it helped me at that time.

Why I am the right person to train you:

I was an introvert during the whole time of my childhood until my early twenties. Introverts usually don't have a good Self-Esteem. At least I did not. I needed to develop it step by step.

In my childhood I was bullied a lot of times. Usually I ran away just because I did not know how to fight. So the other children in my area found out rather fast and always provoked me, took away my toys, excluded me from playing with them.

In my youth, I always was fascinated through the Samurai-Stories of Akiro Kurosawa. I watched every movie and I felt like, this would be awesome to know. At the time they also showed in TV the Kung Fu with David Carradine. I was fascinated and watched as often as I could. Since there was no martial arts school in town, and even if, my parents could not afford it, I just watched the movements of Kwai Chang Caine and listened to the wisdom of his blind master.

One day, when I was playing soccer outside, some elder guys wanted to take away our soccer ball. Without even thinking of what could happen, I took Caine's standard defense pose and was ready to fight. I simple emulated what I have seen - in fact without even knowing more that that pose. But it worked. I didn't have to fight. Since these movies were famous at that time, they though I would be able to do some Kung Fu. Sometimes Fake it can work. Be careful with this kind of tactic. When you face an opponent, who is trained, you will potentially fail. Although - I know a Samurai story of a tailor:

A tailor accidentally touched a Samurai's sword, a mistake that usually costs the life of the unfortunate. The Samurai ordered the tailor to a duel the next morning. Of course, the tailor was scared and visited a true master and asked for help. The master watched the tailor removing his clothing when he entered. His answer to the tailor was the following: I cannot make you a sword master over night. But there is a little chance to survive the duel. Before you start dueling yourself, fold your clothes the way you did when you entered, the same way, careful, with most respect. The tailor was still scared, but followed the instructions of the master, although he did not really know, why he should do it. As he did as advised, the Samurai watched him carefully. He started to doubt his decision to duel the man opposite of him because he was so perfectly and carefully folding his clothes that he thought the tailor must be a powerful Samurai. Only masters were so mindful in their actions. The Samurai decided to end the duel, excused himself of not having been aware that the tailor was such a great master. Then he left.

The tailor was safe. Nothing happened to him because he stayed true and focused and followed the masters advice.

I hope you