Marriage and the Mystery of the Gospel
By Ray Ortlund
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Marriage reveals something of eternal significance. From the beginning, God designed marriage to convey a greater reality—the passionate, unfailing, redeeming love of God for sinners, the eternal romance between Christ and his bride. In this volume, Ray Ortlund traces marriage throughout Scripture—from the first marriage in the garden of Eden to the ultimate marriage in the book of Revelation—laying out a transcendent vision of marriage that dignifies our own imperfect unions as a display of the gospel. This book offers insight and hope to every married person today.
Part of the Short Studies in Biblical Theology series.
Ray Ortlund
Ray Ortlund is the president of Renewal Ministries, the pastor to pastors at Immanuel Church in Nashville, and a canon theologian with the Anglican Church in North America. He is the author of several books, including Marriage and the Mystery of the Gospel; The Death of Porn; and the Preaching the Word commentaries on Isaiah and Proverbs. He is also a contributor to the ESV Study Bible. Ray and his wife, Jani, have been married for fifty years.
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Crossway on FacebookCrossway on InstagramCrossway on TwitterIn this movement through Scripture, Ray gave me more reason to love and nurture my wife, and I will borrow some of his words as I speak with her. He also let me gaze at even bigger matters. He took my marital story and revealed how it is by Jesus, for him, and to him.
Ed Welch, counselor and faculty, Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation
"Captivating, alluring, and tearfully rendered, Ray Ortlund’s Marriage and the Mystery of the Gospel displays the blood-bought gift of biblical marriage amidst the splendor of the whole biblical landscape. No polemics here—just the love of God poured out to conquer hell itself. Each page shows the biblical worldview in its aesthetic loveliness and disarming power. And don’t let the title fool you. This is not just another book on marriage. Readers will drink in a tour de force of biblical majesty on display on each and every page."
Rosaria Butterfield, author, The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert
Ray Ortlund brilliantly enables you to carefully examine your marriage through the lenses of creation, fall, law, and gospel. In so doing, he helps us deepen our understanding of marriage, know why it is a struggle for us all, diagnose the marriage confusion in our culture, be clear where marriage help is to be found, and fall in love all over again with our God of amazing love, wisdom, and grace.
Paul David Tripp, President, Paul Tripp Ministries; author, What Did You Expect?
"Marriage and the Mystery of the Gospel lifts our eyes above the contemporary debates over complementarianism and egalitarianism, feminism and patriarchy, same-sex unions, and divorce and remarriage. Ortlund places our focus on the glory of the cosmic love story and the joy-filled hope this story offers for finding true romantic love in a fallen world. This is biblical theology at its best."
Eric C. Redmond, Assistant Professor of Bible, Moody Bible Institute
There is no one alive I would rather read than Ray Ortlund. This book will show you why. It shows us how marriage is a metaphor for the gospel itself, the one-flesh union of Christ to his church. This book will help you see both the gospel and marriage in a clearer light, in the light of an unveiled mystery.
Russell Moore, President, Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptist Convention
Robert Wolgemuth and I asked Ray Ortlund to preach on marriage as a picture of redemption at our wedding. We know him to be a pastor with a scholar’s head and a lover’s heart. And we admire his marriage as a beautiful picture of the passionate, tender love relationship between Christ and his church. For the same reasons, I commend to you this book. It will deepen your understanding of the divine mystery of marriage and why it matters, and it will inflame your heart to pursue greater love and oneness with Christ and with your mate.
Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, author; Radio Host, Revive Our Hearts
Marriage and the Mystery of the Gospel
Other books in the Short Studies in Biblical Theology series
The Son of God and the New Creation, Graeme Goldsworthy (2015)
Work and Our Labor in the Lord, James M. Hamilton Jr. (2017)
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For my wife
Contents
Preface
1 Marriage in Genesis
2 Marriage in the Law, Wisdom, and Prophets
3 Marriage in the New Testament
4 Marriage in the World Today
For Further Reading
General Index
Scripture Index
Preface
Marriage is not a human invention; it is a divine revelation. Its design never was our own made-up arrangement of infinite malleability. It was given to us, at the beginning of all things, as a brightly shining fixity of eternal significance. We might not always live up to its true grandeur. None of us does so perfectly. But we have no right to redefine it, and we have every reason to revere it.
Only the Bible imparts to us a vision of marriage so transcendent and glorious, far beyond human variation and even human failure. Marriage is of God and reveals a wonderful truth about God. And we have no right to change the face of God in the world. All we can rightly do is receive what God has revealed with gladness and humility.
This is a book about the biblical view of marriage. But that does not mean this book limits its interest to the roles of husbands and wives. That is a valid consideration, and many books have been written about it. But what I mean by the biblical view of marriage
lifts our thoughts far above even urgently important questions being debated today. The Bible has its eye primarily on the ultimate marriage between the Son of God and his redeemed bride. That eternal romance is the biblical view of marriage, offering both instruction and hope for our own marriages today.
The classical Christian understanding of human marriage was long accepted throughout Western civilization. The traditional wedding service of the Book of Common Prayer, for example, begins:
Dearly beloved, we are gathered together here in the sight of God, and in the face of this company, to join together this Man and this Woman in holy Matrimony; which is an honorable estate, instituted of God, signifying unto us the mystical union that is betwixt Christ and his Church; which holy estate Christ adorned and beautified with his presence and first miracle that he wrought in Cana of Galilee, and is commended of Saint Paul to be honorable among all men; and therefore is not by any to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly; but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, soberly, and in the fear of God.
But now we are told that this God-centered vision of marriage is mistaken, and worse than mistaken, even oppressive. Now we are told that we will never be a free and just society unless everyone, arranging their sexuality however they wish, may demand formal validation from the state and therefore from us all. Overlook the fact that no class or group has been denied marriage, as it has been understood within the long-held consensus—one man with one woman. That was not withheld, so no one was being discriminated against. But now our collective better future requires civil rights status for the infinite spin-off redefinitions of marriage as baseline civility expected of us all, and failure to comply with the new order is a punishable bigotry.
Clearly we all have the freedom to do what we choose with our own God-given humanity. But we do not have the freedom to escape the consequences of our choices, nor may we rightly demand that others support our choices. As our society departs increasingly from the ways of God, more misery will deeply injure and depress human experience. May the Christian church be ready always to care for sinners and sufferers without a self-righteous I told you so.
May we who follow Christ receive all penitents with tenderness and practical helps. But we need more than an emergency room for people wounded by the sexual revolution. We also need a widespread return to the ancient wisdom we all have foolishly disobeyed.
I wrote this book with two yearnings in my heart. First, I yearn for a recovery of joyful confidence in marriage as God originally gave it to us. This requires a humble, thoughtful return to biblical teachings. We will never see human sexuality restored without a rediscovery of Scripture as the consensus of our culture. Second, I yearn for more men and women to experience enduring marital romance. We will never live in the human richness we all desire without our hearts strengthened by divine grace. So I am sending this book into the world as one more effort in my lifelong desire for reformation and revival in our generation. Reformation is the recovery of biblical truth in its redemptive claim on the whole of life. Revival is the renewal of human flourishing by the Holy Spirit according to the gospel. Marriage is one of the primary flashpoints of controversy where we most need both reformation and revival in our times.
My pledge to you, the reader, is that I will try to stay true to the Bible throughout this book. I want to lead you on a brief journey of discovery from the beginning of the Bible to its end, because the Bible is a love story. It is not a hodgepodge of religious thoughts. The Bible