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    How To Deal With A Toxic Taurus
    How To Deal With A Toxic Taurus
    How To Deal With A Toxic Taurus
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    How To Deal With A Toxic Taurus

    By Lorna MacKinnon

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    A toxic Taurus is defined as a Taurus who is continually and persistently bad for you to be around. There is obviously a difference between a wilfully toxic Taurus (hereafter referred to as a Toxic) and a Taurus who exhibits toxic behaviour.
    Have you ever received a phone call and got that sixth sense that the person on the other end of the line is someone you would prefer not to have in your life?
    Does the thought of someone who adds no value to your life makes you realise how obnoxious and vile their behaviour can be and that you’ll tolerate no more of it. You are now reaching the turning point, the point of no return.
    The only ingredient missing is you taking action.
    The longer you let them get away with their behaviour, the more intense it becomes and the more difficult it is to get rid of them. The danger exists so you need to act quickly and decisively.
    This extensively researched book will help you with identifying, targeting and dealing with the Noxious Nine Toxic Types. The Toxic Taurus that you are dealing with will be one or more of these.
    These people could be anyone you engage with. The common denominator is how they make you feel and if you really want their presence in your existence to continue. Remember, it’s your life and it’s your choice who you allow into it.
    Do you want to waste any more time on toxic individuals? Maybe you should consider adopting a different and much more proactive strategy.
    Why wait? Negotiate with them. If that possibility is exhausted, just root them out and eliminate them from your circle of people.
    The objective of this book is to inform you how to identify the toxic individuals that contaminate your life. It outlines strategies for communicating your concerns to them and then describes the process for ejecting them from your life. Once you’ve done this, you free up vital energies for doing things that you want to do and no longer need to pay any attention to them.
    It walks you through the twelve Zodiac signs and explores Moon signs (emotions), Mars signs (levels of aggression and likely triggers, self-centredness), Mercury signs (communication style and how the person processes information) and Venus sign (behaviour in romance including controlling behaviour and jealousy). By studying this you get to know your enemy and know yourself.
    The twelve Zodiac signs are mapped onto the Nine Toxic Types and the ten types of people most likely to become victims of Toxics. How To Deal With A Toxic Taurus also covers how easy the twelve Zodiac signs find it to get rid of Toxics along with their likelihood of becoming victims of toxic behaviour or exhibiting it.
    Comprehensive strategies are outlined for dealing with Toxic Taurus and eliminating them from your life. Also addressed is the contentious issue of whether or not you should don your military fatigues, tool up with your metaphorical weapons of choice, marshal your resources and engage in trench warfare with your Toxic adversary.
    Once you are a Toxic-free zone, it’s important to ensure that you spend your time with the right people and ensure that another Toxic does not sneak into your life. These strategies apply irrespective of Toxic’s star sign.
    Although Toxics are rarely a laughing matter, some of this information is presented in a humorous light, which helps you to enjoy, remember and act. It can also put things into perspective and helps you remember that there is a world that is much richer and more interesting than many of us think. This also helps put the Toxic in their rightful place – permanently out of your life.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherLorna MacKinnon
    Release dateAug 27, 2016
    ISBN9781370159062
    How To Deal With A Toxic Taurus
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    Lorna MacKinnon

    Who is this Lorna MacKinnon and why should you care? Because she knows her stuff and everything she writes is about you, about your Sun sign and how you can understand all that you need to know about it. Know yourself as Socrates said, right? If you don’t know yourself and what you want, how can you possibly be expected to get it? Your Sun sign is about eighty percent of your astrological profile. So if you can master your understanding of this and take the appropriate action to obtain your desires, only you know what you can achieve. Given this knowledge and how you apply it, you really can write the narrative of your own life. Work out your strengths and how to really maximise them. Understand your weaknesses and determine how to transform them into strengths. Make your perceived weakest link your strongest. Rewrite your past history and reshape your memories into things that are positive and empowering, so that everything really works out for you. Create a powerful, motivational self-fulfilling prophecy that encourages you to move forward, shaping events as opposed to being their slave, getting what you want instead of accepting what others think you should be content with. These books are about you, not about the author. The only ‘writer’s voice’ you will hear is the one that informs, entertains and encourages you. It’s now time to write your own script and act out the drama of your own life, not ones that you previously thought had been chosen for you. Predestination is passe and karma is callow, right? If you feel that this can spur you to think, strategize and act, then follow the blog, buy the books and take action. Become your best, who you really want to be. Nobody else will do it for you.

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      How To Deal With A Toxic Taurus - Lorna MacKinnon

      Introduction

      This is your life and it’s ending one minute at a time.

      ― Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club

      The mission of How To Deal With A Toxic Taurus is to enable you to identify, deal with and eliminate toxic Taureans who add no value to your life and actively sabotage it. You can see it as an instruction manual with a clear call to action. It draws on astrology, neuroscience, psychology and philosophy, repurposing proven techniques to empower you to deal with toxic influences in your life.

      A Toxic Taurus is defined as a Taurus who is continually and persistently bad for you to be around. They regularly manipulate and undermine you and take great joy in your misery whilst pretending to be your friend. Their presence is pernicious and injurious to your psychological and physical wellbeing. They think they have an inalienable right to provoke, pry and interfere in whatever you do. They delight in breaching any boundaries you have drawn in an attempt to deal with their unwanted presence or behaviour. They do not respect you – not at all, no matter what they say or appear to do to convince you otherwise.

      There is obviously a difference between a wilfully toxic Taurus (hereafter referred to as a Toxic) and a person who exhibits toxic behaviour. Toxic behaviour won’t be the way the second person normally acts – they may be in a state of anger, depression, despair or grief when they behave in a toxic manner, and will simply be expressing how they feel at that point in time. They won’t always use that behaviour in a purposeful and exploitative manner.

      The Toxic Taurus, however, is characterised by a series of behaviours, all of which are designed to manipulate you. A normal individual will usually see the error of their toxic behaviour, often be mortified and will invariably apologise and attempt to make things right with you. A Toxic will do none of these things and will ‘get off’ on trying to manipulate you by whatever means they can, only ‘apologising’ if it’s part of their scheme to dominate you.

      Have you ever received a phone call and got that sixth sense that the person on the other end of the line is someone you would prefer not to have in your life? Do you let the phone ring or grudgingly, out of a sense of misplaced duty and being sociable, answer the caller? Then collapse into a profanity spewing jelly the moment the call has ended? Your Toxic Taurus is winning. You answered their call despite your reservations and now you are suffering the consequences.

      Ever been in that situation when you’ve been strolling happily along the pavement, smiling away or whistling merrily? Then you notice someone in the distance, who makes your heart slide into the gutter; so potentially dancing with death, you cross the busy road to avoid them? Once again the Toxic Taurus wins. They’ve got to the point where they’re controlling your behaviour even though you’ve avoided their physical presence. It’s gone beyond the stage of not wanting to meet them – now you can’t even tolerate the anticipation of meeting them.

      Walking into work, are you filled with a sense of impending menace and negativity as you worry about the effect your bullying boss or corrosive co-workers are having on you? Do you sometimes call in sick just to avoid them?

      Do you ever receive an email and decide not to open it, as you just oh-so-do-not want to read the stream of banal, pedestrian and predictable vitriol? You are under the influence of a CyberToxic, who thinks they can attack you anytime, anyplace, and anywhere.

      When you log onto your social networking sites, do you detect that a certain individual has been grubbing around, trying to find out as much about you as they can, so they can use this information to threaten or manipulate you later? Do they have a blog and do you ever check in to see what lies they are spreading about you just for malice or to big them up, or how they are publically emoting about you because of some perceived relationship that only exists in their mind?

      At Christmas time, are you filled with dread and nausea as you receive the inevitable invitation to the annual family bash, where you know retribution, argument and bad feelings are the order of the day as the alcohol flows and everyone, inhibitions long gone, decides to tell the rest of family what they really think about you? Do you attend these festive events because it’s expected of you and you want to stake your claim to your inheritance, or because you genuinely enjoy meeting your corrosive kith and kin?

      Perhaps the thought of someone who adds no value to your life makes you realise how obnoxious and vile their behaviour can be and that you’ll tolerate no more of it. You are now reaching the turning point, the point of no return.

      The only ingredient missing is you taking action.

      Welcome to the world of the toxic individual, someone you would prefer to avoid at all costs as they drain your energy and potentially make you feel awful about yourself. This may or may not be their intention. That’s not the issue here as their motivation is irrelevant when all that matters is the final outcome – the negative effect they continue to have on you.

      A Toxic Taurus is a cancer of the soul that metastases the longer you allow them to remain in your life. Sometimes they can progress rapidly from simply being background noise level irritation to demoralising harassment and stalking, both of which are criminal activities in many jurisdictions. The longer you let them get away with their behaviour, the more intense it becomes and the more difficult it is to get rid of them. The danger exists so you need to act quickly and decisively.

      Forewarned is forearmed. Bad things can happen to good people and exposure to a Toxic Taurus is a salutary example. That this has taken place is not your fault or any reflection on your character. It’s just something that has happened and, like any disease that can get worse, has to be dealt with in a forthright and effective manner.

      This extensively researched book will help you with identifying, targeting and dealing with the Noxious Nine Toxic Taurus Types.

      For example, you’ll learn about the Necrotic Narcissist, whose insistence on their own importance at the expense of yours can wear you down and leave you demoralised and disempowered by their continually wailing ‘me, me, me’ at the expense of ‘you’ mantra. You’ll encounter the Dream Destroyer, who can’t wait to tell you why anything you try to achieve will end in the ashes of failure and that it will all be your fault. The Black Cloud will be exposed, the type of Toxic Taurus who’ll spend all their time and energy leaching the life out of you, enshrouding you in their own misery and depression, never being happier than when you are down and demoralised.

      Which leaves six more Toxic Types for you to explore.

      These people could be your colleagues, bosses and fellow students, past friends, acquaintances, and ex-lovers, even members of your family. Or simply someone you’ve recently met who's already crossing all of your boundaries and giving you that icky feeling of impending unpleasantness. You may not even have met them – they could turn out to be someone several thousand miles away who’s been watching your every move on a social networking site and taken exception to something about you.

      The common denominator is how they make you feel and if you really want their presence in your existence to continue. Remember, it’s your life and it’s getting shorter by the second. It’s your choice who you allow into it and also who you don’t want as they provide no pleasure or support and undermine your wellbeing.

      Being your ‘friend’ is not a basic human right – it’s something you extend to those who deserve it. A Toxic Taurus will sometimes try to justify their behaviour by getting emotionally incontinent and gushing about having their ‘needs met’ or ‘avoiding getting upset’. Well, your needs are paramount and they are best served by getting this toxic influence out of your life for good.

      When people persistently and deliberately step over the line and become Toxic, you realise that you owe them no duty of care whatsoever, no matter what manipulative entreaties and behaviour they come up with. They’ll try anything they can to stay in your life, from low level manipulation sometimes accompanied by psychological or physical threats, to trying to get your friends on board, thereby tainting existing relationships with their neediness and attempts to make you feel guilty.

      So do you want to waste any more time on toxic individuals? Maybe you should consider adopting a different and much more proactive strategy.

      Why wait and passively surrender control to them? Negotiate with them – make them understand the error of their ways and how they should recalibrate their behaviour. Clearly and dispassionately outline the consequences if they fail to act on this. If that possibility is exhausted, just root them out and eliminate them from your circle of people. They’ve been given their chance and haven’t lived up to their commitment – now it’s time for you to deliver on your promise.

      The objective of this book is to inform you how to identify the toxic individuals that contaminate your life. It outlines strategies for communicating your concerns to them and then describes the process for ejecting them from your life, physically, psychologically and emotionally.

      How To Get Rid Of A Toxic Taurus also covers how easy the twelve Zodiac signs find it to get rid of a Toxic Taurus along with their likelihood of becoming victims of toxic behaviour or exhibiting it.

      Once you’ve done this, you free up vital energies for doing things that you want to do and no longer need to pay any attention to them.

      Comprehensive strategies are outlined for dealing with Toxic Taureans and eliminating them from your life. The issues of eradicating CyberToxics (the type that harass and stalk you via the Internet and various online devices) are explored in depth. It’s also clear that a Toxic may leave some psychological baggage even when you have discharged them from your life, so strategies for destroying any lingering toxic residue in your mind are discussed.

      Also addressed is the contentious issue of whether or not you should don your military fatigues, tool up with your metaphorical weapons of choice, marshal your resources and engage in trench warfare with your Toxic adversary.

      Toxic family members or colleagues, the types you currently can’t escape being physically exposed to, are covered. Sometimes clusters of Toxics confront you, and in this case, different techniques are required.

      Once you are a Toxic-free zone, it’s important to ensure that you spend your time with the right people and ensure that another Toxic does not sneak into your life. So this book discusses the matter of choosing the right friends and working out when one may go rogue and turn out to be Toxic.

      Although Toxics are rarely a laughing matter, some of this information is presented in a humorous light, which helps you to enjoy, remember and act. It can also put things into perspective and helps you remember that there is a world that is much richer and more interesting than many of us think. This also helps put the Toxic in their rightful place – permanently out of your life.

      Terminating the Toxicity in Your Life

      Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

      – Steve Jobs

      Your life is getting shorter by the second and you can’t afford to let it be hijacked by a Toxic Taurus. Your mission therefore is to identify and eliminate them from your life.

      A pragmatic and motivating starting point is to do a people audit and work out whom you really like and whoever makes your heart sink when you think about them. List your family, friends and acquaintances, divide them into must haves, nice to knows, neutrals and toxics. Obviously different strategies will be necessary for each type, but this exercise makes you think about your relationships in a very focussed way.

      Be brutally honest and realistic about this. This is your life, right?

      Make your hit list of the Toxics and be unambiguous. If you have any doubts, remember the negative impact they have on you, and that once you are rid of them, the Toxics will soon find others to abuse or to join their pity party. They become the monkey on someone else’s back, but no longer yours.

      If that thought inspires and excites you, creating a wonderful heart-warming sense of relief and blissful joy, you know what you have to do. Also you will be assisting the Toxic to find more interesting and fulfilling things to do rather than spend all their time annoying you.

      A win-win situation for all, do you not agree?

      Consider using the Friend Ranking Quadrant (FRQ) to obtain a realistic appraisal of your friends and acquaintances.

      You’ll soon see who adds value to your life – awesome friends who are always there for you who bring joy into your life and who you always look forward to seeing. And as a corollary, those who detract value – even thinking about them creates a dark negative cloud over your head.

      Closely consider the people in your life and work out where they fit in the quadrant. This adds clarity if done with honesty and the Toxic box on the lower right hand side forms your hit list.

      If you want a golden rule that will fit everything, this is it: have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful.

      ― William Morris

      William Morris, the touchstone of eloquence on matters of interior design and the art of living also offers a marvellous philosophy to apply to the people in your life. Where do they stand in terms of adding value, being useful, beautiful or just life enhancingly amazing to be around?

      So you’ve worked out your best friends, people you really care about and so on. Then there’s the people you are happy to hang out with but are not too close to, and then there are those whom you tolerate or are indifferent to.

      Now, what’s left at the end of this process of distillation? Your Toxic hit list that’s what. Consider these people and how they make you feel. If there is no ambiguity about their constant negative impact, they are the ones you need to jettison.

      There is a growing trend towards minimalism, decluttering and simplifying things (the US small house movement is a fascinating and sustainable example of this). People are beginning to see the benefits of cutting cost and clutter and stripping their life to a few essentials that add and enhance value.

      The things you used to own, now they own you.

      ― Chuck Palahniuk

      Remember, the more possessions you have, the more they own you – you need to pay for their acquisition, upkeep, maintenance, space to keep them in, insurance and so on. Then you worry if they get stolen or damaged or, in the case of an investment’, lose value. If you are into Buddhism, you might view this as a salutary example of the Second Noble Truth – that suffering is caused by craving, attachment and ignorance. Psychologists call this ‘hedonic adaptation’. The more you have, the more you want, and the more you become dissatisfied with what you already have, thus creating a vicious circle.

      The same goes for people in your life. Are the high maintenance and unpleasant ones really worth the investment in time, energy and emotional commitment?

      No matter where or what, there are makers, takers, and fakers.

      ― Robert Heinlein

      This illuminating quote from one of the masters of Science Fiction can also be used to help grade people you know and assess their levels of value or toxicity. The value that people add to your life can be positive or negative. Think about whom you know and work out which of the three they are. Do they take more than they give, are they false to you, or do they make your life a pleasure to experience?

      Are there any overlaps? Imagine this as a Venn diagram. Most people will have a mixture of these traits, in varying proportions.

      In fact, which are you?

      Toxic Zodiac

      The Toxic Zodiac – Villains and Victims

      Moon Sign

      In astrology the Moon Sign represents the secret self, the instinctive responses, the imprinted emotional and habit patterns of each personality. For the most part these are kept firmly under wraps but that does not mean that they are insignificant in affecting the way each personality operates.

      Moon sign behaviour is most visible in times of crisis or trauma, and when an individual is under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Any one of these is capable of knocking out the upper two levels of personality (the sun sign, which represents the ego drive and the ascendant, representing the projected personality) to reveal the secret self, hiding away beneath then. No wonder the Romans came up with the saying - In vino veritas, literally, ‘When drunk, the truth.’

      For a man it represents his anima and what he looks for in a woman.

      The Moon in a Water sign bestows a greater tendency to resort to emotional manipulation (and to be very good at it). The moon in a Fire sign indicates someone more likely to explode with rage and threaten. The Moon in an Earth sign makes for a judgemental, cold and hypercritical nature. It also makes for an irritable person. Moon in Air signs will talk about anything other than how the actually feel.

      Mars Signs

      The sign in which Mars resides in a person’s birth (natal) chart indicates how you will respond to sexual stimuli. It is directly linked to sex drive, the way in which you will pursue and treat your partner, your physicality and stamina and your need for self-assertion. Because Mars is so strongly linked with competitiveness, impulsiveness, assertiveness (and aggression) it has much to do with the projection of personality. The Mars position also indicates whether your energies are going to be largely physical (fire signs Aries, Leo, Sagittarius), material (earth signs Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn), mental (air signs Gemini, Libra, Aquarius), or emotional (water signs Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces).

      It also indicates how selfish a person is likely to be and also how aggressive/confrontational they are likely to be. Mars in the Fire signs makes for volatile folk with volcanic tempers particularly if the feel disrespected (Leo), thwarted or made to wait (Aries) and restricted (Sagittarius). Fortunately their temper usually subsides pretty quickly.

      Mars in Air sign people use words as weapons and they can certainly wound. Mars in Gemini sees red at what they see as stupidity (wilful or otherwise), Mars in Libra lets rip when the see injustice and Mars in Aquarius lambasts anybody who threatens their freedom.

      Mars in Earth sign people stubborn and possessive. They will respond to a threat to their finances (Mars in Taurus), way of working (Mars in Virgo) or reputation (Mars in Capricorn) by stonewalling and cold withdrawal initially. Then, if necessary, they will take calculated retaliatory actions. They will keep taking these until satisfied with the outcome.

      Mars in Water signs use emotional blackmail to get their way. While they do not go out of their way to provoke arguments (or fights) they will fight ‘dirty’ when feeling threatened. Mars in Cancer gets roused when their security and territory are threatened, Mars in Scorpio gets enraged when their privacy is threatened and Mars in Pisces gets defensive when they feel that they are being forced to do something they don’t want to. Mars in water sign people bear grudges for a long time, fight dirty and don’t give up until they’ve got their revenge.

      Of all the Mars signs Mars in Scorpio is the most ruthless and vengeful when they feel that they have been wronged.

      When considering entering into a relationship looking at a potential partner’s Mars sign (plus your own) comes in useful when looking to see how compatible you might be and also to see how a partner might pursue and treat you if they win your heart.

      Venus Sign

      None of us stays exactly the way we were on our wedding day, or our first date, or that wonderful day we first fell in love. This does not mean, however, that love withers and dies after those first, brief intense moments of excitement and sheer bliss. It does not have to be downhill from that moment you commit to each other. It is perfectly possible to have plenty of peak experiences in long-term relationships without cheating! That’s what happens when love grows.

      There is a school of thought that subscribes to the theory that there are people who are incapable of love and marriage; in fact, some of us even believe it about ourselves. Not all of us were born with qualities like trust, respect, loyalty, honesty, openness, commitment and supportiveness. We might not have been lucky enough to learn how to develop those qualities from our parents. How could we if we never saw them relate to each other in that way? This is not to say that we can’t acquire those qualities for ourselves, if we love each other enough to put the effort in. There are plenty of books and gurus out there to help us. Our best mate may even give us a few tips.

      What has this to do with astrology, you may ask? Well, there are some people who feel that there are zodiac signs incapable of lasting fidelity and devotion. They believe that certain astrological types are destined to be unfaithful. Not so, while some signs or aspects may find faithfulness to just one person difficult, it is by no means impossible if you are willing to change and grow. That can happen when someone is too good to lose or when repeated failed relationships begin to cost you dear.

      The following aspects often make it challenging (but not impossible) to mature and grow in love. All this means is that you will have to work that bit harder to sustain long-term relationships. Fortunately astrology tells us where difficulties are likely to arise and, most importantly, holds the key to overcoming them. With this in mind let’s turn our attention to those challenging aspects and planets!

      When Uranus conjoins, opposes or squares the love-and-marriage planet, Venus, in the natal chart, you are predisposed to getting bored in relationships. Then you can grow restless and look to someone else for excitement rather than staying put and injecting it into your daily lives together.

      If you have any of these aspects, recognize such tendencies within yourself. Don't make promises or commitments on the spur of the moment. You really need to develop the emotional maturity needed to appreciate the deep and tranquil, but no less exciting, happiness that comes from a long relationship which goes from strength to strength as you learn more about each other. Look for a partner that will stand their ground and not succumb to your habitual use of childlike guile to get your way. Being charming is less than cute if you leave a trail of broken hearts in your wake!

      Uranus in the natal 5th house of love or the 7th house of marriage may exhibit some of these same tendencies.

      Venus conjunct, square or opposite Neptune is the hallmark of the hopeless romantic. These are the people who believe that, like Cinderella, they will leave happily ever after with their perfect partner. . While there are plenty of people of people who achieve this state of bliss, it does require a great deal of work, something, which surprises our hopeless romantic! If the relationship goes through a bad patch you may find yourself consumed with an irresistible urge to seek comfort in the arms of another until the same thing happens with this relationship. Also, this non-solution feels intrinsically wrong to you, because you sense that you are going against everything that love stands for, and you are right! Look for a partner who will love, respect and support you while not allowing you to become too divorced from reality. With this type of a partner you will be able to have the romantic love you seek and to feel rightly proud of the noble sacrifices that you make for love.

      Those with Venus conjunct, square or opposite either the Moon or Mars are very emotional people. This is a double-edged sword and can be used to your advantage if you can channel all that emotional energy into improving your relationship rather than just emoting about it!

      Those people with Venus conjunct, square or opposite either Saturn or Pluto frequently have deep-seated insecurities and if you have this aspect, you may be absolutely convinced that nobody will ever truly love you. You may need to put some work into remembering those times when people did love you and setting up an strong ‘anchor’ or ‘trigger’ to access those memories when insecurity threatens to destroy your relationships. Failure to do this may lead y to you becoming jealous and possessive with loved ones. To combat this tendency and to help you gain the security that you crave; tell your partner that you need reassurance and affection, and tell him or her why you do. When they understand that it comes from insecurity and not a desire to own them, most loving partners will respond exactly the way you dreamed they would.

      If you love someone enough to improve yourself for them, while not ending up resenting them for ‘forcing’ you to make those changes, real love is by no means unattainable. To maximise your chances of success, you and your partner should read about your Venus signs below, and the signs on your 7th house cusps.

      Mercury Signs

      The placement of Mercury, the planet associated with the way we communicate and process information, affects the way we express ourselves and how we analyse and interpret information. Are we, for example, someone who thinks and communicates at lightning speed or are we someone who takes their time to respond to questions? Do we think in a linear and structured manner or are we more intuitive? Mercury also represents travel both mental and physical.

      When it comes to relationships knowing you partner’s Mercury sign along with your own is a useful indicator of how similar your communication styles are likely to be. Is one of your talkative while the other appears to be more reserved? Does one of you ague forcefully while the other sits there in stony silence? Does one of you shoot from the hip while the other takes their time to respond? Does one of you always have a witty put down to hand while the other only comes up with a pithy response half an hour after the conversation has ended?

      Rising Signs Or Just To Make Things More Complicated...

      A person is most likely to act and appear like their Sun sign if their Ascendant (Rising) sign is the same as their Sun sign. In general, the Ascendant often describes half to two-thirds, of a person’s physical appearance, and the Sun sign, roughly one-third.

      When people first meet you what they meet is your Ascendant or Rising sign, so for example if you’re a Leo and your ascendant sign is Capricorn you’ll look and act like a Capricorn until people get to know you better. Then Leo will make its presence felt and people will wonder how they could have been so wrong about you.

      Imagine your Rising sign as being like a protective suit that you wear until you feel comfortable enough to shed your protective layer and let your Sun sign shine through. As the Ascendant sign shows an individual's first, natural reaction to new people and situations it is what you will see when meeting a person for the first time. When they meet you for the first time they will be meeting and greeting your Ascendant. This partly explains why someone can like a person initially but indifferent or hostile when they get to know that person better. It also goes some way to explaining why a person can appear to all sweetness and light initially and then turn completely toxic once you have the joy of getting to knowing them better!

      Aggressive Aries

      Aries Sun/Planets In Aries

      A Toxic Taurus with planets in Aries can exhibit the following traits, which can also put them at risk of being the victim of a Toxic:

      Appalling judge of character

      Boorish

      Brash

      Domineering

      Ruthless determination to become the boss

      Loathes being told what to do

      Egotistical

      Impulsive and wilful

      Intolerant

      Jealous

      Rarely listens

      Selfish

      Completely insensitive

      Aggressive, selectively

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