On Becoming a Teen Mom: Life before Pregnancy
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In this myth-shattering book, the authors tell the life stories of 108 brown, white, and black teen mothers, exposing the problems in their lives often overlooked in pregnancy prevention campaigns. Some stories are tragic and painful, marked by sexual abuse, partner violence, and school failure. Others depict "girl next door" characters whose unintended pregnancies lay bare insidious gender disparities. Offering a fresh perspective on the links between teen births and social inequalities, this book demonstrates how the intersecting hierarchies of gender, race, and class shape the biographies of young mothers.
Mary Patrice Erdmans
Mary Patrice Erdmans is Associate Professor of Sociology at Case Western Reserve University. She is the author of The Grasinski Girls: The Choices They Had and the Choices They Made. Timothy Black is Associate Professor of Sociology at Case Western Reserve University. He is the author of When a Heart Turns Rock Solid: The Lives of Three Puerto Rican Brothers On and Off the Streets.
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On Becoming a Teen Mom - Mary Patrice Erdmans
Praise for On Becoming a Teen Mom
An illuminating, inspiring, often heartbreaking investigation into the lifeworlds of teenage moms. The authors bypass stale moral panic agendas, instead creating space for the young women to speak their own truths, in their own words, while skillfully answering the forgotten question, who are these kids?
Donna Gaines, author of Teenage Wasteland and A Misfit’s Manifesto
A revealing exploration of the complex reality and surprising diversity behind the stereotypes of teen motherhood. Mary Patrice Erdmans and Timothy Black combine personal life histories with rigorous argument to show how teen pregnancy in America is the outcome rather than the cause of impoverished neighborhoods, stressed families, and educational inequities.
Stephanie Coontz, author of The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap
"On Becoming a Teen Mom is a welcome counterweight to reductionist and pathologizing accounts of adolescent mothers. This book is a must-read for anyone who wants to get beyond pearl clutching and move toward supporting pregnant and parenting teenagers."
Jeanne Flavin, author of Our Bodies, Our Crimes: The Policing of Women’s Reproduction in America
"On Becoming a Teen Mom offers one of the deepest investigations into teen pregnancy that I have seen. Until we begin to address issues systemically, the ‘problem’ of teen pregnancy and the real problems young mothers face will not go away. This book is a significant and important contribution toward that effort."
Wanda S. Pillow, author of Unfit Subjects: Education Policy and the Teen Mother, 1972–2002
By interpreting common themes in the life histories of the many teen mothers they interviewed, these authors question the assumption that their futures were completely promising before they became young mothers, or that their early motherhood compromised their futures any further. We need to listen to these young women, and policy targets need to be earlier, broader, and deeper than individual sexual, contraceptive, or pregnancy behavior alone.
Arline T. Geronimus, Fellow, Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences, Stanford University
"On Becoming a Teen Mom powerfully reminds us that any serious discussion of the causes and consequences of teen motherhood is incomplete if it fails to account for the larger social forces at play in girls’ lives."
Lorena Garcia, Associate Professor of Sociology and Latin American and Latino Studies, University of Illinois at Chicago
The writing pulled me in—accessible, serious, straightforward. Once I started reading, I couldn’t put down this compelling and disturbing book on the tragedy that is structural inequality.
Alisse Waterston, author of My Father’s Wars: Migration, Memory, and the Violence of a Century
While the statistics about teen pregnancy tell one story, this book tells compelling stories about the multi-challenged lives of teen mothers. Mary Patrice Erdmans and Timothy Black have made a major contribution to the understanding of the intersection of teen pregnancy, family and community violence, and poverty in the United States. The voices of these teen mothers need to be heard.
John M. Leventhal, MD, Professor of Pediatrics, Yale School of Medicine
On Becoming a Teen Mom
On Becoming a Teen Mom
Life before Pregnancy
Mary Patrice Erdmans and Timothy Black
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Contents
List of Illustrations
Acknowledgments
Introduction: The Backstory to the Baby
1. The Distraction
2. Young Young Mothers
3. Child Sexual Abuse
4. Violence against Women
5. Education
6. Contraception and Abortion
Conclusion: Getting beyond the Distraction
Appendix A: Listening to Life Stories
Appendix B: Tables
Notes
References
Index
Illustrations
FIGURES
1. Birth Rates for Teens Age 15 to 19, 1940–2010
2. Birth, Pregnancy, and Abortion Rates for Teens Age 15 to 19, 1990–2008
3. Percent of Children Born to Unmarried Women by Age of Mother, 2007
4. Birth Rates for Teens Age 15 to 19 by Race and Hispanic Origin, 1991–2009
5. Pregnancy, Birth, and Abortion Rates for Teens Age 10 to 14, 1990–2008
6. Pregnancy, Birth, and Abortion Rates by Age Group, 2008
TABLES
1. Characteristics of 16 Mothers Pregnant before Age 15
2. Births by Age Groups, 1975–2010
3. Percent of Mothers with Problems in Household While Growing Up
4. Educational Status at Time of Interview
5. Comparison of Mothers Who Dropped Out before the Pregnancy, Dropped Out after the Pregnancy, and Never Dropped Out
6. Percentage of Pregnancies Ending in Abortion by Age, Race, and Hispanic Origin, 1990 and 2004
7. Characteristics of the Sample
8. Age of Mother at Time of Birth for Teen Births in Connecticut, 1998–2010
9. Number and Rate of Births for Teens Age 10 to 14 by Race and Hispanic Origin, 1990–2010
Acknowledgments
We are beholden to the teen mothers who shared their life stories with us. You are amazing women whose wisdom about life and how things work in society far outreaches our own understanding. We do not claim to have done you justice by writing a book based on your stories. Words on a page are not real life. It is thus, with humility, that we thank you for allowing us to examine your life stories and to grapple with some of the larger social issues that concern us.
This project has a long historical reach and we apologize in advance to anyone whose contributions we fail to recognize. We particularly want to thank those scholars who gave generously of their time to read an entire draft of our manuscript at a crucial phase of its development. These include Jamie Fader, Annette Lareau, John Leventhal, Michael Lewis, and Jean Malone. We are grateful to others who read parts of the manuscript at varying stages of the writing process, particularly Steven Adair, Sky Keyes, and members of our writing group in Hartford—Chris Doucot, Jerry Lembcke, Bill Major, Jim Russell, and Lucy Rosenblatt. Katha Pollitt provided Mary with encouraging feedback on the book prospectus at the 2006 Wesleyan Writing Conference. We also thank our reviewers Alisse Waterston and Wanda Pillow for their careful readings, and particularly their methodological and theoretical acuity. We are honored by the mindful attention that all these serious thinkers gave to our work, each engaging the topics differently from their own scholarly locations and lived experiences.
Many assisted us with the interviews, analysis, and administrative and technical work at the University of Hartford, Center for Social Research. We give a hearty thank you to Meredith Damboise, Kristina Dickinson, Madelyn Figueroa, and Bette Decoteau for their help throughout the project. Numerous others worked on particular segments of the research including Ron Albert, Erik Beach, Nicole D’Anna, Mary Ann Gonzalez, Nardine Justinien, Kevin Lamkins, Lauren LoBue, Scott Virgin, Matthew Walker, Denise Washington, and Sarah Zucker. We also want to thank the Family Support Workers of the home-visitation program who helped us gain access to the mothers we interviewed for this study. Finally, we thank Elizabeth Nalepa, Bradley Powell, Michelle Rizzuto, Kimberly Racut, Michael Slone, and Alicia Smith at Case Western Reserve University for their assistance in preparing the manuscript.
The life-story research was funded by the Children’s Trust Fund, now a division of the Department of Social Services of the State of Connecticut. Of course, opinions, findings, and conclusions herein are ours alone and do not reflect the views of this or any other government agency. We are particularly grateful to Karen Foley-Schain for her leadership at the Children’s Trust Fund, for her willingness to take risks to critically examine the statewide home-visitation program that she developed and directed, and for her encouragement and support of our research, public presentations, and publications.
Other support came from institutions that generously allowed Mary time to work on this whale of a project (we had over twenty thousand pages of interview transcripts). We thank Central Connecticut State University for the course releases they granted her in the early stages of data collection and analysis and for the yearlong sabbatical to start writing the book, and Case Western Reserve University for providing release time to revise the manuscript.
We also appreciate the work of Naomi Schneider at University of California Press who enthusiastically supported our book. We appreciate her knowledge and experience, as well as her openness and willingness to collaborate. A team of other experts at the press also helped us get this book through production and to the reading public, including Christopher Lura, Elena McAnespie, Jessica Moll, and Ally Power.
Lastly, Mary thanks her friends Julie Leff (1959–2013), Jean Malone, Nancy Tester, and Katie Voelker, who, over the long course of this project, challenged her logic and tempered her emotions by questioning her assertions. Their critiques motivated us to write in a style that was accessible to a general audience. We want them, and others like them, to understand why some young women become teen mothers.
INTRODUCTION
The Backstory to the Baby
Diane, a twenty-one-year-old white mother¹ with a two-year-old daughter, saw a chain reaction in her life starting with what she called one bad choice:
If I hadn’t slammed the door, then I wouldn’t have angered my mother, and we wouldn’t have gotten in a fight, and I wouldn’t have slapped her, and she wouldn’t have kicked me out, and I wouldn’t have gone to live with my boyfriend, and I wouldn’t be pregnant. [sigh] And so, if I could change anything, I would say I wish I hadn’t slammed that door.
And yet, several things put Diane on the trajectory to early motherhood before she slammed the door: she was failing high school, had been sexually abused as a child, and was angry at her mother for not protecting her. When she left home, she was 18 and had little money. She met a man on a bus, took a job at the fast-food restaurant where he worked, and soon moved in with her new boyfriend,
who was eight years older. He didn’t like to use condoms because they didn’t feel good and she didn’t take birth control pills regularly because she didn’t always have a prescription. Besides, the pill makes me fat,
she complained, and she was told she shouldn’t take the pill if she was smoking and she didn’t want to quit smoking. She figured she hadn’t gotten pregnant yet, and even if she did, well, she always wanted a baby, so, it might be a problem that it came too early, but no baby is really a problem.
After she became pregnant, her boyfriend started to physically abuse her. One night he ripped the phone out of the wall socket and threatened her with a knife; she screamed and a neighbor called the police. They were both arrested—her boyfriend went to jail and she was sent to anger management classes. She took out a restraining order and moved out on her own with support from the state. Living alone with her child in public housing and telling her life story to a researcher sitting in front of her with a tape recorder, she said, I don’t regret having my daughter
—but she wishes she hadn’t slammed that door.
In this book we explain what happened before Diane slammed that door. This book tells the life stories of 108 racially and ethnically diverse mothers who were living in Connecticut when we interviewed them in 2002 and 2003.² Most of them were still teenagers and new mothers, and they talked about their lives before they became pregnant—what it was like growing up, going to school, and living in their neighborhoods. Their backstories place their young births in a biographic stream that winds through social and economic circumstances.
Teen mothers are not a monolithic group and the decision to have a child is not a one-act play. While each life story is unique, when we locate it within a set of social conditions, similar patterns cohere into identifiable trajectories. For example, victims of child sexual abuse often followed a well-trod path: sexual assault as a child, precocious and risky sexual behavior as an adolescent, withdrawal from school, abuse of alcohol and drugs, and finally pregnancy and early motherhood. The goody-two-shoes
student took a different path to motherhood than the gang-affiliated street girl; the 14-year-old mother with a 26-year-old partner had a different relationship with the baby’s father than the 18-year-old who had been dating her same-age boyfriend for several years.
Understanding teen births within a biography adds complexity to statistical snapshots—especially the color
snapshots—that often demonize teen mothers. For instance, in 2013, The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy reported the following in bold letters: 52% of Latinos will become pregnant at least once by age 20—compared to 3 in 10 teen girls overall.
³ Statistics like this tell us nothing about the lives of young Latinas, and unwittingly lend support to those who see the higher rate as an urban pathology that is contributing to a growing Hispanic underclass.
⁴ Black teen mothers have been similarly maligned in the past and present. In 2013, the New York City Public Health Department led a shame campaign by placing public service announcements on trains, on buses, and at transportation stops that showed photos of frowning or crying black (and biracial) children saying such things as I’m twice as likely not to graduate high school because you had me as a teen,
and, Honestly Mom . . . chances are he won’t stay with you. What happens to me?
These statistics and campaigns support a national narrative that casts black and brown teen mothers as threatening the societal moral order, bankrupting public coffers, and contributing to high rates of poverty, incarceration, crime, and school dropout.
Ironically, and sadly, when teen mothers are defined as a problem, rather than a people with problems,
⁵ policies tend to focus on changing behaviors rather than addressing needs. For instance, the problem many poor teen mothers have is that they need money and resources; however, the 1996 Welfare Reform Act defined teen mothers as a problem because they used more state resources, and subsequently, this legislation restricted the very thing they needed most—money and resources. Being defined as a problem also stigmatizes teen mothers, which has its own negative consequences. For example, teenagers who feel ashamed may hide their pregnancies well into their third trimester, reducing prenatal care and jeopardizing the health of the child.
This focus on teen mothers as a problem distracts us from the larger social problems that wreak havoc in the lives of these young women. It is not enough, however, to expose the problems that precede their pregnancies. Certainly you will read about these problems in their stories—often painful narratives of family neglect, partner violence, parental substance abuse, and school failure. Centering their voices in this book runs the risk of bolstering stereotypes and symbolically impugning them with their own words. Instead, we intend to show that their problems are embedded in larger social forces, and that their struggles are related to their social locations. In this regard, we adopt a critical framework that attempts to explain their early births by analyzing how power and domination are structured through hierarchies of race, class, and gender. We begin with their individual stories, but then move outward to identify status hierarchies, public policies, institutional dynamics, national discourses, and systemic deprivation. We do this to disrupt oversimplified, predictive explanations of teen motherhood, and sensitize our readers to the lived experiences of teen mothers. In other words, we want our readers to hear Diane’s voice, her efforts to make sense of her life; but we also want our readers to reflect on how sexual abuse, negative school experiences, and partner violence are lived within the parameters of a white, female, working-class life, and to understand their effects on her trajectory to becoming a teen mother.⁶
The goal of this book is to move the gaze away from the pregnant belly to the life events that preceded the early birth. We do so for two reasons. First, we want to expose problems causing distress in these young women’s lives that often get lost in the glare of the public spotlight on teen moms.
Second, focusing on life events brings into stark relief the social circumstances in which they occur, and we want to suggest that addressing these social circumstances is crucial to transforming their lives.
In chapter 1 we examine how teen mothers have been constructed as the problem, and argue that this prevents us from seeing the more pressing problems evident in the backstories of young mothers’ lives—systemic inequality rooted in patriarchy, poverty, and racism. In subsequent chapters we address these problems. In chapter 2, we focus on young mothers pregnant before they were 15, the young young mothers
or kids having kids.
These teen mothers are the least likely to be prepared for motherhood, but they also represent less than 2 percent of teen mothers in the United States. In this chapter we look at issues related to their young age—parenting practices, sexual exploration, and statutory rape—to show how focusing on the bad parent, the overfertile Latina, and the predatory man distracts us from seeing problems associated with impoverished neighborhoods, racial stereotypes, and female subordination.
In chapter 3, we see that it does not matter whether girls are black, white, or brown—child sexual abuse has serious consequences for them all: it has a negative effect on school performance; it distorts a girl’s understanding of herself, her boundaries, and her sexuality; and relatedly, it makes her vulnerable to teen pregnancy and birth. The silence that often accompanies child sexual abuse enhances the trauma as it buries the injury more deeply into the recesses of the survivor’s consciousness, far from the scrutinizing eyes of the public.
Chapters 3 and 4 have some of the saddest stories in the book. The lives of these girls are mired in violence, deprivation, humiliation, and oppression. Chapter 4 focuses on violence in their households, communities, and relationships. Their stories show how violence shaped life chances and choices. When national and local social hierarchies place women in dehumanizing circumstances, motherhood provides a much-desired counterbalance as a valued identity. Giving birth to another human being is powerful. In these narratives, the mothers talked about how the baby changed my life,
which included coming off the streets, breaking drug addictions, leaving violent men, going back to school, or just staring at their baby’s face to ease their depression.
Chapter 5 turns attention to education and focuses on young mothers who dropped out of school before they were pregnant. In these life stories, we identify the chronology of events that led to school disengagement and teen birth. Both domestic violence and child sexual abuse contributed to school failure, as did the problems of underfunded, racially isolated, underperforming urban schools in Connecticut. The common misbelief that teen births cause school dropout sidetracks us from tackling the more serious problem of cumulative school failure, particularly among poor urban students of color.
Finally, chapter 6 tells a story counter to the national narrative by focusing on the good girls
—those with lives unencumbered by violence, trauma, and academic failure. These 15- to 17-year-old girls were doing well in school, had good relations with their parents, and were not exploited by predatory males. Their pregnancies were unintended. The questions we address in this chapter are about contraception and abortion: why did they not use birth control, why did they carry the pregnancy to term, and why did they keep the child? We look at two barriers to contraception: a national discourse that defines teen sex as risk behavior rather than normal desire, and gender inequalities that complicate intimate relationships.
We conclude by restating our main point. When we take the event that has become reified into a social problem—teen birth—and place it in its biographical and social context, we learn about inadequate household income, child abuse and neglect, poor education, violent households and relationships, subordinate gender identities, and silenced conversations. This full-figured social context helps us to see the silhouettes of gender, class, and racial inequality. Our task is to use their life stories to show how structural inequality shapes a biography and to suggest that the best way to help teen mothers is to confront these larger inequalities.
LISTENING TO THEIR LIFE STORIES
The young mothers in our study were recruited from a statewide home-visitation program for first-time mothers in Connecticut. We give an overview of the home-visitation program, research methods, and study population in chapter 1 and appendix A. We worked together with program supervisors and home visitors across 15 program sites to identify mothers for the study.⁷ Home visitors encouraged mothers to participate in the study and, if they agreed, their names and contact information were passed along to us. As we tell the stories of these mothers, keep in mind that they were recruited from disadvantaged populations. The mothers are not representative of all blacks, or Latinas, or whites, or representative of the working class or marginalized poor more generally. They are a sample of a more disadvantaged population—but then, so are most teen mothers.
In their life stories, these young mothers are trying to explain how they became mothers. They tell their stories as a sequence of concrete experiences that include slamming doors, slapping faces, and slitting the tires of unfaithful partners. As sociologists, we tell a different story, but a story that comes from two lengthy interview sessions and our professional lives as sociological storytellers.
The life story is not simply a chronology of what happened—this and then that. It is a story
that makes sense of what happened so that this
is connected to that.
⁸ People anchor life stories around pivotal events that give meaning to their present lives.⁹ Motherhood is a pivotal event in a woman’s life and these mothers described this to us, in part because they were in a home-visitation program for first-time mothers. But they also described many other pivotal events—or turning points—that created dramatic changes in their lives so that they talked about before
and after
concepts of self.¹⁰ For example, one mother, Bonnie, who was raped, said, "after that I started getting wild, doing drugs, skipping school. In her life story, she also talked about an
aha turning point that led to her recovery from drug abuse. She said she
woke up" after her heroin-dependent aunt died of AIDS. Other mothers referred to dramatic life events such as a serious accident, the death of a sibling, or the incarceration of a parent as turning points. In this book we examine these turning points or pivotal moments that preceded the young birth.
Interpreting their narratives, we listened to not only the content, but also the form—that is, how they talked about their lives. For instance, the hidden, obtuse, indirect ways that stories of child sexual abuse entered into narratives were instructive. Some used clinical terms, revealing a history of therapy; others used legal and medical words they mispronounced; some cried while others presented the facts in monotone; some slipped the abuse into the story but refused to elaborate, while others made it a prominent feature. We also listened to how they talked about the pregnancy and analyzed what it meant, for example, when the baby suddenly appeared in the story (and then I got pregnant
) without any discussion of a relationship, growing intimacy, or contraception. We heard how the fetus was an it
when they considered terminating the pregnancy and was referred to as my baby
when they decided not to abort.
We begin each chapter with one or two life stories. These five- to 10-page first-person accounts are distilled from more than a hundred pages of transcript, and represent the important events, relationships, and circumstances in their lives leading up to the pregnancy. In the rest of the chapter, we then tell our own sociological story that identifies patterns, trajectories, and sociohistoric contexts in order to interpret their life stories. While life stories and their analyses invoke complexity—a responsibility that we try to honor in this book—the purpose of this research is to understand better how race, social class, and, in particular, gender inequalities shaped their lives. As such, we go back and forth between their concrete, first-person life stories and our interpretive, third-person analyses to show how structural inequalities are manifest in individual biographies.
We start with the life story of Ivalesse. In her story, patriarchy gets expressed in the violence she suffered at the hands of her father, a cousin, and her partner. Poverty is reflected in her underfunded school, violent neighborhood, and the fact that even though she worked constantly in the legal labor market, she remained poor. And racial and ethnic inequality is found in the backstory of colonization that sets the stage for circular migration between Puerto Rico and the US mainland and the high rates of poverty in Puerto Rican communities in Connecticut.
CHAPTER 1
The Distraction
IVALESSE: I HAVE TO DO FOR MY OWN
Ivalesse was born in Connecticut, raised in Puerto Rico, and returned to Connecticut when she was 13, becoming pregnant two years later. The interview was conducted in a weave of Spanish and English. Ivalesse and her two younger brothers were adopted when she was young. Her adoptive mother had a ninth-grade education and her adoptive father finished sixth grade (she refers to them as her mother and father). At the time of the interview, Ivalesse was 20 and had two children. Her story illustrates many of the themes developed in subsequent chapters: strict parenting strategies, child sexual abuse, partner violence, impoverished and neglected neighborhoods, inadequate schools, and barriers to contracepting.
I was sexually molested when I was a child by a friend of my family. I had to be less than six years old. He used to molest my brother too. Every time that guy used to come, we used to hide each other. I haven’t seen him for like so long and honestly I don’t want to see him. I tried to black it out. It’s like I put it to one side of my brain, decided I don’t want to be bothered with that section; it’s like I don’t want to remember anything. What I want to do is, I want to forget.
* * * * *
My mother’s really caring for her children, she’s really loving, you know, she’s there when you need her. She never turns her back on you no matter what. She’s what we call the perfect mother because she, she’s, she’s everything. She’s the head of the family even though we have my father.
My mother would never hit you, she talks and she lets you know you did it wrong. My father is the one that likes to hit. He’s the one, if he gets out of control, he’ll hit you with whatever he finds—one time he actually hit me with his hand and he had a big ring. He slapped me right on the mouth and I got cut. My mother’s more of a calm person, she knows that hitting you is not going to solve anything. What it’s going to get you to do is catch that anger, hold it inside so you’re going to hate them.
My mother has to see what’s going on with a situation, but my father, his word is the last thing. I used to clean the kitchen and mop the floor every single day, and my mother let me go out to a friend’s house three streets away, and so one day I said, I’m done with the kitchen will you let me go out with my friends?
My mother was like, yeah sure it’s no problem,
but when [my friends] came to pick me up, [my father] didn’t let me go. So, my mother wanted to give me a little more liberty, but him, no. I think that’s one of the reasons I got my boyfriend and had my children, you know, I didn’t have any liberty. I didn’t have any privacy, [my father] is coming to check all your drawers, whatever you have there. And I don’t think that was fair you know.
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I’m in high school now; this is my senior year. I’m going to graduate as a CNA [Certified Nursing Assistant] and [with] my high school diploma, so I’ll be able to get a job and then go on to college. The high school I’m at doesn’t have books. They’re so behind. They actually have come out in the papers that we’re the worst school in Hartford. They don’t have the supplies for the school, um, the teachers are, well, you know, high school is supposed to educate for two stuff in life: it’s either to confront the real world outside the school, [or] for college—and we’re not getting that type of education.
I’m a pretty good student, not an honor student, but a pretty good student. I was supposed to graduate last year but I didn’t have enough credits, so the only reason I go to school is to get those three credits—math, USA history, and civil rights and biography—so I’ll be able to get my diploma. That’s all I really care about. My certification for CNA I’m done with.
I took general courses until my sophomore year. In my sophomore year, this teacher was doing a presentation about the Allied Health Group and one English teacher tells me, You should get into the Allied Health. That’d be good for you, you have a kid and when you finish school you would be able to have a job and then if you want to go on, you would go to whatever college is here.
It was not a bad idea. And actually, because that teacher, I have my CNA certification when I graduate.
I never dropped out. When I got pregnant [at age 15], I was in eighth grade for my daughter; then for my son I was in high school already, so I didn’t drop out because they [my parents] were like, If you drop out of school you aren’t going to be anybody. You’re going to be working in a factory and we don’t want you to do that. We want you to go to college or if you don’t go to college, just please finish school, things are going to be so much easier for you.
So that’s what I’m doing, I was like, hey it’s true if I don’t want to work in a factory when I just make what, $7.00 an hour at minimum wage. No. I prefer to have a job that pays well and, like, CNA is a job that so many people depend on you and it’s in the health care. It’s a pretty good job. Then you go to college and you get to be an RN. So those are the plans that I have right now. Just keep going. I have to do for my own, nobody else is going to do it for me.
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Luis is my husband. [He is the father of both her children; they are not legally married.] He is in jail. This is his second time. He was in for 10 months; he violated the probation so he’s back in again. He always calls or he writes. I go to see him like twice a week, depends what days I have off. He’s in the Young Man’s Institute and thank God it’s not that far, but what I do is one day I bring his son and the other day I’ll bring his daughter. So he gets to see them. His daughter actually gets to talk to him.
I met him at West Side Middle School. We were in seventh grade. He’s older than me by a few months. In science class I noticed he was looking back and so one day he decided to ask me out. I started laughing. I was like No. And after that we started just being friends. We used to talk, we used to make fun of stuff. I think it was for his birthday, at school, I kissed him and after that I was trying to help him out with schoolwork and everything so he started coming to my house. I started showing him to my parents, you know, he was my friend and everything and then he asked me out and since then our relationship started. We used to do everything. We used to play like little children outside. We used to talk for hours. We used to get together in a group, all our friends and stuff like that. So it’s been six years now.
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I went to the doctor because I always had a regular period and he comes and tells me, Well, you’re pregnant.
I started laughing in his face and I was like, I’m sorry I’m not having any children right now, I’m too young.
Luis was scared, he didn’t know what to do, he didn’t tell his mother. He didn’t want anything to do with me, so um, after a while we started realizing, hey, this is no joke. It’s like ok you have to be more mature and even if you’re 15, you have to grow up years older and that’s what I did. I was like okay this is no joke and I have to do it myself, and that’s what I do. That’s why I go to school.
My mother was crying, she was like, How you could do this to me?
My father wanted to kill him [laughing]. After a while it changed. Hey there’s nothing we can do. What’s done is done. I think parents have their own faults because if you don’t have communication with your children, I mean, how are you going to tell them what sex is all about. If you don’t do that, they are going to find out on their own. I think that’s what happened with us. I discovered everything on my own; I think that’s one of the problems.
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Hartford’s not good. I just want a place where I can prosper and my children can move forward. Hartford doesn’t have any jobs, they don’t have programs for children. I don’t have any neighbors. I live in a building that is next to the highway and I only had the factory next to me [laughs] and the people came to fight over here. The projects are there, and the police are always there. They burned a car or they stole a car or they take all the parts of the car. One time a girl fell asleep, the little boy knocked over the lamp, there were clothes on the floor and they caught on fire. One time it was a couple selling drugs here; they took them. Another man who lived by himself had problems with alcohol, he started a fire. And then another couple had a fight in the parking lot of the factory and they were talking, rubbing in each other’s faults in each other’s faces and I cannot sleep. Of all the places, they come here and I have to wake up at seven o’clock in the morning because I’m opening [at Walgreen’s]. The police came and took them, they come here all the time. That’s why I don’t want to be here.
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This month I started to cashier at Walgreens. It’s only part-time because I go to school. I started working when I was 16, in a factory. That was a summer job only. I was a machine operator and maintenance [laughs] so I have tried everything. A job is a job, it doesn’t matter how low it is or how honorable, it’s a job. You can always earn a little money.
In Walgreens I get eight dollars an hour. I like it but you are always angry because you have to work with a lot of customers. The people yell at you, they fight, they think that everything is your fault. You try to be nice, try to have smile on your face, but sometimes you cannot. It’s really different in a hospital, because in a hospital you give a smile to a patient that’s sick, that person appreciates you way more than a person that you give a smile in the store, they don’t care. So it’s a real difference. I get more satisfaction in the hospital.
I think as long as you have a job, the more beneficial it is for you because then you’re responsible, you’re able to work. I don’t ask nobody for money, I am the one who gives the money. I don’t ask nobody for money I just try to make it on my own.
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When I was 18 I got pregnant again so I had an abortion because I couldn’t have another kid. When I got pregnant with my son [at age 20] that was the difficult part, you know, for [my parents] to still help me out. They haven’t turned their back on me. So that’s pretty good. I think I’m really fortunate to have my parents, you know, help me out.
If I could be young again I would try to take life slower, not to live it all at once, because I think that’s what I tried to do. The boyfriend—that’s normal—but having children—I should’ve wait, I should’ve.
HISTORICAL NARRATIVES, DEMOGRAPHIC REALITIES, AND LOCAL CONTEXTS
On June 2, 2008, Nick Carbone, a 71-year-old former deputy mayor of Hartford, Connecticut, was brutally beaten by young street ruffians on his way to breakfast. Three weeks later, a photo of Carbone appeared on the front page of the Hartford Courant, his face still swollen and scarred, with an article identifying the factors that he believed fueled urban violence: predatory lenders; teenage pregnancy; incarceration; the release of inmates into the city; failing schools and judicial systems.
There were teen mothers—sandwiched between predators and criminals—listed as one of the root causes of urban poverty.
¹ A few months later, Bill Cosby made an appearance at the Legislative Office Building in Hartford and placed a number of social problems—burgeoning black incarceration rates and an overburdened foster care system—on the shoulders of black teen mothers and absent fathers.
FIGURE 1. Birth Rates for Teens Age 15 to 19, 1940–2010. Sources: Ventura, Mathews, and Hamilton 2001, table 1; Martin et al. 2012, table 4.
Why teen mothers? Where does this idea come from? Not, it would appear, from the numbers. Only a small percentage of teenagers are actually having babies. In 2008, 4 percent of teens 15 to 19 gave birth.² Nor has this rate been increasing. Beginning in 1991, the rate declined continuously until 2005, when the teen birth rate was less than half of what it was when it peaked in 1957 (see figure 1). And although the rate increased slightly in 2006 and 2007, it continued to decline in 2008 and by 2010 it was at its lowest in recorded history.
The decline in the teen birth rate is a result of fewer pregnancies, and not more abortions. Both pregnancy and abortion rates have been declining in tandem with birth rates (see figure 2). Abortion rates have declined steadily since the late 1980s, and the percent of pregnancies that were aborted declined from roughly one-third in 1990 to one-quarter in 2008.³ In that year, only 7 percent of teens 15 to 19 had a pregnancy and the pregnancy rate was at its lowest since 1976.⁴ So, where is the problem? Fewer teens are getting pregnant, fewer teens are having abortions, and fewer teens are having babies.
One reason for the concern is that, despite the decline, the US teen birth rate remains considerably higher than most advanced industrialized countries: three times the Canadian rate, seven times the Swiss and Danish rates, 11 times the Dutch rate, and even two times higher than predominantly Catholic countries like Ireland and Poland where abortion is illegal except under extenuating circumstances.⁵ But then, the United States does not compare well with these countries on a number of measures—poverty, inequality, incarceration, medically uninsured, or infant mortality—and these issues do not evoke the same moral outrage as teen motherhood. In short, teen birth rates are lowest in areas where there is less inequality and higher welfare benefits; and compared to other advanced industrialized nations, the United States has higher rates of inequality and lower levels of welfare support.⁶ And, not surprisingly, higher rates of teen births.
FIGURE 2. Birth, Pregnancy, and Abortion Rates for Teens Age 15 to 19, 1990–2008. Source: Ventura et al. 2012, table 2.
Perhaps what underlies much of the preoccupation with teen motherhood is that most of the births are out of wedlock and represent what Senator Rick Santorum (R-PA) defined as the calamity of illegitimacy in our generation.
⁷ At the peak of teen motherhood in the 1950s, about 80 percent of teen mothers were married; by 2007, over 85 percent were unmarried.⁸ This upward trend in unmarried teen births started in the black community (bolstering narratives of black urban pathology); however, as sociologist Frank Furstenberg pointed out, black women were only at the vanguard of a new pattern of family formation
since both white women and nonteens, especially women in their 20s, are now increasingly having children outside of marriage.⁹ By 2007, 40 percent