Your Kids Out of Trouble & Internet Safe
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While we act in the name of justice, in the wake of the perpetration, let's not pretend to believe that this is doing anything about a lasting solution.
Solutions come about when remedies of love and support are placed in the most effective places.
Robert Stetson
I am a retired person living in Massachusetts. My background is extremely diverse. I have worked a Computer Systems Design Engineer, an Auxiliary Police Officer, and many other jobs. I have been a Microsoft Certified Systems Engineer working for 3 different fortune 500 companies, served as a representative at ANSI, ECMA and other standards organizations.. I was/am a licensed Private Detective in two states, a Licensed Real Estate Broker and now write as my full time occupation in books on a variety of fact and fictional topics.
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Your Kids Out of Trouble & Internet Safe - Robert Stetson
YOUR KIDS OUT OF TROUBLE & INTERNET SAFE
Robert Stetson
PREFACE
When innocent children are taken by force and made to do things that drive us to absolute rage, the reaction is one of hatred and despair. We react in ways that drive us to vindictive actions in order to punish the perpetrator. We hope to frighten anyone who dares to think of doing the unthinkable. We react with swift and powerful vengeance. Nothing we do after the fact will ever help the child victims of this act of horror.
Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION
How to use this book
Chapter 1 General Information
Chapter 2 The Parental Challenge
Chapter 3 Introduction to abduction
Chapter 4 ESTEEM in the very young
Chapter 5 Abduction and Exploitation
Chapter 6 Abduction Statistics
Chapter 7 Clean and Sober Children
Chapter 8 Increasing Internet Safety
Chapter 9 Bond of Guidance & Faith
Chapter 10 Key-Master, Gatekeeper
Chapter 12 Hope begins at home
Chapter 13 Times Get Better, Pitch In
Chapter 14 Dealing With an Abductor
Chapter 15 Chat Room Pedophiles
Chapter 16 don’t be a victim of crime
Chapter 17 Answer to quiz questions
INTRODUCTION
Why this Book?
Reading this book will help the reader to act in a proactive manner to prevent the crime of abduction and internet victimization from succeeding.
While we act in the name of justice, in the wake of the perpetration, let’s not pretend to believe that this is doing anything about a lasting solution.
Solutions come about when remedies of love and support are placed in the most effective places.
We have risen up in the reactionary mode and are focusing on what we do about our specific failure to protect our children. We focus on recovery of children after abduction, not prevention of the atrocity.
Our need to feel that we are doing something useful has driven us to try something quick and easy. The problem has created a lot of hardship for many families.
The solution to this dilemma is going to be difficult. The solution will move slowly even though speed is of the essence.
There are two types of inertia; one is caused by the numbing fear that permeates some parts of our society, creating a deer in the headlights reaction, and oddly enough the other problem is indifference.
Many people feel that it won’t happen to them, so they ignore the threat. When it does happen to them they are caught completely unprepared. History has shown us that lasting solutions are not born of quick remedies.
To training all of the parents in the world and train all of their children is an impossible task. Take heart. We can start with you and yours.
Prevention is not attempting to drive the fear of God into the Godless. We have to stop trying to frighten people into moral compliance, but rather focus in a positive manner on our children to instill confidence and right thinking into our young. This serves to make them more difficult and less likely targets for the pedophile.
There are only two facts that are unalterable and they are the key to prevention. First, we have to diminish opportunities for abduction. Secondly, we have to train parents and children in how to deal with an attempted abduction in a way that reduces the risk of damage to the child.
Training both the parents and the children in the art of avoidance statistically reduces the likelihood that the child will be chosen as a victim because there will be other, easier targets. If we don’t present an opportunity we diminish the statistical odds of abduction.
This is one focus of this book. We have to train children on how to avoid abduction if abductions are to be reduced. Like it or not, the children are all alone with the abductor when the crime occurs.
How to use this book
Chapters relating to children and teens are divided into two sections, Pre-teens and general information and Ages 13 through 18. The preteens and general information section contains information relative to both preteens and their older counterparts.
The sections for young people from 13 to 18 years of age is written for older kids and usually contains information that may be less needed or inappropriate for younger kids. Information pertinent to teens that parents of young people from 13 to 18 should know.
The reason for this separation is that the nature of the explicit information given for older children should not be used when training preteens. Information given for children under 6 years of age is related more to parenting skills than to child training, because you can’t effectively train a child under 6 years of age.
Before age 6, people are not regarded by the child as having personal identities and characteristics. Children under 6 years of age have a two dimensional view of people, so that a Policeman is a Policeman, not a person having character traits. Children under 6 have a hard time differentiating between good and evil people.
After each chapter there are 2 quizzes that help you determine to what extent you have assimilated the information covered in that chapter.
The first test is a set of 10 questions relates to the first part of the section for children 0 to 12 years of age.
The second set of 10 questions relates to the second part of the section for children 13 to 18 years of age.
Chapter 1 General Information
It is important that you understand that no one can ever assume any amount of responsibility for the safety of your child, except you, unless the child is in the direct care and custody of another person when a problem occurs.
The primary role of this book is your training. The trained parent is in a better position to train their child. It’s all aimed at reducing the likelihood that your child will be vulnerable to abduction or Internet victimization.
If your child is out of control, involved with a wild crowd, staying out for the night, or for days at a time, this book is for you. We’re going to put a stop to that nonsense right now.
You need not confront the child or spark domestic violence to stop the behavior. I will show you how to bring in the help you need without risking your child’s arrest, or your sanity. You are entitled to a serene and tranquil home. Let’s get started.
With regard to Your Kids Out of Trouble & Internet Safe
, the best we can hope to achieve is to reduce the statistical likelihood that your child will be involved in abduction or be targeted by an Internet Pedophile. In the event this occurs, this book should help you survive the situation in better shape because you will know how to respond to the threat. You need to be street smart.
When it comes to perpetrators targeting your children, it’s not always about abduction or pedophilia, ID Theft is running rampant with statistics on the increase every day. Children are a perfect tool for gathering information about the parent’s lifestyle.
A perpetrator will befriend your child in an Internet chat room posing either as another child or as an adult friend.
Conversations will drift from what school the child attends to what area of the city your family lives in. It may include what the child’s mom and dad do for a living, where they work, etc. After several more conversations the perpetrator will have your child’s address and phone number.
The perpetrator will work on your child and one way or another will obtain your social security number, credit card number or enough personal information to tap into your bank account or credit card.
Once your address is known and the perpetrator knows where you work, they will know when you’re not at home.
You may also discover that your mail is being stolen and you are missing credit card offers. You may be missing bank statements and bills containing your personal information.
Your task will be to learn all you can about how to keep your child safer. Nothing you learn will be of any value unless you take an active personal role to apply it. This, coupled with your own good sense should help to protect you.
In addition, your training of children should impart good information and guidance along with a little fun. The fun part is essential to help the child focus and learn.
Children who do not enjoy what they are doing will neither benefit from the teacher, nor take what they have learned and integrate it into their daily lives.
Children are not small adults. They must have a mix of challenge and fun or their attention span will not survive the days learning experiences.
Another challenge for us is the difference between children. Some kids are very mature for their age, while others are late bloomers
with regard to their readiness to absorb new information. Intelligence is a key factor in their ability to assimilate information, with memory being another factor.
Some children can learn quickly and yet don’t retain what they have learned as long as some slower learners. Just as with adults, attitude is a powerful element of a child’s success.
Attitude is an outgrowth of self-esteem. Self-esteem is at the core of everyone’s success. Keeping your kids safe will depend to some degree on how well you can continue to work on their self-image while they are learning the ways of the street.
Parent’s and children’s chapters are separated into two groups. The reasons for our grouping of parents are to allow for the most efficient use of their time. By dividing the chapters of this book into two sections you are allowed to concentrate on the problems your children will be faced with today.
When they grow older, you can read the additional information to update information that you will need to succeed as a parent of a teen ager. You can focus on the problems relevant to you and your family.
With regard to the teaching of your children, children from 6 to 12 years old are more likely to be abducted than children from 13 to 18 years of age.
Children from 13 to 18 years of age are more likely to go out on their own and get themselves into trouble using the Internet. Their younger counterparts are less motivated by sex.
The information in this book is totally focused on benefiting both the children and the parents. When abduction is in progress, the child is alone with the abductor.
Only the wits of the child will save them. You can’t keep bad things from happening, but you can influence the statistical outcome.
You can make a difference in a specific instance where your information will directly influence the children’s activities and responses to prevent abduction.
Imagine how relieved you will feel when your instruction has allowed your child to respond in a way that creates a more favorable outcome in a bad situation.
You may find that parts of this book are a bit disturbing, even horrific. The objective here is for us to face the truth.
Anything less than facing reality is to bury our heads in the sand and hope the problem will go away. It won’t.
If we are to guide our children safely through this troubled world into adulthood, we have to know the path of safety and be able to recognize the metaphoric quicksand.
When the worst threatens to happen, we need to be able to recognize the reality of that threat and the importance of dealing with it.
It takes a strong constitution and a great deal of courage to raise a child in this world.
Don’t let the ugliness of reality blind you to the love and caring of many people in the world. All around you there is compassion and heroism in abundance.
There is far more love in the world than hate. Our civilization has a great deal more compassion than cruelty.
Make sure your children are exposed to as much of that beauty as possible, before they have to deal with the rest. Hard work and discipline are some of the things they will need now, to prepare them for the future.
Cruelty, sickness and perversion are the things they should be shielded from until they are able to deal with them. They need not know about such things until they have acquired the maturity, the inner strength, to cope effectively. Hopefully, you have acquired this inner strength and can face reality, so your children won’t need to.
What you will learn:
You will learn about esteem in the very young. Why it is important. How to foster esteem and what the connection is between esteem, abduction and Internet dangers.
You will learn what the factors are in abduction and the reasons why children are abducted.
You will be learning about the job of reducing abduction statistics by learning the factors that govern them.
Because statistics is a science, we can address the emotional social problem with a logical approach. You will learn what the abduction Statistics are and how to reduce the risk of an incident involving your children.
You will learn about smoking, drinking and drugs and how they can affect your child’s risk of abduction and the threat of the Internet.
You will also learn how to take the bull by the horns and improve your children’s odds of growing up clean and healthy in body and spirit.
We will define the bond of guidance
and the bond of faith
, and then show you how to apply these principles. Strike a balance in your family.
We will be discussing the difficult task of Key-Master and Gatekeeper and why it belongs to you.
You will become acquainted with the Internet metropolis.
The Internet is the largest city on Earth, because it spans the planet and has no boarders. It’s a place of great wisdom and much knowledge. It is also a dangerous place with many dark corners. Navigating the web can be a dangerous task for the uneducated.
It is also a dangerous place with many dark corners. Navigating the web can be a dangerous task for the uneducated.
You will be seeing the scope of the problem we are faced with