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    Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 2: 71 Submissive Training & Reconditioning Tips Any Dom/Master Must Know
    Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 2: 71 Submissive Training & Reconditioning Tips Any Dom/Master Must Know
    Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 2: 71 Submissive Training & Reconditioning Tips Any Dom/Master Must Know
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    Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 2: 71 Submissive Training & Reconditioning Tips Any Dom/Master Must Know

    By Matthew Larocco

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    • Communication

    • Trust

    • Consent

    • Punishment

    • Dominance & Submission

    • Bdsm Relationship

    • Sexual Exploration

    • Power Exchange

    • Alpha Male

    • Dominant/submissive Dynamic

    • Master/slave Relationship

    • Discipline & Punishment

    • Self-Discovery

    • Mentorship

    • Personal Transformation

    • Honesty

    • Safety

    • Pain & Pleasure

    • Contract

    • Dom/sub Relationships

    About this ebook

    "Dom's Guide to BDSM" was specifically written for Doms/Masters. In Volume 2 of this series, we’re going to focus on how to better communicate with a sub, and how to go back and forth with role playing. We’re going to teach you how to express yourself, how to read your sub and look for cues, and how to go about getting a real life BDSM relationship started.

    we’re also going to discuss how to train your sub accordingly and with a purpose. This is important and is an often-neglected part of the BDSM community. The highly sensationalized, “purely sexual” relationships you read about or see depicted in TV or movies is not the only type of relationship forged. Some relationships really are all about personal missions, self-improvement and getting in touch with suppressed inner feelings.

    We will cover this as well as the most important part of BDSM dominance—having a plan. You will learn how to be an excellent Dom and it all starts with a few simple steps.

    Note: If you have not read Volume 1 in this series (Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 1: 49 Must-Know Tips On How To Be The Perfect Dom/Master Your submissive Will Truly Respect & Admire), it is highly recommended that you do so before taking on this book.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherLiving Plus Healthy Publishing
    Release dateSep 4, 2015
    ISBN9781311581761
    Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 2: 71 Submissive Training & Reconditioning Tips Any Dom/Master Must Know

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      Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 2 - Matthew Larocco

      Introduction

      We’re delighted that you have decided to move forward in your BDSM Dom training. If you have not read Volume 1 in this series (Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 1: 49 Must-Know Tips On How To Be The Perfect Dom/Master Your submissive Will Truly Respect & Admire), it is highly recommended that you do so before taking on this book.

      You might find it odd that even though your role is a Dominant or Top, you still need training. However, it’s great that you’re staying humble and are actually eager to learn more about the science, culture and standards of the lifestyle.

      The number one problem with most fake Doms today is that they haven’t paid much attention to learning why people like BDSM, nor have they investigated the fundamentals of the language and attitudes of the role.

      If you read my last book, then by now you already understand many of the basics of playing a Dom. Namely that:

      The sub ultimately decides whether the relationship continues.

      The sub gives you the illusion of total control, so that he/she can stop thinking, and can feel and experience relief.

      Pain is not just pain—it’s closely tied into taboo, forbidden pleasure, and experimentation.

      The sub doesn’t want to be tortured; he or she wants discipline, ultimately characterized by love and total control.

      The formula of a BDSM relationship is negotiation, agreement, scene, aftermath, debriefing—meaning communication is essential.

      Your intention will never be to cause anxiety or to injure your sub, for your own gratification. As the Dom you are not an abuser, but are your sub’s unofficial doctor of Sensuality, helping him or her to confront taboos, whether for excitement or even for a cathartic emotional experience.

      Now that you have these concepts down, in this book, we’re going to focus on how to better communicate with a sub, and how to go back and forth with role playing. We’re going to teach you how to express yourself, how to read your sub and look for cues, and how to go about getting a real life BDSM relationship started.

      As we previously discussed in the first book, breaking character is a definite turn off during the scene you’re playing. You’re free to break character in negotiation, agreement and debriefing but the scene is the most important factor.

      This is why we’re devoting a good portion of this book on ways to improve your method acting during the scene. Essentially, playing a Dom is an acting performance, one that requires you to feel the emotion of the moment, to have clear goals to convey in your expression and body language, and to help your audience (in this case, your sub) feel something.

      Later in the book, we’re also going to discuss how to start a new relationship and how to train your sub accordingly and with a purpose. This is important and is an often-neglected part of the BDSM community. The highly sensationalized, purely sexual relationships you read about or see depicted in TV or movies is not the only type of relationship forged. Some relationships really are all about personal missions, self-improvement and getting in touch with suppressed inner feelings.

      We will cover this as well as the most important part of BDSM dominance—having a plan. You can learn how to be an excellent Dom and it all starts with a few simple steps. Let’s get started with Chapter 1 and discuss some interesting concepts behind pain and pleasure.

      Note: Throughout the book we may use he for Dom/Master and she for sub/slave. Nevertheless, understand that a Dom/Master can be either male or female, and so can a sub/slave. Also, for convenience most parts of the book use Dom and Master interchangeably, as well as sub and slave.

      Chapter 1: Concepts Behind Sadism and Masochism

      We explained previously some misunderstandings regarding sadism and masochism. While there is a sub-group of true Sadists and Masochists who enjoy pain for the sake of pain as well as emotional injury, this is by and large not the usual BDSM Master/slave relationship. Sadism and Masochism, at least the classic definitions, are not even that popular in the BDSM community because they imply, as the sadist de Sade often wrote (most likely in exaggeration and satire) that some people simply deserved ridicule and abuse because of their lower status in life.

      Instead, M part of BDSM implies consensual sadomasochistic practices—though arguably not the real definition of S & M itself. So if you’re a Dom and want to help a sub experience pleasure from pain, your goal is not to be a true Sadist,

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