The Anti-Social Family
By Mary McIntosh and Michèle Barrett
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Mary McIntosh was a sociologist and feminist.
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Preface and Acknowledgements
Marx and Engels may have called, in the polemical rhetoric of the Communist Manifesto, for the abolition of the family, but most socialists have long since regarded this as a flight of utopian fancy. An uneasy truce prevails over this most unpopular of orthodox socialist demands. From time to time, however, the calm is troubled, for the politics of the family simply will not lie down. The early years of women’s liberation saw a damning indictment of family life; more recently the left has had to confront the equally militant pro-family stance of the new right. We believe that in the long term socialists and feminists must develop a political consensus on the family and that the precondition for this is more open debate on where we stand.
A major difficulty with this is the fact that ‘the family’ is such a slippery phenomenon. The view we take in this book is that ‘the family’ must be understood in two senses. It is, of course, a social and economic institution. In the present period it is an institution in which, by and large, households are assumed to be organized on the basis of close kinship relations. We could go further and say that in the present period it is an institution in which households are assumed to be organized, by and large, on the basis of a division of labour between a primary breadwinner (male) and a primary childrearer (female). Although these are assumptions, they are nonetheless part of the family, since they form a crucial element of the conditions on which women and men are employed, the level of their wages, and state taxes and benefits.
Many feminists have pointed out that as a social institution this form of family-household is markedly less prevalent than it is usually assumed to be. The stereotypical nuclear family accounts, roughly, for only a third of households in Britain today. Yet the media give the impression that the entire population is securely bound up in it. So a second dimension of what we refer to when we talk about ‘the family’ must be the family as an ideology. In many ways the institution and the ideology are reciprocally related, enjoying mutual reinforcement. Yet the ideology of the family is perhaps much stronger, in its own right, than we often allow. The model of family life has pervaded our society in its public institutions to such an extent that, far from speaking of the decline of the family, we should be speaking of the familial character of society.
It is this twofold character of ‘the family’ that makes it particularly difficult to analyse. Certainly it accounts for the strategy we have had to adopt in writing this book, where different chapters focus on what inevitably appear to be quite disparate topics and levels of analysis. The family can be addressed from the point of view of what needs it is thought to serve; how it is represented culturally; how one understands the acquisition of femininity and masculinity; what should be done about state policy and the law. Clearly some of the issues discussed can more readily be translated into ‘strategies for change’ than others. Our final chapter sets out for discussion some possibilities of a practical kind. These are not necessarily the most important changes to fight for, and certainly not the only ones, but we regard them as possible concrete targets. More general changes, such as the total eradication of familial ideology from the media and all public discourse, can readily be inferred from the book’s general discussion.
Two notable absences from the book need some brief explanation. We do not make it clear whether the analysis we present applies across the several family forms of the different ethnic groups in Britain or is restricted to the dominant ‘white’ family. The appeal of these different family forms, and their constraints and tensions, are undoubtedly distinct, the more so because they exist as forms of ethnic solidarity in a hostile environment. Nevertheless we believe that the same principles of critique would apply, though it is not for white feminists to work out the detailed form that these would take. Some of the strategies for change that we propose would open up new opportunities for everyone in the society, whatever their ethnic origin.
A second absence concerns the relation between the family and sexual preference. It would be ironic for us to be accused of reproducing the hegemonic heterosexism of our culture. Nevertheless we have to some extent inevitably done this, as we believe the present ideology of the family to be so steeped in heterosexism that any realistic engagement with familialism must locate the discussion within that framework.
We have found this a difficult book to write and for this reason are particularly grateful to those who have helped us. Francis Mulhern gave considerable advice and encouragement, and Catherine Hall commented on the entire draft for us. We also thank David Plotke for information about the American pro-family lobby, and Angela Weir for comments on chapter 4. Obvious though it may be, we should point out that many of the ideas of the book are indebted to discussions and campaigns in the women’s movement; in particular we have benefited greatly from the work of Rights of Women and of the ‘Fifth Demand’ (legal and financial independence) group, especially in relation to policy recommendations.
It is not hard to identify the reason why the book has been difficult to write. The family is a contentious and emotive subject and we are painfully aware that many of our own family and friends will disagree with the arguments we make here. Although we have used a rather impersonal style, no author or reader can be completely detached from the personal implications of the arguments. But personal life is at one and the same time the story of our own lived experiences – the context of our deepest motivations, rewards and frustrations – and also the product of a particular moment in history and a particular structure of society. So we are often divided between subjective experience on the one hand and political analysis on the other. In recognizing the powerful appeal of the family, and acknowledging the real satisfactions that it can offer, we have drawn from our own experiences. We hope that the book contributes to the difficult project of reconciling private experience and social need, and of dealing with the ambivalence and contradiction that bedevil the political theorization of subjectivity.
I
A Question of Values
1. The Political Context
The family has long been a controversial subject but the present political conflict over it is one in which the stakes have been raised significantly. Indeed, a delegate to the Council of Europe in Strasbourg, speaking of the ‘paganistic and atheistic’ practice of artificial insemination, fearlessly identified nothing less than ‘a world campaign to undermine marriage and the family as the fundamental unit of society’.¹ If such an international conspiracy does exist, systematically struggling to erode the integrity of the family, it is certainly meeting a vigorous fightback.
The European Parliament is a case in point. At present it is developing a policy on the family, with the intention of supporting this institution in all member states. The papers provided as background information for the debate on these resolutions are singularly alarmist in tone and differ sharply from the position in favour of equality officially taken by the EEC. Mrs M.L. Cassanmagnago Cerretti gives a lengthy disquisition on the parlous state we are now in: ‘It is striking that the widespread disintegration of the concept of the family as the nucleus of society, the increasing instability in family relationships reflected by the spread of cohabitation and divorces, the new position of women in society and their wish to work, the crisis in traditional moral values, the falling birth rate, which is now approaching or even falling below the rate required for the population to renew itself, are trends common to all the countries of Europe, even if they vary in intensity. Thus the future and the very survival of these countries are at risk.’ One of the many proposals put forward is to increase contact with ‘the various European family associations’, so that policy can be more responsive to ‘the grass roots’.²
In Britain the family has become a political football – so Jean Coussins and Anna Coote have described the unseemly spectacle of Labour and Conservative politicians competing for the claim to represent the interests of the family.³ This suggests that the politics of the family under the Thatcher government are more complex than is sometimes thought. There are, of course, instances such as the now notorious remark by a government minister, Patrick Jenkin, to the effect that had God intended equality he would not have created men and women. It is also true that ‘Thatcherism’ encodes the ideology that families – for which read ‘women’ – should be responsible for the day-to-day care of the young, the elderly, the sick and the disabled wherever possible. Welfare cuts of various kinds have increased the domestic burdens of women, who are also particularly vulnerable to unemployment. The policies of the present government, as well as many of its statements, endorse the view that the family should be a self-sufficient enterprise needing little support from the state.
To some extent, however, this familism is part of a broader political rhetoric; it is a metaphor to endow the government’s economic policies with a spurious ‘commonsense’ legitimacy. The chancellor of the exchequer, like any housewife or corner grocer, must balance his books and cannot afford your nursery or hospital. The ideological significance of the metaphor is considerable, but the continual evocation of the family in Thatcher’s pronouncements does not mean that the government is pursuing a straightforward policy of ‘getting women back into the home’. Class interests, and the class character of these policies, necessarily render their effects on women complex. At one level, women workers are simply too useful, especially in a situation of deskilling and erosion of wage levels, to be dispensed with. At another, many of the government’s tax proposals are explicitly designed to benefit higher-paid women, in line with their overall regressive character. At a third, the prime minister’s personal comments on rape and sexual violence – to the effect that women should feel safe on the streets – provide a somewhat surprising inflection to the standard law-and-order position. These few examples all suggest a new set of considerations, as well as the predictable ones, on the politics of the family in contemporary Britain. Against those who argue that ‘Thatcherism’ takes a straightforward pro-family and anti-feminist stance, it can be pointed out that the position taken is in many ways far more contradictory than the support for a stereotypical nuclear family embedded in the Beveridge Report and the host of welfare policies and reforms developed in the post-war decades.⁴
Although a traditional defence of family values has been boosted by Thatcherism, there is no sense in which a distinct and consistent line is being pursued. Certainly it is hard to argue that the Labour Party offers a very different position on the family. Many of the demands of the poverty lobby are couched in a distinctively familist terminology, and the lobby receives considerable support from reformers on both sides. In this sense political dispute over the family is considerably less sharp in Britain than it has become in the United States, where issues of family and sexual politics have a very high profile in public debate.
It is not necessary for us to recapitulate here the much more explicit and combative position of ‘Reaganism’ on these questions. Socialists and feminists in the USA have struggled hopelessly against a wave of reaction, moralism and bornagain Christianity that has, for example, attacked the right to abortion (and the actual clinics with violence) and reduced funding for it. Anti-homosexual movements have developed popular support and won some disturbing victories. These form part of an explicitly and militantly familist attack by the American ‘new right’ on the freedoms and rights won by women’s and gay movements.
Far more significant than this, however, is the response this wave of familism has generated in sections of the American left. An early casualty was support for the unequivocal right to abortion. The publication, in the socialist paper In These Times, of a ‘debate’ about abortion provoked a vigorous response from feminists and others who argued that ITT had demonstrated ‘once again the tenuousness of the socialist commitment to women’s liberation’, in this instance by its ‘disregard for one of the most fundamental and non-negotiable demands of contemporary socialist-feminism – free and equal access for every woman to control her own body’.⁵ Nevertheless the paper had constructed the question of abortion as a ‘debate’ in which both sides were given credibility as socialist positions.⁶ Features in the US press reveal the extent to which an anti-choice position on abortion has gained credibility on the left and among ‘progressives’, even to the point (at which many right-wing anti-abortionists back down) of denying the right to abortion to women who are the victims of rape or incest.⁷
Abortion is, if you like, an indexical issue. It can provide a litmus test of how well – to put it crudely – feminist and socialist views are bearing up against religious and familist forces. The feminist position on abortion is a woman’s right to choose, and feminists would defend to the hilt the right of any woman not to have an abortion irrespective of the grounds she gave for making this choice. The anti-abortion position is in fact an anti-choice position, imposing, or attempting to impose, particular beliefs on all women.
Underlying the abortion issue is the much broader question of how socialists should respond to the revival of familism. In the USA there has developed a lobby within the left arguing that socialists must put forward their own view of the family rather than attack it as an oppressive institution. Such an argument takes as given the enormous popular support for the family – indeed endorses the family as the site of altruism and progressive relationships – and insists that the left has a better claim than the right to ‘really’ represent family values. This view is most clearly elaborated in a document produced to explain the founding of an organization called ‘Friends of the Family’.⁸ The authors – Lerner, Zoloth and Riles – believe that the launch of this organization can be presented in the media as a progressive appropriation of familism. They argue that the problems experienced in personal and family life are really the product of alienated work and the competitive market-place. They see support for the family as support for a better life, and – since socialism obviously does offer a better life – see a natural sympathy between socialism and a pro-family position. The thrust of the argument is to make socialist ideas (such as ‘humanize the workplace’) more popular – or rather, to make apparent the underlying progressive character of popular familist ideologies. Predictably, the protagonists of Friends of the Family are extremely respectful of the religious revival and also incipiently anti-feminist.⁹
What is most odd about this position is that it rests on a very vague identification of the family with personal relations: ‘wherever people are making the kind of long-term emotional and financial commitment to each other to take care of each other and provide ongoing love and intimacy we have the development of a family arrangement.’¹⁰ Everything from single-parent families to gay marriages is a family, and so all social issues can be presented in relation to ‘the family’. It is not very nice for a family to have its house burgled, so crime is a problem for families; plant closures have unfortunate effects on families; families can be destroyed by sickness and death, so we need a better health system. It appears not to occur to these authors that such events have unfortuate consequences for single people too. The argument panders to popular support for the family by simply declaring that however the family is defined it stands for progressive human values. There have been incisive critiques of the position taken by Michael Lerner and others,¹¹ but it is a symptom of the left’s failure to develop a socialist position on the family that such sloppy and reactionary views even arouse any interest.
Feminism, too, has seen some disturbing responses to the pro-family movement in the USA. One notable example is the latest reflections of Betty Friedan, much discussed in the light of the prominent role she played in the development of feminism in America. She argues that the battle for the Equal Rights Amendment to the American constitution has been lost because of the identification of feminism with an anti-family position and the contamination of feminist politics with issues of abortion and homosexual rights, which she regards as a ‘red herring’. Friedan comments that the way in which feminists handled abortion implied a ‘lack of reverence for life’, and she reminds us that most women are very committed to the family. She argues that ‘family’ has become a ‘buzz word for reactionaries’, but that