Deepening Community: Finding Joy Together in Chaotic Times
By Paul Born
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In this thoughtful and moving book, Paul Born describes the four pillars of deep community: sharing our stories, taking the time to enjoy one another, taking care of one another, and working together for a better world. To show the role each of these plays, he shares his own stories—as a child of refugees and as a longtime community activist.
It’s up to us to create community. Born shows that the opportunity is right in front of us if we have the courage and conviction to pursue it.
Paul Born
Paul Born, also the author of Deepening Community, is a master storyteller who infuses his work, relationships, community, and life with the magic of conversation. He is internationally recognized for his innovative approaches to community building. Paul is president and cofounder of Tamarack - An Institute for Community Engagement. He is also the founding chair of the Canadian Community Economic Development Network, Vibrant Communities Canada, and Opportunities 2000.
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Deepening community is essential to building healthy societies. Paul Born understands this principle and knows how to put it into practice. His book is an essential resource for everyone who wants to contribute to bringing forth better futures.
—Adam Kahane, Partner, Reos Partners, and author of Solving Tough Problems, Power and Love, and Transformative Scenario Planning
There is no one writing today who understands more about community: what we miss when we don’t have it, why we long for it, how to build it, and the rewards that it brings. Paul Born speaks to all of us in this book, at once touching our hearts and giving us the encouragement and the tools we need to change how we live in relation to those around us.
—Dr. Frances Westley, cofounder of SiG (Social Innovation Generation), University of Waterloo, and coauthor of Getting to Maybe: How the World Is Changed
"Community has the power to change everything. No amount of innovation, individual brilliance, or money can transform our broken society as effectively and sustainably as building community. Deepening Community provides useful and inspiring guidance for leaders everywhere who seek to create better outcomes in their work."
—John Kania, Managing Director, FSG; founder of the Collective Impact Movement; and coauthor of Do More Than Give
Paul Born is a bright light. His commitment to community and celebration of life are infectious. If world leaders were to really embrace the principles of this book, we might be able to divert the social chaos and natural disasters of climate change. Put a copy of this book into the hands of an elected official or government leader near you!
—Nicole Rycroft, founder and Executive Director of the global environmental organization Canopy
"Paul Born doesn’t just study community; he lives it. In Deepening Community, he shares practical advice on how to reweave the social fabric that we have neglected for too long. This book exudes the joy he experiences in community, and his stories provide hope that, in this time of social, economic, and environmental crises, more of us will find ways to care deeply for one another and the place we share."
—Jim Diers, faculty member, Asset-Based Community Development Institute, and author of Neighbor Power
Paul Born’s call to deepen community in the face of fear and superficiality is steeped in the wisdom and insights of a remarkable life dedicated to helping people out of poverty. In a time of growing income disparity and social isolation, this timely book reminds us that there is a better way and that the joy to be found in taking it is there for everyone.
—Stephen Huddart, President and CEO, J. W. McConnell Family Foundation
"Paul Born has worked in community all his life with a watchful eye and an open heart, and he provides insights from what he has learned in Deepening Community—a must-read for anyone interested in strong communities."
—Alan Broadbent, Chairman and CEO, Avana Capital Corporation; founder and Chairman, Maytree; and author of Urban Nation
"Deepening Community exudes joy. The joy of each other’s company. The joy of belonging. The joy of taking care, of being cared for. Paul’s book is also a joy to read. That is to be expected given Paul’s life and work. He reminds us in print and in practice that joy is enduring, abundant, and beautiful."
—Al Etmanski, social innovator, blogger, and author of A Good Life
No one has helped me understand and value the essence of community like Paul Born. Paul has an amazing storytelling ability that excites, challenges, and demystifies and helps us all appreciate the simplicity of moving community from ideal to living reality. This book is a community builder’s gem.
—Peter Kenyon, Director, Bank of I.D.E.A.S. (Australia)
"We need deep community to tackle issues such as environmental resiliency, a fair economy, and a safe and caring society. Paul confirms that we need enduring and trustful relationships for an even more fundamental reason: to be fully human. Deepening Community is an engaging and practical contribution to what may be the most important work of our times."
—Mark Cabaj, social innovator and cofounder of Vibrant Communities Canada
This book is a testament to Paul Born’s love of the hard work of building relationships and the joy it brings to us.
—Ratna Omidvar, Preisdent Maytree, and named most influential leader of the decade by the Globe and Mail
Deepening Community
Deepening Community
FINDING JOY TOGETHER IN CHAOTIC TIMES
Paul Born
FOREWORD BY Peter Block
Deepening Community
Copyright © 2014 by Paul Born
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2014-1
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To Jake Tilitzky, for building a community
that turned the pain of chaotic times into joy
AND
To Mom, Dad, my family,
and all the people at Eben Ezer,
for showing me that if we stay together,
look after each other, and work together
for a better world, we can thrive.
Contents
Foreword by Peter Block
Preface
1 Our Need Today for Deeper Community
2 Three Options for Community in Challenging Times
3 Turning Away from Fear
4 Options for Deep Community
5 Sharing Our Stories
6 Enjoying One Another
7 Caring for One Another
8 Working Together for a Better World
9 Making the Choice for Deep Community
Appendix: Five Hundred Voices
With Thanks
Sources Cited
Index
About Paul Born
Join the Deepening Community Campaign
Reading Circles
Foreword
THE IDEA OF COMMUNITY is all around us and increasingly on our lips. It sells real estate, markets social technology, and appears in the mission statements of most institutions. There are community recreation centers, community health movements, communities of practice, and community organizers. Unfortunately, the idea of community is more on our lips than in our experience. The speaking about community is always genuine, but it so goes against the individualism and fear embedded in our modern culture that it represents longing more than reality. It is more an adjective than a statement of central purpose.
The idea of community also suffers from its ambiguity. The word has a wide range of meanings. It can be a town, a network of interests, a neighborhood, a group of friends, or a set of employees. When a word covers everything, it loses its utility.
Paul Born, as much as anyone I know, has brought clarity and solid practical usefulness to this thing called community. He decided thirty years ago that if we care about poverty, safety, or well-being, then the experience of community is essential. It is the point. Not a luxury, or a pleasantry, or a memory of a time past. His work holds the intention that community needs to be at the center of our thinking, no matter what results we are trying to achieve in the world.
That is why this book, Deepening Community, is important. It should be required reading for all those, as Paul puts it, who want to better understand the value of community and neighbors, and their importance in building belonging and inclusion into the services they offer or the social-change strategies they effect.
In a personal and accessible way that is in total harmony with the book’s message, Paul explains how to make community the heart of these efforts.
Making community the point is a major undertaking. It means we need to make the common good a priority again. It calls for cooperation and collaboration. It asks that we place the well-being of all of us higher than the well-being of any single one of us. If we take community seriously, then we agree to give up some control and to listen more than speak. Community blurs the line of where your property ends and mine begins. These are radical practices when taken seriously.
Western culture stands on a long history of affirming the rights of the individual. Capitalism worships the idea of competition and winning, so much so that we have raised the status of competition to be a defining part of our nature. We place a bell curve ranking the best to the worst over the heads of our children the moment they enter school.
In addition to revering competition and individualism, we hold a nearly religious belief in the healing effects of technology. As Paul declares, we believe the myth that all we need is more time, money, and technology to solve the problems of peace, poverty, and health.
Perhaps now is the time to put this myth to rest. This book invites us to do just that. It is an important invitation, and here is why:
• Time in the modern world has become the enemy of relatedness. Speed has become a rationalization for doing what we do not believe in. Time has become an argument against collaboration. Cooperation and democracy are discounted as inefficient. We live on the pretense of being busy.
• Money is also an argument against community. Learning together in the same room is costly. Meeting together is costly. The virtual world is justified by its low cost. We say, let’s create the future online. We can learn online. We can meet online. This ignores the social and relational dimension of learning, the relational dimension of achievement. Learning and achievement have been reduced to a transfer of knowledge and automated ways of managing the world. When our occasions for human connection become com-modified into what is cost-effective, so much for community. So much for relationships.
• Technology has become a religion, Steve Jobs a saint, and speed, convenience, global access, and home shopping a liturgy. The dominant argument against community, against the intimacy and connectedness that Paul speaks to, is that what was local, and intimate, and had space for silence, has now been automated. We have swallowed 24/7 as a condition of nature. We must respond, this moment. Wherever we meet, we bring our phones that we have labeled smart.
The technology manages us because it is there. In larger questions of the land, of the environment, of the workplace, technology promises nirvana. It replaces the schoolhouse and the local business. It promises connection, but in reality reinforces our isolation. We spend a lot of time alone, watching a screen.
Against this onslaught, Deepening Community radically declares that we do have the time, the money, and all the tools necessary to solve any challenge, by coming together in community. The book gives us the definitions we need. It makes important distinctions so that each of us can find our way into community, be it through inner work, family, neighborhood, or the workplace.
The book is also timely, for much is already occurring in the world that proves the value of community. There is a cohousing movement, where people choose to share the tasks of raising children, cooking, caring for the vulnerable, and keeping safe. There are pocket neighborhoods, such as those being designed by architect Ross Chapin: modest dwellings that all face a commons and become the village that raises a child.
There is a resurgence in cooperative businesses, where the well-being of the employees is their first priority and profit takes its rightful place as a means instead of an end. Every city has community gardens and community-supported agriculture networks (CSAs), where food is locally grown and abandoned land is reclaimed.
There is cooperative learning and cooperative education. A heart surgeon named Paul Uhlig has invented Collaborative Rounds, where the physician, nurses, and other supporting functions meet in a circle with the patient and family to jointly discuss treatment. When they do this, all measures of care improve. Edgar Cahn has developed TimeBanking, where generosity and neighborliness are tracked and exchanged. Yes! magazine does a beautiful job of telling the story of these movements toward community.
All these cooperative and communal ventures form a social movement of enormous importance, one that offers an alternative to the dominant belief in competition, materialism, and individualism. Deepening Community is an important contribution to this movement. The book is an anthem bearing witness to our humanity and our capacity to be together in peace. It takes a big step in making community building a legitimate discipline that belongs at the center of our thinking.
Peter Block
Cincinnati, Ohio
Preface
IN THIS BOOK I invite you to invest yourself in deepening community—to discover or rediscover the joy of being together.
I don’t use the word invest lightly. Like any investment, community takes time and effort. We spend years investing for our retirement, setting aside dollars in order to live a good life in our old age. Our financial advisors tell us to start this process early, when we are young, in order to have enough when we’re old (though they’re always