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    The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality
    The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality
    The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality
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    The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

    Written by Sam Jolman and John Eldredge

    Narrated by Sam Jolman and John Eldredge

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    Men today are starved for sexual formation. They've been failed by parents, churches, and culture alike, leading to widespread shame, confusion, and brokenness in the area of sexuality. In The Sex Talk You Never Got, therapist Sam Jolman helps men reconnect their God-given sexuality with innocence, awe, and joy, and shows readers how to celebrate--instead of struggle against--the gift of sexual desire.

    In our sex-saturated world, it might seem surprising that men need more talk about sex. But the reality is that sexuality is one of the most neglected aspects of men's lives. From the woefully inadequate sex talks many young men receive from parents (little more than an anatomy lesson or a purity lecture, if anything at all) to cultural messages that unhelpfully weave both shame and permissiveness into men's understanding of their own sexuality and masculinity, too many boys and men experience sexual desire as an area of struggle, confusion, and brokenness.

    But it doesn't need to be this way. God made men to be moved, to live with wonder and awe--and sexual desire must be formed within the context of that design. Sam Jolman, a professional therapist who specializes in men's issues and sexual trauma recovery, shows men the way out of the wilds of sexual struggle. This timely and incisive book will help readers

    • learn about the vital link between sexual desire and their identity as worshipers;
    • regain a wild and vigorous sexuality within the context of God's design;
    • understand how purity culture has needlessly put men in a conflict-ridden relationship with their sexuality;
    • see sexual purity not as the goal but as the preparation for becoming fully alive to beauty, awe, and worship; and
    • discover how to trade shame and confusion for a sexuality that's filled with innocence and wonder.

     

    In the Bible, Jesus' greatest kindness was often offered to those suffering sexual harm and brokenness. He offers this same kindness today. He does not want men to repent of their sexual desire. Rather, through reconnecting sexuality with innocence and awe, God opens the door for men to experience the wild joy of desire, rightly ordered toward worship and God's good purposes for their life.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherThomas Nelson
    Release dateJun 11, 2024
    ISBN9781400243938
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    Sam Jolman

    Sam Jolman is a professional therapist with over twenty years of experience. He specializes in men's issues and sexual trauma recovery. Being a therapist has given him a front row seat to hear thousands of men and women share their stories. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help men work through and understand their stories and find freedom from sexual trauma. He received his master's in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care by Dan Allender through the Allender Center at the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three young sons--the people that inspire his writing. Together they enjoy exploring the best camping spots in Colorado in their pop-up camper. Sam goes to therapy, loves mountain biking, and can often be found trying to catch his breath on the floor of his local CrossFit gym.

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    • 5/5
      The best book that I have read on
      what it means to be a true man who
      loves well and sees Gods beauty showcased in women and the war on young and older men alike.
      We as men must look at our history of
      trauma and abuse so that we can break
      the cycle in our own story and leave a legacy for future generations to love and protect Gods gift to the world through women.
      I have given this book to my two adult
      Sons one who is a father of 4.