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Dear Therapist: How Can I Get My Stepdaughter to Dump Her Dead-End Boyfriend?

He doesn’t seem willing to commit, and she needs to move on.
Source: Bianca Bagnarelli

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Dear Therapist,

My stepdaughter is 35 years old and has been in a relationship with a 38-year-old man for five years. He is an only child with odd parents and is a bit odd himself. It takes so much patience to deal with his idiosyncrasies—such as his food habits, for example.  

He comes to our house for holiday meals and never brings anything, but comes with containers to take food home. He never buys gifts for my stepdaughter. They have been going to

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