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The Bond of Motherly Love

Response to Tennessee Williams “The Glass Menagerie”

The Bond of Motherly Love Response to Tennessee Williams “The Glass Menagerie” Of the three Wingfield’s, the mother Amanda carries the most harmful illusions in the sense that her distortion of reality damages those she is supposed to protect. Amanda adamantly refuses to face the facts that are right before her eyes, bending the minds of her children who are witnessing one thing while being told it is another. She is extremely controlling in that she tries to force a non-existent reality and continuously attempts to fashion her children to fit in the context of that created world. AMANDA …don’t push with your fingers…chew-chew! (1132, Scene I) AMANDA Eat food leisurely, son, and really enjoy it…You smoke too much. (1133, Scene I) The mother is delusional and controlling, and it has infected the mind of her children. Her children show symptoms of anxiety from being raised in a home that offered no place of security or acceptance and desperation to escape the madhouse called home. Her children have developed unhealthy coping mechanisms which affect their ability to function in society; Laura in her escapism through the glass menagerie and Tom through his writing and substance abuse, both in denial of the pain they are attempting to snuff out. This scenario is evident in many disturbances throughout the play, but it is shouted loud and clear in scene three as Amanda and Tom have a rousing conversation that escalates into a screaming match in which Tom expresses his exasperation towards his mother in ways he later mildly appears to regret. Laura is caught in the middle, barely able to breathe a word as the two banter back and forth. AMANDA You will hear more, you- TOM No, I won’t hear more, I’m going out! AMANDA You come right back in- TOM Out, out, out! Because I’m- AMANDA Come back here Tom Wingfield! I’m not through talking to you! TOM Oh, go- LAURA (Desperately)-Tom! AMANDA You’re going to listen, and no more insolence from you! I’m at the end of my patience! (He comes back towards her.) (1140, Scene III) The only thing consistent in the Wingfield family is Amanda’s irrational behavior and the children cowering to it. The children, who are truly adults, are not allowed to mature or embrace a sense of self because their reality is all about Amanda and her interpretation of how life should be. Tom reaches a snapping point when he stands up to his mother’s unreasonable expectations when he tells her not to grab him as storms out the door to go to the movies. (1141, Scene III). Witnessing the scene sends Laura further into her protective world of childish ignorance. Laura is mousy, but she begins to gain her voice as the play progresses. As the scenario unfolds, the viewer witnesses an ever-present struggle in the children as they are trying to see the truth in a house showering them in deception. In scene six we are shown the magnitude of misery Amanda inflicts upon her children and how oblivious to the effect her actions have on others, especially Laura in this case. AMANDA (impatiently) Why are you trembling? LAURA Mother, you make me so nervous! … Mother, what are you doing?... I won’t wear them! AMANDA You will! ... to be painfully honest … (1154-1155, Scene VI) Amanda is ignoring her daughter’s pleas to let her be herself while at the same time telling Laura the real Laura isn’t good enough. All this enhances the twisted reality Amanda dwells in. Amanda is manipulative and aggressive to the point of being an ever-present toxic influence on her children. She talks more than she listens, blames others for the adverse outcomes to her actions, and holds herself on a pedestal of perfection. When Amanda subtly declares, “Things have a way of turning out so badly. I don’t believe that I would play the Victrola,” (1174, Scene VII) she is withholding a form of comfort from Laura after Amanda’s plan fizzled in a display of controlling punishment. Amanda’s belittling words, “It seems extremely peculiar that you wouldn’t know your best friend,” (1174, Scene VII) towards Tom for not knowing Jim was married, show how she is practiced at using Tom’s words against him to build culpability. The observer is given explicit imagery of the distortion in Amanda’s mind as she refuses to take any accountability for the damage that has been done. Even as the viewer is made aware Tom is leaving, Amanda cannot; she keeps driving the nail in deeper. AMANDA That’s right, now that you’ve had us make such fools of ourselves. The efforts, the preparations, all the expense!... TOM All right! I will! The more you shout about my selfishness to me the quicker I’ll go, and I won’t go to the movies! AMANDA Go, then! Go to the moon-you selfish dreamer! (1174, Scene VII) Amanda’s selfishness has poisoned the hearts and minds of her to children to the point of bondage. Her gaslighting and unrealistic expectations have broken off into shards which have pierced her children to the core, scarring them for life. This home is a house of skewed thinking, but Amanda is the queen of crazy that commands the constant chaos is running amuck in the Wingfield home. Tennessee Williams has shed light on a situation that is far more common than most care to admit. Crawling out from the mess manipulation spreads is nearly impossible for the one who spews deception, and as his play shows, the fight for freedom is a lifelong one for those they inflict their insanity upon. Sources: Caprino, Kathy. “How Being Raised by A Narcissist Damages Your Life and Self-Esteem.” Forbes. 9 July 2016. https://www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2016/07/09/how-being-raised-by-a-narcissist-damages-your-life-and-self-esteem/#5e2ca92c674e. 2 Nov 2018. Kennedy, X.J. and Dana Gioia. “Literature: An Introduction to Fiction, Poetry, Drama, and Writing.” Pearson, 8th Edition. pp 1130-1175. 2016. McBride, Karly Ph.D. “The Real Effect of Narcissistic Parenting on Children.” Psychology Today. 19 Feb 2018. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201802/the-real-effect-narcissistic-parenting-children. 2 Nov 2018. Kneifl 4