The Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right is a self-help book by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, originally published in 1995.
The book suggests rules that a woman should follow in order to attract and marry the man of her dreams; these rules include that a woman should be "easy to be with but hard to get". The underlying philosophy of The Rules is that women should not aggressively pursue men, but rather ought to get the men to pursue them. A woman who follows The Rules is called a Rules Girl.
The book generated much discussion upon its release. Some audiences considered it useful and motivational, while others felt that it was outdated, anti men and antifeminist, or a how-to guide that teaches women to play games that toy with men. Psychology lecturer and therapist Dr Meg John Barker claims that the emergence of seduction communities happened "almost as a direct response to this hard-to-get femininity". Others noted that Fein was an accountant and Schneider a freelance journalist without professional qualification in the subject matter. Fein married and divorced, and has recently remarried. Schneider has never married. The authors admitted they were not professionals in an appearance on NBC's The Today Show.
On My Way is the second album released by Ben Kweller. All songs were written by Ben Kweller.
On My Way was recorded at the same studio (Sear Sound) as Sha Sha, but the approach was completely different. "I really wanted to capture the band that had been backing me up for the past year and a half. We recorded everything live, in one room without headphones and hardly any overdubs. I'm very proud of On My Way's spontaneity and honesty. I'm especially proud of the song "On My Way". I feel it's one of my best."
The touring band for the album featured John Kent from Radish and Jason Roberts on guitar. On My Way was their first headlining tour in France. Ben Kweller also co-headlined with Death Cab For Cutie and Incubus in the US. Kweller also performed in Japan with the Yeah Yeah Yeahs and the White Stripes. Towards the end of touring, Kweller opened for The Black Crowes at one of their Hammerstein reunion shows.
I'm a long long way from yesterday
And with time my ideals change
I want to spend all of my time
The way that it should be spent
Road maps here of 20 towns
Flights a faithless place
I eat another Milk Bar down
Yawn and wash my face
You know you're nervous when you see me sway
Too much time by yourself
You know you always seem to back away
Don't hide within yourself
There's a certain hill I want to climb
Like tar bubbles on the path
When they all pop up in summertime
Forever my climb will last
Road maps here of 20 towns
Flights a faithless place
I eat another Milk Bar down
Yawn and wash my face
You know you're nervous when you see me sway
Too much time by yourself
You know you always seem to back away
Don't hide within yourself
Hush hush shhh
Hush hush shhh
Hush hush shhh
Hush hush shhh
You know you're nervous when you see me sway
Too much time by yourself
You know you always seem to back away