How to Be Alone is a 2002 book collecting fourteen essays by American writer Jonathan Franzen.
Most of the essays previously appeared in The New Yorker, Harper's Magazine, Details, and Graywolf Forum. In the introductory essay, "A Word About This Book," Franzen notes that the "underlying investigation in all these essays" is "the problem of preserving individuality and complexity in a noisy and distracting mass culture: the question of how to be alone."
Included in the collection are "Why Bother?"—a revised version of "Perchance to Dream," Franzen's infamous 1996 Harper's essay on the novelists' obligation to social realism—and "My Father's Brain," nominated for a 2002 National Magazine Award. The latter essay details the elder Franzen's struggle with Alzheimer's, a disease Franzen explored in his 2001 novel The Corrections.
The 2003 trade paperback edition includes a fifteenth essay, "Mr. Difficult", on the subject of "difficult" fiction in general and the novels of William Gaddis in particular.
How to Be is a 2008 independent comedy-drama film written and directed by Oliver Irving. It is about a young man named Art, played by Robert Pattinson, who is going through a quarter-life crisis. The film premiered in competition at 2008 Slamdance Film Festival on January 18, 2008. The film was also selected to open 2008 Strasbourg International Film Festival and Pattinson received 'Best Actor in a Feature' award for his portrayal of Art at the festival.
Art (Pattinson) is not talented, but aspires to be a musician. He has a dead-end job at a supermarket, despite having a degree (which he doesn't seem to value much). His girlfriend ends their relationship. Art is then forced to move back home with his cold and neglectful parents (played by Pidgeon and Michael Irving). Art buys a book titled, It's Not Your Fault. Upon reading it, he tries to follow the self-help book's advice. He decides to use inheritance money to first buy a car, and then pay for a Canadian therapist, Dr. Levi Ellington (Jones), the book's author, to come to his home in England and help Art get his life on track, about which his parents are less than thrilled.
I'm not questioning the way I move
I left here for Wisconsin on a Sunday
With practiced inability
Together what comes close to me
I always choose to leave
Dreaming but indifferent at best
I laid down in the kitchen
With the pain across my chest
Desire to be simplified
The way your stoneholds heat at night
There's nothing left to prove
And this is how I learn to be alone
Story of my life is yours to share
A pendulum that swings
Across so many things
So I will always be first to leave
I'm not questioning the things you do
Go out all night with strangers on a Friday
My practiced insecurity
Put prison walls around you
So I know you had to leave
Proud and independent at your best
You curled up with a novel
And a sweater on your chest
Desire to be rectified
The footend of your bed replies,
"There's space for you to move"
And this is how you learn to be alone
Story of your life is mine to share
A pendulum that swings
You lost so many things
So you will always be the first to leave
And this is how we learn to be alone
The story of our lives is ours to share
A pendulum that swings
We love so many things
So we will always be the first to leave