The Best Relationship Journal Prompts To Improve Your Communication

Let’s talk about some healthy relationship journal prompts to help increase your connection to your partner! Whether you’ve been dating and in a romantic relationship or you’re married with kids, these journaling prompts can help you be able to reconnect, refocus, and help you get your fire – or sustain it!

If you’ve read any of my other blog posts, you’ll know I’m married to my high school sweetheart and have two small kids. We’ve been through 18 years together and have experienced most of our lives together! In order to keep our relationship thriving, we have to check in often and initiate new ideas to break rekindle, and reconnect. 

Here are the best relationship journal prompts to increase your connection!

Getting Started With Relationship Journal Prompts

Whether you and your partner are tackling this together or embarking on this journal individually, these relationship journal prompts will be helpful to reflect, empathize, and identify shared values and the best ways to communicate with one another. Below is what I have found to be the best way to approach the start of these journal writing prompts:

1. Decide whether you will be journaling individually or as a couple. Is your partner also willing to journal with you? Are you two willing to share your journal entries? If not, you can still begin this journey individually.  The most important thing when it comes to journaling is just to start. The next most important thing is to stay consistent. Your commitment to consistency with the journaling process will be incredibly important in establishing and maintaining a committed relationship.
2. How will you journal? Are you a paper and pencil person or a person who prefers to journal digitally? For digital journaling, I use Penzu.  Penzu is an excellent way to journal on the go or if you find it hard to keep up with a physical notebook. Penzu is easy to use on your phone and lock entries if you want to keep your information private. For paper journaling, I like to find a cute notebook from Target and write there! 
3. When will you journal? Again, consistency and commitment are incredibly important in journaling. Set aside time every day to journal. Whether it is part of your first 15 in the morning or part of your routine at night, stick with it. Creating the habit of journaling practice will get easier over time and help you be able to truly see the benefit of journaling in your daily life.
4. Adjust your mindset before you journal.  Reduce the distractions and romanticize the experience. Create a positive, safe, and mentally freeing space to be able to answer your prompts openly and honestly. Maintaining a safe place around journaling is incredibly important. I can still remember a time when I was going through a prompt with my husband and I had not checked my mindset. I thought about his response to one of the questions for a full 24 hours and was so upset about what he said. I finally asked him about it and we had thought about the question in different ways, causing him to answer the question differently than I thought. Instead of pinning up that feeling, I should have practiced good communication skills and tactfully addressed my concerns. I also should have adjusted my mindset before the start of our practice together to be more open and not immediately think negatively.
5. Optional: Take an Enneagram Test and a Love Language Test. The enneagram test helps to understand the personality traits of yourself and your partner. The love language test is helpful to understand your partner’s love language. This test tells you how you receive love, but also how you can best give love to your partner in their language. If you’re looking for some journal prompts for these tests, check out this couples journal here. I would suggest these tests even if you are engaged or in a long-term relationship. When my husband and I were going through premarital counseling with our church our pastor had us take the Love Language test suggesting it was an excellent way to get a better understanding of my future partner. He was correct! We’ve recently retaken the Love Language Test and it turns out since having kids our love language has changed. This is a reminder that we are evolving people who change over time and in order to remain connected on a deeper level, we have to continue checking in with one another. 

Relationship Journal Prompts 

1. How do you express your needs and desires to your partner?
2. How do you handle conflicts and disagreements?
3. Do you actively listen to your partner?
4. Do you feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and emotions with your partner?
5. What matters most in your interaction with your partner?
6. Are there specific actions or behaviors that have contributed to helping build and grow your relationship?
7. Are there specific actions or behaviors that harm the growth of your relationship?
8. How often do you check in with your partner? If you haven’t already, can you come up with a regular check-in schedule?
9. Share one of your favorite memories together. What made it special?
10. What is your ideal date night?
11. How do you define intimacy? 
12. Come up with 5 date night ideas. 
13. Describe your dream vacation with your partner.
14. What puts you in a good mood?
15. If you had three wishes, what would they be?
16. Describe your perfect day in detail.
17. What is your guilty pleasure?
18. What physical features do you like most about yourself? What physical features do you like most about your partner?
19. What is your favorite thing (non-physical) about your partner?
20. Think back to your first kiss with your partner. Write down as much as you remember about it. Think about the way you felt, what you wore, where you were, etc.
21. What’s your favorite thing about kissing your partner? 
22. Is there anything new you’d like to try with your partner?
23. How do you handle (unsettling) anxious emotions?
24. Do you believe in true love at first sight?
25. If money was no object, where would you live and what would you be doing?
26. Finish the sentence: I’m going to make more of an effort to __________________
27. What do you need to give up, say no to, or let go?
28. Outside of your partner, who would you consider your best friend? 
29. What qualities do all of your close friends have in common?
30. What is the number one thing you think makes a relationship last?
31. Write down three things you’re grateful for. If you’re interested in a 5 minute gratitude journal, check this one out.
32. Are there any imbalances of conflicts regarding roles and responsibilities in your relationship?
33. Can you think of at least 10 reasons why you love your partner? 20? Challenge yourself to name 50! 
34. Think about the last compliment your partner gave you. What was it? How did it make you feel? What was the last compliment you gave your partner?
35. Name one thing you like to do when you are having a bad day or in a bad mood?
36. How do you want to be remembered (this helps to understand core values)
37. In what ways do you show you are actively listening?
38. Is there a couple you look up to? Who is it? Detail what it is that you admire about this couple.
39. Reflecting to your past experiences, is there anything you wish you could do differently?
40. What is your definition of emotional intimacy?
41. What has been your biggest challenge this year?
42. Describe how you make time for yourself. What does your self-care routine look like?
43. What are your best traits?
44. What does a safe space look like to you?
45. Would you rather have a couples trip or a vacation with just you and your partner? What was the last vacation you went on?
46. When was the last time you had sex? Is there anything you would change about the experience?
47. What are three things that make you feel proud of your partner?
48. What is the best part of your marriage?
49. Are there any people in your life you want a closer relationship with? Are there any people in your life that make you uncomfortable?
50. What is something you want to continue as a tradition? Name a new tradition you’d like to start.
51. During difficult times, how do you deal with disappointment? anger? frustration? saddness?
52. How do you prefer spending time together?
53. Where was the last great place you ate at?
54. What is your biggest fear?
55. Are you a partygoer or a homebody? How about your partner?
56. How do you feel about discussing finances with your partner?
57. What makes you feel comforted and safe?
58. Is there something you could have done more of today? Is there something you could have done less of today?
59. What do you do to make your partner feel special? What does your partner do to make you feel special?
60. How do you like to be supported when you are having a busy or stressful time? How do you support your partner during a busy or stressful time?
61. What is something you used to do with your partner that you wish you could get back to?
62. What do you want to be remembered for?
63. Do you have any deal breakers (major turn-offs)? 
64. Write a love letter to your partner. 
65. Write down 3 relationship goals. Write down how you would feel if you accomplished each of these goals.

Want more? Download this couples journal here.

I hope you enjoyed these relationship journal prompts and that they are helpful for you and your partner.

If you want to create a stronger bond with your (potential) partner while building trust with honest communication, these journal ideas are for you!

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