*2010-12*..Kekuatan Sedekah..

(Copy from Pelita Brunei)

HUKUM bersedekah dalam Islam adalah sunat sahaja. Walaupun begitu fadilatnya sangat besar. Umat Islam sangat-sangat digalakkan supaya memperbanyakkan bersedekah sebagaimana firman Allah Subhanahu Wata'ala dalam Surah Al Baqarah ayat 195 tafsirnya :

"Dan nafkahkanlah (apa yang ada pada kamu) kerana (menegakkan) agama Allah dan janganlah kamu sengaja mencampakkan diri kamu ke dalam bahaya kebinasaan dan berbuat baiklah kerana sesungguhnya Allah menyukai orang yang berbuat baik."

Orang yang bersedekah akan diberikan jaminan kemudahan oleh Allah dengan ganjaran yang berlipat ganda (700 kali) dan sebagai ganti seperti mana firman Allah Subhanahu Wata'ala dalam Surah Al Lail ayat 5-7 tafsirnya :

"Ada orang yang memberikan (menafkahkan hartanya) apa yang ada padanya ke jalan kebaikan dan bertakwa (mengerjakan suruhan Allah dan meninggalkan segala larangan-Nya) dan dia mengakui dengan yakin akan perkara yang baik. Maka sesungguhnya Kami akan memberikannya kemudahan untuk mendapat kesenangan (syurga)."

Di sini jelas kepada kita bahawa Islam sangat menekankan kepada amalan bersedekah dan nilai sedekah itu tidaklah hanya tertakluk kepada banyaknya yang dinafkahkan akan, tetapi terletak pada nilai keikhlasan niat di hati sebagaimana disebutkan dalam hadis yang diriwayatkan oleh Al-Imam Al-Bukhari yang bermaksud :

"Barang siapa yang bersedekah sebesar biji kurma daripada hasil yang baik dan Allah Subhanahu Wata'ala hanya menerima sesuatu yang baik saja. Nescaya Allah Subhanahu Wata'ala akan menerimanya dengan tangan kanan-Nya, lalu memeliharanya untuk diberikan kepada pemiliknya sebagaimana salah seorang daripada kalian memelihara anak kudanya hingga (pahala sedekahnya itu menjadi seperti gunung)."

Amalan bersedekah sememangnya mempunyai kelebihan dan kekuatan sepertimana diceritakan dalam sebuah hadis yang diriwayatkan oleh At-Tirmidzi dan Ahmad :

"Tatkala Allah Subhanahu Wata'ala menciptakan bumi, maka bumi pun bergetar. Lalu Allah menciptakan gunung dengan kekuatan yang diberikan kepadanya, ternyata bumi pun terdiam."

Para malaikat kehairanan akan penciptaan gunung tersebut. Kemudian mereka bertanya, "Ya Rabbi, adakah sesuatu dalam penciptaan-Mu yang lebih kuat daripada gunung?"

Allah menjawab, "Ada iaitu besi" (kita mafhum bahawa gunung batu pun boleh menjadi rata ketika dikorek dan diratakan oleh buldozer atau sejenisnya yang dibuat daripada besi), para malaikat bertanya lagi, "Ya Rabbi adakah sesuatu dalam penciptaan-Mu yang lebih kuat daripada besi?"

Allah Yang Maha Suci menjawab "Ada iaitu api" (besi walau sekeras mana pun boleh menjadi cair dan hancur setelah dibakar api), para malaikat kembali bertanya "Ya Rabbi, adakah sesuatu dalam penciptaan-Mu yang lebih kuat daripada api?"

Allah Yang Maha Agung menjawab "Ada, iaitu air" (api membara sedahsyat apa pun nescaya akan padam jika disiram air), para malaikat pun bertanya kembali "Ya Rabbi, adakah sesuatu dalam penciptaan-Mu yang lebih kuat daripada air?"

Allah Yang Maha Tinggi dan Maha Sempurna menjawab, "Ada, iaitu angin" (air di Samudera yang luas akan serta-merta terangkat, bergulung-gulung dan menjelma menjadi gelombang raksasa yang dahsyat, tiada lain kerana kekuatan angin. Angin ternyata memiliki kekuatan yang teramat dahsyat).

Akhirnya para malaikat bertanya lagi "Ya Allah, adakah sesuatu dalam penciptaan-Mu yang lebih dahsyat daripada itu semua?"

Allah Yang Maha Gagah dan Maha Dahsyat Kehebatan-Nya menjawab, "Ada, iaitu amal anak Adam yang mengeluarkan sedekah dengan tangan kanannya sementara tangan kirinya tidak mengetahuinya."

Hadis di atas jelas menunjukkan yang paling hebat, paling kuat dan paling dahsyat sebenarnya adalah orang yang bersedekah tetapi tetap mampu menguasai dirinya, sehingga sedekah yang dilakukannya bersih, tulus dan ikhlas tanpa ada unsur-unsur menunjuk-nunjuk supaya diketahui orang.

Oleh itu kita hendaklah sentiasa ikhlas dalam bersedekah. Bersedekah meskipun sedikit tetapi nilainya amat berharga di sisi Allah Subhanahu Wata'ala. Orang yang enggan memberikan sedekah sebahagian hartanya kepada orang yang memerlukan akan rugi di dunia dan akhirat. Orang yang bersedekah diibaratkan orang yang menabung di sisi Allah dengan jalan meminjamkan pemberian-Nya kepada Allah. Balasan yang akan diperolehi berlipat ganda. Mereka tidak akan rugi meskipun pada awalnya mereka kehilangan sesuatu.

*2010-11*..Get off that smoking bandwagon by Kartini Knox..

To smoke or not to smoke? Smoking and tobacco kill. Everybody knows it. So why would anyone in their right mind and aware of the penalties take up this habit in the first place? Are they plain stupid? No. Plenty of smart, intelligent people smoke.

Do more and more people, particularly youngsters, have a death wish? I'm sure suicide is not on their minds. The reasons are as diverse and complex as life itself.

Peer pressure plays a big factor: Teenagers and young people wanting to fit in with the "cool crowd" and their peers will take up smoking, rather than risk being a social outcast. I've talked to people who profess not to smoke, unless they're in a social situation.

"When I see my friends lighting up, I'll join in," they admit. When asked why, the most common reply was, "Because it's better to suck in firsthand smoke than passively breathe in second-hand smoke."

I could scarcely believe it when I heard this line of reasoning coming from a healthcare professional (and social smoker)! Was it a case of extremely twisted logic? Lack of education, perhaps? Or - just an excuse to smoke?

Many tobacco-lovers will confess, "I smoke to relieve stress." It's true that high-stress professions, such as the military, have higher numbers of smokers.

But some experts argue that it's the process of inhaling deeply that relaxes a person, and not the nicotine itself. In which case, deep-breathing exercises should help to reduce one's stress, minus the cigarette in hand. Yoga, anyone?

It's a widespread, misconstrued belief that smoking somehow makes a person more glamorous, thanks to modern celebrity pop-culture, which glamorises smoking. If youngsters wanting to be seen as "cool" see their favourite big-screen movie star or pop star smoking, then why not follow their idol's example?

Some of the very naïve and misguided even smoke in the hopes that fame and fortune will follow. No doubt, this is a powerful motivator to light up for some, in substitute of actual talent or hard work, in order to get to the top.

Some are also under the impression that because cigarettes suppress appetite, they can stay "supermodel thin" by consuming tobacco in place of proper meals - appearance being top of many people's lists, in today's beauty-conscious society. If you'd rather starve your body instead of nourishing it, then that's your right as an individual.

If the above isn't contradictory enough - what about those hardcore fitness fanatics who light up after their workouts? We all know them: They go to the gym, jog, and play sports.

One can only assume fitness and health are a priority - until they light up. I would ask: Do you want to maintain your health or ruin it? You can't have both. Eventually, the consequences of one habit will catch up with the other - right?

So what motivates most people to get off the smoking bandwagon? "Family" tops the "Reason to Quit" list for many former tobacco-lovers. Many ex-smokers confess that it was their children and spouses who motivated them to drop the habit.

It can't be easy for a parent to see an asthmatic child suffer, thanks to their smoking. Unless perhaps, some aren't savvy enough to see how the two are linked. Health, or the prospect of losing it, is another powerful fear factor that prompts others to kick the habit.

No doubt as cigarette prices soar - some of the more strong-willed (or more frugal) will quit, in order to save money rather than squander their hard-earned cash. After all, what's the difference between smoking and setting your dollar bills alight before watching them burn?

Cigarette companies basically have a licence to kill. They rake in millions, and as old customers die, new ones are lining up to take up the habit. Women, though still lagging behind their male counterparts in terms of smoking, are the new, favourite targets of tobacco companies. Ladies beware: Pretty packaging may be a tactic to get you to light up.

On the flip side, Australia will soon be the first nation in the world to sell the killer sticks in plain boxes. Cigarette companies aren't happy. Anti-tobacco groups may argue that cigarettes should not even be allowed on sale for public consumption at all. Why not outlaw tobacco like its fellow toxic substances - cocaine or heroine?

Unlike those other drugs though, tobacco does not exclusively affect the smoker. Just one smoker can expose his or her entire family to second-hand smoke every day, making loved ones involuntarily passive smokers.

There's also the much scarier "third-hand smoke". New studies say it gets trapped in curtains, clothes and carpets, posing a risk, with children being the most vulnerable. Young or old, rich or poor, famous or not - smoking-related diseases don't discriminate.

My father, recently at the hospital for a check-up, sat next to a healthy-looking young man. The teen's fit and strapping appearance masked his true condition. At the tender age of 17 years, he confided that he had lung cancer contracted from his multi-pack-a-day habit, which he'd begun at 14.

An acquaintance of ours was also struck down with lung cancer, though he'd never touched a cigarette in his life. After years of exposure to smoke in his workplace, where the majority of his colleagues shared the habit, he lost his life. His family lost a husband and father.

The above example is one reason to be thankful for the recent smoking bans, which prevent smokers from lighting up in public areas. (Though smokers affected by these bans may grumble.) Remember - the next time you light up, you may have the right to poison yourselves for your own pleasure - just not the people around you.

*2010-10*..Formula 1 China Grand Prix..

Final Positions for the 2010 Chinese GP:
1. Button - Mclaren
2. Hamilton +1.5 - Mclaren
3. Rosberg +9.4
4. Alonso +11.8
5. Kubica +22.2
6. Vettel +33.3
7. Petrov +47.6
8. Webber +52.1
9. Massa +57.7
10. Schumacher +61.7
11. Sutil +62.8
12. Barrichello +63.6
13. Alguersuari +71.4
14. Kovalainen +1 Lap
15. Hulkenberg +1 Lap
16. Senna +2 Laps
17. Chandhok +4 Laps

*2010-09*..Reality Bites..

Salam.
Erm.. soo hectic.. lama nda terupdate blog. Bz with playing games in fb.

To YOU.. Im soo sorry cakap kasar with you other day.... I just sengaja marah so I can forget u. but Im wrong... Its make me more missing you... damn.

Workload semakin menimbun... everyday is my special day...and im craving for patchi choco...Im soo lazy to go to gadong and bali d sana.

To sis Sofi: Missh you sista. Hope sis tabah menghadapi segala cubaan n dugaan d sana! Amin
To Haziqah: I know u read my blog silently hehe :P

*2010-08*..F1 Fever...

The return of Michael Schumacher; four world champions on the grid; at least three leading teams in which team mates will be fighting head-to-head for the title honours; and the prospect of drivers having to display genuine finesse in nursing their tyres now that refuelling has been banned.

Is it any wonder that 2010 is being billed as a fantastic season for the FIA Formula One World Championship?

First of all, there’s Michael Schumacher on the comeback trail, at 41 still as fit and focused as he was in his heyday when he won 92 Grand Prix victories and seven world titles. And the metamorphosis of Brawn GP into Mercedes GP signals the return of the Silver Arrows to Formula One racing for the first time since the team was withdrawn, victorious, at the end of 1955.

Then there’s Fernando Alonso, adding fresh charge to Ferrari, while Felipe Massa returns as hton is already settling in alongside Lewis Hamilton at McLaren, where he will be deteealthy and determined as ever after his horrible accident at Hungaroring last July. Jenson Button rmined to prove that the 2008 champion is not going to wipe the floor with him.

Sebastien Vettel and Mark Webber are ready to go head-to-head at Red Bull, and owner Dietrich Mateschitz has made it clear he will accept nothing less than the world championship from one of them. The return of Lotus, meanwhile, spearheads the appearance of new teams from Virgin and HRT.

There are fewer rule changes this year, and the most significant is the ban on refuelling. It has obliged teams to develop longer cars with up to 160 kg of fuel-tank capacity instead of the previous maximum of 80, and to juggle weight distribution. The ban will place a premium on preserving their Bridgestone tyres between the mandatory stop(s) in which drivers must switch compounds. It will also change strategy, and promote greater efforts to overtake, as drivers will be less able to wait for pit stops to make up places. Calculation of testing form has been a nightmare, since fuel loads can vary so much (from 10 to 160 kg). Just so you know, every 10 kg of fuel equates to 0.3 seconds on lap time.

The other major change places much more emphasis on victory, as the new points system goes down to 10th place, thus: 25-18-15-12-10-8-6-4-2-1.

Each driver now gets only 11 sets of tyres per weekend, six sets of primes and five options. Three sets apply solely to Fridays, and must be handed back even if they aren’t used. And drivers from the Q3 session must start the race on the tyres on which they set their grid time.

The penalty for engine changes has effectively been doubled; it’s now 10 grid positions at the race at which the failure occurs, and for the next. The other significant change once again allows teams to run their third drivers on a Friday, provided they use the engine and tyres allocated to the nominated race driver of the relevant car.

McLAREN
1 Jenson Button (GBR)
2 Lewis Hamilton (GBR)

MERCEDES GP
3 Michael Schumacher (DEU)
4 Nico Rosberg (DEU)

RED BULL
5 Sebastian Vettel (DEU)
6 Mark Webber (AUS)

FERRARI
7 Felipe Massa (BRA)
8 Fernando Alonso (ESP)

WILLIAMS
9 Rubens Barrichello (BRA)
10 Nico Hulkenberg (DEU)

RENAULT
11 Robert Kubica (POL)
12 Vitaly Petrov (RUS)

FORCE INDIA
14 Adrian Sutil (DEU)
15 Vitantonio Liuzzi (ITA)

TORO ROSSO
16 Sebastien Buemi (CHE)
17 Jaime Alguersuari (ESP)

LOTUS
18 Jarno Trulli (ITA)
19 Heikki Kovalainen (FIN)

HRT
20 Karun Chandhok (IND)
21 Bruno Senna (BRA)

BMW SAUBER
22 Pedro de la Rosa (ESP)
23 Kamui Kobayashi (JAP)

VIRGIN
24 Timo Glock (DEU)
25 Lucas di Grassi (BRA)

news from: www.formula1.com

*2010-07*..Holiday..

Salam Maulidurrasul. Selamat bercuti every1. Jgn lupa banyak2 selawat ke atas junjungan tani Nabi Muhammad s.w.
Im spend my weekend outside my beloved country. heheh Enjoyin n its so wonderful n relex :)


Happy Holidayyyy every1

*2010-06*..Patchi...

Salam.
I miss Chocolate Patchi. Im also missing YOU but at the same time Im hate You... Im just cant lupakan.......................................................................................................................................... sighs...

*2010-05*..Boys and their toys by Kartini Knox..

Boys will be boys it seems, no matter how old they get. My husband is a prime example of the new generation of "man boys" who are reluctant to leave their childhood behind. I'm talking about toys, video games and gadgets.

It amuses me to see him jump up and down excitedly, while telling me about the latest gadget that Apple has come out with. Because once a gadget has caught his attention - living, talking and breathing it, is how man-boys deal with the Object-Of-Their-Affection, before actually coming up with the cash to buy it. (On the other end of the stick, it does get wearing, being on the receiving end of non-stop yakking about the latest iPad).

Shopping with the husband is like being out with a six-year-old, to see his face light up at all the new video game titles. Racing game steering wheels, drum sets and plastic rock-game guitars, produce audible "oohs" and "ahhs" from him, and amused smiles from the shop staff, who've come to know him as a regular customer (and practically a chum).

Girls, if you're married to, or dating a man-boy, you've probably come to accept the one-hour-minimum spent in the video game store, as your other half exuberantly checks out all the latest titles, peripherals, add-ons and expansion packs. (If those words are mumbo-jumbo to you, well, they were for me too, until I met him).

What is it about men that make them stay stuck to their childhoods like glue? My husband explained that back in his (real) childhood - his parents would only reward him with toys and games if he earned good grades in school. Time spent at game and toy shops would be limited - hardly enough to indulge a boy's taste for all-things-fun. Fast forward into adulthood: earning one's own income and newly acquired spending power, makes it easy to indulge in the things one longed for as a child.

My brother is no different, having recently spent a small fortune on long-lost but never-forgotten action figures from his childhood. Nostalgia has no price tag for him - (although he can be quite tight with his wallet on other occasions). When it comes to toys, my brother's spending power apparently has no limits. (Much to the chagrin of his wife and perplexity of our parents).

My husband loves to spend hours playing video games on all three different consoles, of which he is, the proud owner. How much of a gaming fanatic is he? Well, not content to spend the usual amount of money on a particular game, he will spend extra on the "Special Limited Edition", (complete with maps, swords, armours and so on). The gaming T-shirt is always worth the extra dollars, he says, because it never fails to impress his other man-boy friends and attract countless, effusive compliments from them.

All these toys, games and gadgets, eventually pile up - and anyone living with a "Peter Pan" will probably have one room in the house, relegated for old junk. It's a place for the ever-expanding collection of comics, magazines, toys and old video game console relics that date back two decades. It's the one room in the house that you've likely been dying to clear out, but he won't allow you to touch. He calls it his "Treasure Room". Similarly, my brother has been bugging me to let him have my old room, in which to store his mini toy museum collection. (Not likely to happen).

In some ways, I'm glad I married a toy/game fan and not a car enthusiast. I've known some of them to ask their families to get out and PUSH when going over a speed bump!

Recently, while the husband was talking about the XBox 360, I pointed out that he hadn't yet got the XBox 359.

As well as my newly acquired video gaming education, thanks to him - I've also developed a penchant for computer games.

Though not quite the hard-core gamer he is, it's probably a good thing - we can only accommodate one flat screen, HD TV in the games room!

-Im Totally agree wit her

*2010-04*..4th Feb..

Salam. 4th Feb :) Happy 1yr old to my baby Red. Alhamdulilah. Ya Allah aku besyukur padaMu bertambah umur dan aku berdoa padaMu untuk dipanjangkan umur, murah rezeki, Iman yang teguh dan dipermudahkan dalam semua hal. AMIN. Im soo happy today.. Bday Greeting n wish non stop via sms and facebook. THank You Every1. My day full wit loved!

Alhamdulilah, Im soo happy then last year because Kaka Leng remember it this year!! (Thank You to facebook) hehe. Celebration? erm not today. Insyallah Tomorrow together wit February celebrant.

Wat I want? Im already ada almost semua the list I want. car, laptop, phone, job and others. Now for sure I want my own family hubby n kids. Insyallah. Im just berdoa n yakin pada Allah.

Wat I know. I mish my late parents very very much!!

*2010-04*..FEBRUARY..

Welcome February!! I Love February...

Wishing a ring?

*2010-03*..miss..

Missing You...

*2010-02*..Can you handle the truth? by Kartini Knox...

"Do I look fat?"

Chances are if a chubby chum asks you this, you'll think twice, rather than respond with a bluntly honest, "Yes!"

The majority of us will offer tactful responses - "No, it's the camera that adds 10 pounds on you." "Nope, it's those jeans that look tight on you." Or, "You're just big boned and have a naturally round face!" (All cleverly tailored to prevent hurt feelings and dejection on behalf of one's overweight friends.)

What kind of reaction can we expect if we did answer truthfully?

A small percentage of the thicker-skinned, who countered back to the "Am I fat" question with "Yes, you are" - reported alarming outbursts of tears and emotions from the friend who so nonchalantly posed the question to begin with.

A small minority, to their credit, have been known to face up to reality, take feedback in their stride and proceeded to lose the weight that their friends pointed out to them.

But generally in situations like these, many of us prefer to live day-to-day in a state of ignorant bliss, blind to personal faults and imperfections generally in situations like these, many of us prefer to live day-to-day in a state of ignorant bliss, blind to personal faults and imperfections. (One's weight can be a touchy topic, best not to delve into, with those more sensitive souls).

I know someone who is completely obsessed with his classmate. Every time we chat, I am the unwitting audience to detailed monologues about his mundane classroom interactions with her.

He has a fixed idea in his head that this girl likes him, but is too shy to give out any signs or hints. And disconcertingly convinced that they'll eventually declare their feelings and live happily ever after.

In the middle of one his stories recently, he let drop how another classmate had informed him that his crush couldn't stand him, found him creepy, and wished he'd go away and leave her alone. Although a bit shell-shocked to have had these facts so brutally thrown at him, he wasn't deterred. In ending his running commentary, out popped the same question - "Do you think she still likes me?"

Advising him to take the hint and give this girl the space (that she so obviously and dearly needed), he grew stonily impassive, insisting, "One day she'll grow more comfortable with me, and we'll be friends". To this day he remains stuck on the motto - "If the truth doesn't fit, dismiss it!"

A cousin of mine was in love with someone who strung her along and wouldn't commit. In the end, to her credit, she walked away. You've heard the phrase, "Time heals all wounds"?

Well in this case - it didn't.

Seven years on, she still periodically professes how much she misses and adores him, before changing tack, venting her bitterness and declaring how she'll never love again (and how it was all his fault). Ever watched a re-run of a bad soap opera? It was like that.

A few of us encouraged her to forget the cad, let go of the memories and move on with her life. "You deserve better!" whenever his name came up, was what we thought, soothing balm for her bruised ego. In the end she fired back about how fed up she was of being constantly told how she "deserved better". (Although not as fed up as we were, constantly hearing her bemoaning the loss of the former Mr. Love of her Life).

The truth can be embarrassing, hurtful or annoying - even when it's meant well. The first instinct for most people is to sweep it under the carpet - who can blame them?

Still it's better to face up to it sooner, rather than later. Or you might find yourself less popular than before. And with fewer friends than you'd like!

*2010-01*...2010...

Salam. Alhamdulilah Happy New Year 1431/2010 Everyone. semoga apa yg tani harapkan n our resolution tercapai :) School reopeenn verryyyy soon hehe New semangat.. New faces.. New timetable... New post (alhamdulilah).. but the bz'ness still the same for sure!!

New Year 1431/2010 years without my parents... and without 'YOU'..... BUT.. Im with big families and friends. Missing my parents badly.. in tears every time ingat kan durang... sighs... Well life goes on.. Insyallah I can!! everything buat sendiri.. but when ingat kan ada lagi org hidup nya payah then mine dats make me more stronger. Alhamdulilah Im soo besyukur with my life. Alhamdulilah.

Yday 2009 - Terlalu banyak kenangan... rasanya 2009 tahun menagis. tahun mencabar. tahun rezeki for sure. What happen in 2009 -
-Bring my mum bechemo and her appt.
-Lepakin, Argueing.. wit kaka leng.
-Bali my baby Red W760i ;)
- Argueing with "YOU".
- having My baby V Olive ;)
- Let go Redz..
- Baby Wiz lahir..
- Puasa di Hospital...
- Hari Raya di hospital...
- Argue with kaka leng... huge one...
- My mum passed Away..
- Kehilangan "You"
- Baby D lahir.. 21.12.2009 :) Luv him very much
Alhamdulilahhh... Hopely 2010 gonna be kurang argueing..Mudahan semua dipermudahkan.. Murah Rezeki.. Kesihatan yang sempurna.. Umur yang panjang.. Iman yang teguh... Kesabaran yang teguh... Amin

*93*...Salam Maal Hijrah 1431...

Salam. Today 1st Muharam 1431H. Selamat Tahun Baru!! Happy New Year Everyone!..Alhamdulilah. Semoga di tahun baru ani we mendapat rahmatNya, rezekiNya, ketenangan hati. Amin

Something to share:
Rumah yang besar tidak berguna if hati tidak tenang..
Kereta yang banyak tidak berguna if hati tidak tenang..
Jawatan yang tinggi tidak berguna if hati tidak tenang..
Duit yang banyak tidak berguna if hati tidak tenang..
Kesenangan yang banyak tidak berguna if hati tidak tenang..
dan sebagainya...
Ketenangan hati adalah suatu yang amat penting dalam kehidupan...... Mencari ketenangan hati hanya satu.. ingat pada Allah.. zikir lah..... Insyallah ketenangan hati ada d sana...

Alhamdulilah and congrats to Kaka Leng for the 4th :) Alhamdulilah! Baby D lahir and he sooooo gojesss. with the barat of 3.63Kg on 12th Dec. Alhamdulilah. Luv him verrry much.

Erm wat else.. Bz with my work. Im not fully cuti and im not belayar ke mana-mana. Im just enjoyin stay here. Work during weekdays and weekends jalan2 with the trooops. KNK (Kenali Negara Kita) hehe. Life so wonderful Alhamdulilah..!

*92*..'Money, Money, Money!' by Kartini Knox

Money. It's what makes the world go round, so they say. We complain when we don't have enough of it (and we frequently never seem to). But whenever a lot of it rolls our way, many of us don't know what to do with it!

Spend wisely, we're told. But how often do we heed that advice?

Maybe it's a case of having more money than sense. Or perhaps, a case of getting too careless and giddy with excitement when having in one's possession, large amounts of cash.

Having recently got wind of some real-life anecdotes and stories during a group discussion - they all served to illustrate that the Urge to Splurge, does sometimes override one's common sense.

A shoe-a-holic confided how she succumbed to temptation with a pair of Jean Paul Gaultier heels - and then wore them only once. With the price tag of nine hundred dollars, it may have been an expensive indulgence for her, (not to mention completely unaffordable for others).

It was a quick "Hi and Goodbye" for another fashionista who decided to spontaneously invest in a pair of three hundred dollar Ray Bans (before accidentally leaving them behind in a fast food restaurant a few weeks later). They were never seen again.

Pre-paid purchases might seem like a money-saving idea at the time, (as long as you make time for yourself to use them). One eager fitness buff paid nearly a thousand dollars for a year-long gym membership, but could never find the time to use it. The gym was the clear winner in that case.

Then there was a case of a music lover who confessed to having once spent ten grand on a baby grand, and hardly touched it afterwards. An expensive ornament for the living room.

Have a need for speed? One guy spent the equivalent of nearly a year's salary on a bike, which he says is now little more than an exhibition piece in his garage.

Hearts went out to the girl who spent the equivalent of half her month's salary on a diamond white gold pendant. And then promptly lost it.

To what lengths would you go to keep your loved ones happy? Perhaps not as far as some local Romeos and Juliets.

A few of our besotted friends told of how generously they treated their paramours to top-notch restaurants, gadgets and clothes (only to be dumped by the focus of their affections when the money ran out).

Girlfriends revealed of how they took care of their boyfriends' handphone bills. Inevitably, things ended badly when the girls discovered mysterious, unknown numbers on their boyfriends' phone bill statements (which turned out to belong to other girls).

Some of us learn from more bitter - and more expensive - mistakes. One enamoured young man confided that he'd spent 80 thousand dollars "marrying the wrong woman". She is now, (for better or worse) no longer married to him. His advice? Choose wisely before making that Big Commitment.

Another young Romeo spent mountains of cash, to take his fiancee's family on a shopping holiday. Unfortunately for him, his fiancée left him later on, to marry someone else.

And there was a girl who went to great lengths and took out a personal loan to buy her boyfriend a brand new car. She's still paying it off now, even though he's long gone.

The moral of the next stories? Hobbies are a great way to spend your time. Just be careful how you spend your money.

A Tiger Woods wannabe confessed that he'd spent a small fortune on golf clubs, which did nothing to improve his game. Maybe he should have used the cash on lessons instead.

One budding artist with big ambitions, spent a small fortune on art materials - but in the end, had no time to use them. She confessed she might as well donate her purchases to an art school.

Beauty and looks play a big part in budgets, whether you're a man or a woman.

One prematurely aging individual, admitted to spending thousands of dollars on hair loss products, (which unfortunately did nothing to help his hair loss).

A keen salesperson possessing some very slick skills, somehow managed to sell a couple of hundred dollars worth of makeup, to a customer, who turned out not to be so cosmetically inclined after all. Half a decade later, the once-eager customer confessed that the makeup is still in a box, untouched.

"If at first you don't succeed: buy, buy again", seems to be the motto for others. One dissatisfied consumer owned up, to having nine different brands of hair irons, none of which had given her the straight, glossy results as promised and portrayed on the boxes.

Tinted car windows being as illegal as they are, might be seen by the more prudent, as a high risk investment for one's hard earned cash. So think twice before getting them installed! One car enthusiast didn't, only to find the traffic police waiting for him afterwards, who had him promptly remove them.

These were all true-life lessons that were learned the hard way.

And finally, a man who pleaded poverty was recently given a windfall to help relieve his financial burdens and support his family. The next day, neighbours spotted him, pulling into his driveway in a brand new sporty BMW!

Got any extra cash to spare?

If one can't use it wisely, as the Imams recently preached in a Friday sermon - maybe it would be safer in a bank.

*91*..Fragile..

Salam Friday. Alhamdulilah. Now 2nd week of December sudah. Alhamdulilah everything ok. :) But Im bit worried because lately Im soo fragile... nda dapat sikit I'll in tears. Becerita wit my bro pun menagis.. duduk liat tv pun emo... Weird.. Issit ok? ok Im too emo..

Last few weeks Im askin Sakura the famos kfm chatters iteww burn kan lagu2 baru n hits. Alhamdulilah did received it from Kasihz the kfm chatters yg dulu iteww buttt.. haha.. ermm hairan.. why that cd byk lagu dangduts???????? Dangduts Paling Hits kah masa ani? LOL.

Esp for those yg d luar Brunei itu... Musim Carnival now d Brunei Darussalam.. Temburong with 'Cuti-Cuti Temburong', Tutong with 'Tutong Carnival Days', Then ada DST Carnival lagi. Belaitt apa ada ah?? wahai org2 Belait.. tolong gtau. At the same time.. Its Musim Hujan now. Inda payah cuci keta jimat air. :)

P/s to U (yeah u know who u a): Stop saying that u miss if u dont mean it. Stop saying sweet words if u dont mean it. If u mean wit ur words u will prove it. Im serious wit my words n Im really mean it. Im sound Ego but Thats the Truth. I gave ur the chances already.... Now its up to U.................

TO RK: Nda u belayar kah cuti2 ani?
To Deendra: GOOD LUCK FOR ur GO n FO Exam
To Sis Sofi: Mana sis mengilanggggg..?
TO Ocean: Babe!! abis udah xam tuu... Lets Goooooo...
To Haziqah my silent reader....: Mish u babe... Hows ur kids?
To Kaka Leng: Mudahan d permudahkan for the 4th :)
TO Icy Beh: Brownies.. Tapak Kuda...
erm siapa lagi? hehehehe
To Myself: Be Strong!!
hehehehehe..

*90*..Salam AidilAdha...

Salam. Selamat Hari Raya AidilAdha. N Happy Holiday to all student and teachers. Alhamdulilah. Today we celebrated Hari Raya.. mini family gathering at home 1st time without parents. Alhamdulilah. we going smoothly n tears. Every1 missing our late parents terribly and today also 40 days my mum passed away. Im missing her berabisly in tears every mins. Sighs...I miss her voice.. her smile n everything and every moment yg kami spend together..... Ya Allah.. tempatkan lah ibu dan bapa ku bersama orang2 yang beriman dan lindungilah mereka dari pada seksa kubur dan api neraka.

Yday soo hectic helping my sis to bake lot lot of cake jadi kan tapau for tonite Majlis Tahlil. Baking and Packing. Early this morning woke up early.. missing my mum.. then just kuat kan hati.. memasak tuk family makan kumpul2 at home afta solat raya. Tonite bz again wit Majlis Tahlil 40 days my mum xpecting 300+ guests.. Mudahan semua jalan dengan lancar. Tomorrow.. bz wit majlis betunang my relatives gonna off to KB. Rombongan Meminang Maci Kiah. hehe.. Well dats the plan for my weekend. pack n hectic.

Well student cuti sudah 4th term holiday but im gonna be work.. I lurve working hehe... Workaholic Mood! December im not holiday.. working working working.. preparation for next year! semangat.
Sis Sofi! - Happy Boxing Sales. kenang daku dalam shopping kita atu hehe.. :)
RK and Deendra!! u cuti-cuti d mana??
Yang still xam, Ubdian, Unissian.. Good Luck for ur exam!! esp for Ocean beb!

*89*.. LULUH...

Saat terindah saat bersamamu
begitu lelapnya aku pun terbuai
sebenarnya aku tlah berharap
ku kan memiliki dirimu selamanya

Reff:
Segenap hatiku luluh lantah
mengiringi dukaku yang kehilangan dirimu
sungguh ku tak mampu tuk meredam
kepedihan hatiku untuk merelakan kepergianmu

Ingin kuyakini cinta takkan berakhir
namun takdir menuliskan
Kita harus berakhir

Salam. Alhamdulilah been lalui hectic week.. Yday done the big day. 1st time fully in-charge an event from top to toe.. Alhamdulilah semua jalan dgn smooth n successfully. Pengalaman.. Yeah alot. have to deal with mcm2 ragam manusia. Mula panic jua lah.. takut nda menjadi.. with the support alhamdulilah..... Paling yg unforgettable... when I have to deliver the speech on behalf of the school.. Im not born to be a speaker hehe.. nervous berabis. Sajuk! Im delivered my speech fast and tunduk hehe. Luckily nda pengsan hehe.

Well now.. next phase.. report day!! another bz week preparing alot of stuff

Why Luluh?.. yesh.. Im hurts deeply inside....... outside im look happy......

LIFE GOES ON............................................

*88*..Keeping up with appearances by Kartini Knox..

Appearance - it's one of those factors that we tend to judge our fellow human beings by. Being the superficial, shallow creatures we are, it's also probably the first thing we take into account when we meet new people, coo over a friend's baby, hire a new employee or decide on a potential life partner.

Just how important is our personal appearance? Look around and you will see. Jobs are gained and lost over it. Relationships are made and broken over it. Rivalries are struck and pageants are competed over it. The list goes on.

Our looks are something that we invest lots of time (and money) towards maintaining. Perhaps more so when we're young and single, than after marriage - as was recently pointed out to me.

In our local community, some of us might take perverse pleasure in observing the difference in a couple's appearance, before and after marriage. While the dating game keeps us on our toes in terms of weight watching, dieting, makeup, fashion sense and personal grooming...it can sometimes be observed that the institution of marriage, has the complete opposite effect!

Take the young, slim, couple with magazine-model looks who recently got hitched. Now, fast forward 5 to 10 years. What do you get? Flip through the pages of the family photo album and you'll probably see a middle-aged couple, with slightly (or drastically) thicker waistlines and rounder faces, for whom the importance of personal appearance got long-lost in the whirlwind of parenthood, family obligations and home-cooked meals.

In Malaysia, the authorities, worried about the rising numbers of divorces, recently came out with a novel idea for married couples. They called on husbands and wives to bathe together, in order to foster a sense of closeness, (as well as to test their theory that sweeter body odours - would result in sweeter, more enduring relationships).

Are the Malaysians hinting that perhaps "true" love comes with conditions after all? What a rude shock to those out there, who, after tying the knot, perhaps naively expected their "happily ever after" to last forever.

Could it be ladies, that your affection starts to fade slightly whenever your husband forgoes his morning shaving/deodorant ritual and when his favourite football jersey and faded jeans become his daily choice of dress?

And guys, have your eyes begun to wander since your wife gave up on makeup, facials and hair salons after popping out baby number 5?

Is wedded and family bliss all that it's cracked up to be?

Maybe love doesn't always conquer all!

Studies have pointed out that as early as the 3rd wedding anniversary, men and women stop trying to "dress to impress", letting their looks and appearances slide, along with the basic etiquette and chivalry that they used to charm each other with, before they made their love official.

So maybe he doesn't hold your hand anymore when you go out - and she pays more attention to the kids, than she does to you.

Maybe you've both gained 15 kilos and neither of you resemble anything like the guy or girl you each fell in love with.

Did you ever stop to think, wives that your husbands just don't have the heart to confess that you're looking less slim and more "sihat"? (rough English translation: tubby).

Did you ever think, husbands, that maybe you should take your better halves more seriously when they begin throwing hints that your clothes are looking old and sloppy (and especially when they buy you expensive, new cologne)?

One in four marriages end up in divorce. Could our waning attention to personal grooming be a reason why so many in our society (both men and women) are tempted to stray and play the field, even after they've said "I Do".

Whether you've been married for a year or ten years - both halves need to encourage each other to maintain their overall appearance, in order to maintain some degree of interest (and before eyes start to wander).

A few tips from relationship experts: couples should take time out from their busy work and family schedules to spend time together, at least once a week. Walks or jogs at the local park, or a game of squash or badminton will not only do wonders for your health and personal appearance, but also give you a common activity and interest to enjoy together.

Think - if you're not aware of your own personal appearances, than what hope do your kids have?

In Brunei, we love to eat out. Nothing is more convenient than taking the kids out for a quick lunch at "Ayamku" or similar fast food joint, after school. For many, it's the easiest route towards getting the kids off to Ugama School in the afternoons, while still allowing for some degree of punctuality to arrive at work. Twenty years ago, fried chicken and burgers might have been a monthly treat that parents gave their children. Today, it's practically a daily ritual!

Also according to traditional, local lines of thought, a chubby-cheeked, well-fed child is a healthy and cherished one. Many parents even feel a sense of personal accomplishment and satisfaction, when receiving compliments on their children's cuteness.

In our part of the world, "cute" generally means "chubby". Unfortunately for the child, once they've passed age 12, their chubbiness ceases to be cute. (The words "Fat" or "Obese" may spring to mind instead).

Why is it so common then, to see adults who should know better, encouraging their overweight children, to finish everything on their dinner plates, short of licking it clean?

Perhaps it stems from our grandparents, who lived in times when rationing and scarcity was commonplace, and who could never be certain when the next meal would be.

There's an element of cruelty in this behaviour, which is quite widespread. If you just look around, you will often see parents coaxing and then praising their offspring as they shovel up their food, or handing them sweets as peace offerings whenever their little (and large) ones decide to throw tantrums.

It might be all well and good to encourage a growing child - but what about when the child starts looking decidedly overgrown?

Here's when parental care becomes a vicious circle: An overfed child becomes a target for nudges and winks from siblings and peers. Even parents aren't shy of poking fun at their "larger than life" offspring, giving the not-so-little-ones, nicknames such as "Anak Gajah " (little elephant). They may think it's funny, but not the child, for whom the joke lost it's hilarity long ago.

http://www.borneobulletin.com.bn/weekend/news/nov21f8.htm

*87*..Jangan Menyerah..

Tak ada manusia

yang terlahir sempurna
jangan kau sesali
segala yang telah terjadi

kita pasti pernah
dapatkan cobaan yang berat
seakan hidup ini
tak ada artinya lagi

syukuri apa yang ada
hidup adalah anugerah
tetap jalani hidup ini
melakukan yang terbaik

tak ada manusia
yang terlahir sempurna
jangan kau sesali
segala yang telah terjadi

Tuhan pasti kan menunjukkan
kebesaran dan kuasanya
bagi hambanya yang sabar
dan tak kenal putus asa

Thanks sis Sofi.. Insyallah I'll not give up..! Insyallah I'll strong!