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Away for a bit

On Saturday I’m flying to the UK to be with my mum and my sister. During a routine lung x-ray a small piece of kidney was also photographed by chance. While the lungs were fine, the radiographer “didn’t like the look of the kidney” And within a month J was taken in for a kidney removal – yesterday in fact. So far I’ve not heard news, but she and mum will need looking after when she gets home. My brother has been, with mum while J & her boyfriend were on holiday in the Lakes, but he has commitments back at home, so it’s my turn. I’m leaving on Saturday, from Lyon to Manchester, and my brother will be picking me up. Mr FD will be staying here to do the Cats’ bidding.

I won’t be taking my computer, so, as I find blogging on my phone too tedious, I will be away from the blog for probably the rest of the month. I’ll be kept busy, but I’ve just downloaded three new books onto my Kindle, plus I’ll have all of mum’s library to peruse in the down times!

I’ll see you all when I get back

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Will I make it past Quitters’ Day?

I don’t know if you have seen the advert for Apple Watches about “Quitter’s Day”

Apparently Quitter’s Day is the second Friday of January, widely recognized as the peak time when many people abandon their New Year resolutions! This year it’s due to be 9th January – not many days into the new year!! I suppose people may make it to 16th, as the first Friday is 2nd (today) so people might hang on for another week.

I’m hoping I might manage to keep to my 1000 km challenge resolution. One website gives these reasons for “Quitters’ Day”

  • Unrealistic goals: The New Year energy hits hard. We dream big, we get inspired, and we aim for the version of ourselves who somehow wakes up at 5 am, trains for a marathon, journals nightly, and learns Spanish on the side. When goals are too ambitious or turn into vague goals without clear steps, the early enthusiasm fades fast, and overwhelm takes its place.
  • Little or no planning: A resolution without a plan is just a wish. Without a clear path, it’s easy for those goals to get lost under the noise of real life: emails, errands, family needs, and everything else competing for attention.
  • Not tracking progress: Motivation grows when you see movement. When you don’t, the work feels invisible. Simple habits like checking off wins in a journal, using an app, or marking progress in your calendar can keep momentum alive.
  • Life happens: Even well-designed goals hit unexpected bumps. Work fires, sick kids, travel, stress, and surprises you couldn’t plan for. A single curveball can knock an unsteady habit off track.
  • Perfectionism paralysis: When every day has to be perfect, one slip-up feels like failure. But change is rarely neat. Small wins count, like keeping your sourdough starter alive for a week or clearing your inbox once.
  • Underestimating the resistance: Habits form because they’re familiar. Change takes energy, and our brains love saving energy. That resistance doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re human. Noticing it and planning for it makes the work much easier.

So how am I going to deal with these reasons?

Unrealistic goals: Yes, 1,000 km is a lot, but it is achievable, at only 2.7 km a day. So even if you miss one day, an extra 500 m for the next five days isn’t going to be too difficult to do to catch up.

Little or no planning: After lunch is the planned going out time. I’m also planning to walk every road/ alley shown on my map of the village. So there’s an extra little goal in there. I’m also going to take an “alphabet photo” every day, to put 7 on the “Walk 1000 miles” Facebook page. There are lots of supportive people on there. I’ll post them here too.

Not tracking progress:  I’ve got a notebook where I’m logging km walked, distance to go, average distance needed per week to complete. I have reward stickers for completing more than the average. I have a map of the village to colour in.

Life happens: It does indeed, but now I’m retired there’s a bit less “life” to get in the way. And while illness can certainly cause hiccups most other things shouldn’t stop me from walking.

Perfectionism paralysis: 2.7 km, as I said, isn’t too bad, and if I can do more then I will, in order to have km “in the bank” I don’t think I’ll worry about perfection!!

Underestimating the resistance:  I think for me this is the thing that might be the problem – I know that I will very easily find reasons not to do something that requires an effort. I don’t really know what I can do about this…I’ll just have to see.

And on another note: May I wish all my readers and commenters and followers and casual poppers in a very happy, peaceful, healthy and motivation filled 2026!

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Betwixt and between. And after…

It’s that slightly odd time between Christmas and New Year celebrations – although TBH we don’t celebrate New Year very much. And now we’ve retired it’s not even between Christmas and going back to work!

I look back at the past few days with gratitude though… The party at Alison & Gerome’s was enjoyable enough. We spoke to a few people that we knew, tried conversing with others that we didn’t, ate some good things and drank some champagne. Then we left at an acceptably late-ish time (10.45).

Christmas Eve saw us shopping at the covered market at 8.15 am – there was already a line of about 30 people at the boulangerie. Happily we weren’t getting bread. We bought cheese, macarons for A&G’s Christmas present, and a few last bits and pieces. Then we went to see Céline & Anais, her daughter. We stayed for a while drinking coffee and chatting. After that we collected tomorrow’s dinner and went home for lunch.

The Christmas Eve service went well – we had more people than I expected, but I had enough “make your own Christingle” packs for all the children. We did NOT sing “Away in a Manger” but we did sing The Calypso Carol, and “The Virgin Mary had a baby boy” which the congregation obviously loved as they sang really loudly. I was home by 7.30 for my onion soup.

Fold-your-own-cats from my sister!

On Christmas Day I woke late & had my croissant at about 10.00. Mr FD went to play on his computer, I read and then prepped the veggies for dinner. We listened to music, we opened the few presents we had – quite a lot of cat themed things! – and had our starters. Which were very nice. While the main was cooking, we zoomed our families. And finished the quiet day with a VERY chocolatey dessert which I couldn’t finish.

On 26th we cleaned the house, ready for A&G’s visit in the evening – that was chatty and foody. Lots of nice nibbles and a white chocolate and ginger cheesecake (very rich!) for dessert.

And now? I’m cosying up in my study with the heater on, wondering about what my next project could be for the New Year. My Secret Santa gift from a group I belong to was a fantastic calligraphy set, It has nibs, and ink, and a “quill” pen holder and a lovely notebook. It really is a splendid gift.

I bought a course on Calligraphy all in a folder from the local second hand shop (only 3€) so maybe I should go back and relearn calligraphy properly and seriously. I think the course is missing several pages, but it might still be an interesting project. I can fill in missing information from other books I have, and the internet, I imagine.As it’s in French too it will possibly help me improve my French!

And I am considering trying the “Country Walking” magazine Walk 1000 km in a year challenge (there’s is 1,000 miles, but let’s be reasonable here!). I’ve been successful with this in the past, but I just need to try to get my enthusiasm up. It’s only 2.7 km a day, which isn’t that far, nor that difficult, but it’s the getting out there which I find so difficult. I’ve asked the FB forum for ideas on how to chivvy myself…some interesting ideas but I don’t know how much I’m grabbed by them.

We’ll see…

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The Christingle

As I’ve said, I’m taking the Christmas Eve service, so I will be telling this story:

One Christmas, in a town in Germany, about 300 years ago, a very important man in the church stood up in front of all the people who were sitting in the pews and told them about the meaning of Christmas. He used big, long words such as “immaculate” and “redemption”, he said complicated things about “salvation through the lamb who came and who was sacrificed”, and the children who were sitting there, as good as gold, and not fidgeting, didn’t understand a word of what he was saying.

At the end of the service, while the grown ups stood at the back of the church and talked about the weather, the group of children were whispering together. Finally they pushed one young girl forward.

“Go on, Leisel, you ask him…” they said.

“Excuse me, Sir…” she said to the very important man, rather afraid of what he might do or say at the interruption.

“Yes? What is it?” Happily, he wasn’t fierce or frightening, but rather he had kind eyes and an inviting smile.

“Er…you see, Sir,” she pointed to the small group of children. “We didn’t really understand what you said about God and Jesus…You used very big words, and we don’t know what they mean”

“Oh, I am very sorry. Do you know, I didn’t think of that?” he apologised. Then he gestured for the other children to come forward and to sit down on the floor. They came shyly – because after all this was a very important man – and sat down.

“Right,” he said. “First of all… Do you know the story of Jesus’ birth?”

“Yes, “they said, and told him about the baby born in a stable, about the angels who sang, the shepherds who came to visit, the parents Mary and Joseph. By the time each child had finished adding their part to the story they were no longer shy, but rather sitting up straight, putting up their hands, eager to add an extra detail to what they were saying.

“There was a donkey!” one boy said

“And a cat!” another offered.

“Excellent,” said the very important man. “You know the story”

“Yes,” Liesel said, “We know the story. But what does it mean?”

The very important man opened his mouth to tell them. But then he shut it again, realising he was about to use big, long words like “immaculate” and “redemption” all over again. And these were the words the children didn’t understand.

He looked around the church and saw that someone had put a decoration just in front of the altar, with holly, and sweet-smelling oranges, and spicy-scented cinnamon sticks, tied together with red ribbons. He took hold of the orange

“Look”, he said “the orange is round like the earth. This is the world that God created, and this is the world that God loves. Each one of us who lives on the earth is precious to God.”

The children nodded. They understood the idea of love: their mums and dads loved them; they loved their parents, their friends, their pets. That was clear.

The very important man plucked a ribbon from the decoration and wrapped it round the orange.

“The ribbon is red – it shows the very strength of God’s love. Sometimes bad things happen in the world, but God will always love us. Sometimes we do bad things that hurt others, but God will always love us. So much so, that Jesus – that little baby that you know about – came to teach us how much God loves us. He showed us, by loving and helping other people”

Some of the children looked a little bit doubtful.

“How did a baby help people?” one child asked

The very important man paused and smiled

“Well, first the baby made people happy because the Angels that you know about came because of him, to tell the shepherds that God loves everyone – rich and poor. But then the baby grew up to be a man, who spoke to everyone who needed help, and who told them about a God who loved them and wanted them to love other people.

But sadly”, continued the very important man,” not everyone liked these ideas, and in the end they did bad things to the man, Jesus, and killed him. So the red ribbon reminds us that God’s love is that strong.”

“But why was Jesus special?” a voice came from behind the children. It was one of the parents who had stopped chatting and come to join the group at the front of the church.

Again the very important man looked around him and saw the small candles that were part of another decoration. He made a hole in the top of the orange, and then, carefully, he pushed the candle into it. Then, taking a long taper he lit the candle.

“The candle shows us that Jesus was the Light of the World – he showed us the way. He came, from Heaven, to light our world. He is the Son of God. He is light, and love, and peace – all the things that God gives us.”

For a moment there was silence as they all watched the flame dancing in the slight draught from the windows, and thought about Jesus, the light of the world, lying in an animal feeding trough.

It was time to go, and as the children started to get to their feet, one small boy remembered he had some sweets in his pocket. They were special, because his Grandmother had given them to him for Christmas, but he wanted to give this kind man something to show that he understood what he had said. A little reluctantly, Peter pulled the sweets from his pocket and held them out in his hand.

“Thank you, Sir”, he said. “That makes it easier to understand. You can have my Christmas sweets to say Thank you.”

The very important man looked at the sweets and understood how special they were to Peter. He thought very quickly, and cried out

“Wait!” The children all paused. “Look, Peter has given me his Christmas sweets. And they can help us remember that God gives us food and good things in our world. “

The very important man snatched a twig from the Christmas decoration beside the altar and broke it into four pieces. He stuck them into the orange and then carefully put a sweet on each twig.

“North, south, east, west” he continued. “– it doesn’t matter where we are in the world, God’s love goes with us, and we are told to share the good gifts he gives us with everyone. “

With that, the very important man placed the orange onto the altar.

“Thank you, God, for the gift of your love, shown to us in Jesus.”

The very important man got to his feet, solemnly shook the hands of all the children and the grown ups and left the church. As he put the last of Peter’s Christmas sweets into his mouth, he knew that he would not forget the night when some children made him think much more carefully about the Christmas story

And now, every year, all over the world people make Christingles like this one to remember that God made the world, that he loves us all and that Jesus came to be our light.

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Christmas Dinner

On Christmas Day, if we’re here in France, it has become tradition to spread the Christmas Day meal out through the day – smoked salmon about 11.00, foie gras about 13.00, main dish about 16.00, dessert and cheese through the evening. This gives time for digestion, walks, reading, watching TV, listening to music etc in between courses. My family have adopted this also – finding it works well with children, as they don’t get too fidgetty, or full up with food. And gives time for naps etc between eating, cutting out grouchiness.

We usually go to the covered market early on Christmas Eve, and together with our cheese buying, we’ll choose what we’re going to have. Not turkey. But last year we broke from tradition and had a ” ready meal” from the local butcher. It wasn’t an unmitigated success, as the main course was a bit “meh” but it was stressless enough to cause us to try it again.

This time we’re going to “Chez Nine” a restaurant in Roanne, run by relatives of our friend Jerome. We have chosen:

  • Gravelax de truite à l’aneth, légumes acidulé , crème de potiron, agrumes, fines herbes & oeuf de truites (Trout gravlax with dill, tangy vegetables, pumpkin cream, citrus fruits, herbs, and trout roe)
  • Chapon aux morilles & gratin dauphinois aux cèpes (Capon with morel mushrooms & Dauphinois gratin with porcini mushrooms)
  • Suplice chocolat, caramel beurre salé, biscuit praliné (Chocolate suplice, salted butter caramel, praline biscuit) – I have no idea what “chocolate suplice” is – it might be a brand of chocolate, a type of dessert, a way of cooking it…we shall see.

While ordering, I saw that on the restaurant A la Carte menu they had Nems praliné, noisette, caramel beurre salé & glace vanille(Praline spring rolls, hazelnut, salted butter caramel, and vanilla ice cream) which I thought sounded more appealing than chocolate. I sent a message asking if one dessert could be that, but I don’t know whether that will be possible. We shall see.

Of course we’ll have our cheese selection from the cheese factory & Mons to eat too.

On other news: the onion soup is made, ready for tomorrow evening, and Mr FD has ironed my “tasteful” Christmas top for tonight’s party. It is, indeed, starting to look a bit like Christmas.

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Christmas Plans

church was relatively full. We sang carols, heard the traditional readings, and shared festive food and mulled wine afterwards. It was a good way to start the “Christmas week”

Comtesse de Vichy – a creamy local cheese

Today (22nd) the only plan is to go to the local cheese factory to pick up some local cheese ( done – we got some Comtesse de Vichy, some Bleu de Montbrison, some tomme de chevre with a flowery rind and some hard cheese (I can’t remember it’s name, but we had it at a friend’s house and it was delicious!!) We’ll get some other cheese at Mons (a cheesemonger in Roanne) on Christmas Eve. I’ll maybe make the onion soup for Christmas Eve, as I probably won’t have time on 24th

Tomorrow (23rd) we have a party at a friend’s house – it’s Jerome’s birthday & Christmas party combined. We probably will be textbook introverts and stand in a corner most of the evening, but I might try to be sociable with people I don’t know. In FRENCH!!! During the day I have an appointment for a much needed haircut! I also need to plan for the Christmas Eve service & get everything printed and prepared for that.

On 24th we’ll be down in Roanne before cock crow (well…maybe not that early!) to get the extra cheese (you can’t have too much cheese!) – Mr FD loves Stilton, and Mons stocks Stilton. Also they may have the exactly correct cheese for the onion soup, which is called “Graisse de Noel”, but maybe not. A website (translated) says: Christmas Fat Soup is a soup made with Cantal cheese, onions, and country bread.
It was traditionally eaten after returning from Christmas Mass, hence its nickname “Christmas soup”!According to Cantal peasant tradition, Fourme de Cantal cheese is called “Graisse de Noël” because it is made with the very rich milk produced in early autumn, when the grass is particularly lush due to the return of the rains. Graisse de Noël has a distinctive melt-in-the-mouth texture with a mild, buttery and tangy flavor that is highly appreciated by cheese lovers.

If not, we’ll just get a mature Cantal, which will be fine. We’ll be collecting our takeaway Christmas dinner as well.


We’ll probably have a pizza for lunch – strangely I always think I should eat vegetarian on Christmas Eve: I have no idea why. So my pizza, wherever we get it from, will be a vegetarian one, and the soup will be for our tea/supper. It will be eaten after my return from Church, but not Christmas Mass. I’m taking a “children focussed” service, telling the story of the Christingle. It’s at 17.00 so I should be home by 19.30, eager for my soup.

On 26th, Alison & Jerome are coming to us for a “picky tea” – Alison is working during the day, so this will mean she doesn’t have to think about cooking. I’ve got lots of snacky things – sausage rolls, snail vol au vents, cheese (bien sur!), smoked salmon & blinis, crisps, etc – plus (not yet made) white chocolate and ginger cheesecakes.

I’ll tell you about our Christmas dinner plans another day! I hope all your plans are going well.

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Mud, glorious mud.

Sue over at “Eating Well on a Small Budget” posted this.

My first four words were power, connection, strength….and MUD!

Which made me wonder if I need to consider training for “Mud Girls Challenge” The publicity says “Embark  on a rewarding and enriching human experience called MUDGIRL. You’ll have fun in the mud and over obstacles in a unique atmosphere, surrounded by women of all ages and fitness levels. 

TBH I don’t think it’s my scene. What do you think?!

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Friends for lunch

Yesterday two friends came for lunch – Lee & Laurie are friends from Church, and Lee is involved with the technology side of things. Mr FD has been working on the Church website, so Lee came to see what has been done so far, and to talk next steps. While they were talking about that Laurie & I repaired to my study to make a card – Laurie loves making cards – as I do, although I haven’t made any for quite a while.

Laurie brought this example along, and we each made our own interpretation of it. I used gold stars along the bottom instead of greenery. It was a fun thing to do – I’ve never really crafted with another person before.

After we had lunch. I’d prepared a vegan dish with chicken (!!) The recipe sounded delicious, but used tofu – certainly not something I enjoy. So I substituted the tofu for chicken, which we enjoyed very much.

This is the recipe I used – mine didn’t look anywhere as pretty – but instead of cranberry sauce I used redcurrant jelly. Otherwise (apart from the chicken!) I pretty much followed the recipe. I found it a little dry, so perhaps a few dobs of marscapone would have helped, but generally it was very tasty. We had it with garlic butter roasted potatoes and chicory-and-clementine salad; for dessert I just bought some frozen mini-éclairs from Picard which is a frozen food shop. I put fruit on the table too, but no-one was very interested in that!

After lunch they had to leave for another appointment, and although I had had good intentions of doing something, I didn’t, preferring to read and do puzzles. And maybe snooze a little!

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Welcoming and Walking with Refugees

I am proud to be associated with a Church – the Episcopal Church in Europe – who is involved in this sort of project.

In January 2023, as the Ukrainian refugee crisis continued to unfold, the Convocation of Episcopal Churches in Europe (CECE), with the support of Episcopal Relief & Development (ER&D), launched the Convocation Refugee Grant Program (CRGP). The initiative is designed to empower faith communities across Europe to deliver compassionate, targeted, and effective support to refugees and displaced migrants.

Over the years, the CRGP has proven that faith-based organizations can play a transformative role in Europe’s humanitarian response to migration and in refugee inclusion and social cohesion. By supporting local refugee ministries through grants and training, the program has fostered community resilience, intercultural understanding, and human dignity. It has effectively mobilized 904 local volunteers, built trust among refugee populations, and complemented public and NGO-led services. Our projects now include refugees and migrants from around the world. Each project offers assistance designed to meet the specific needs of the local population.

Since its launch, CRGP has reached more than 200,000 people in 28 cities in 12 European countries with the help of 21 local churches.

The video is a little long (just over 11 minutes) but is really interesting, explaining one project which is taking place in Wiesbaden, Germany.

“Kunstpause” is an art therapy project established by Anastasiia Synytsia. A Ukrainian refugee, Anastasiia found the Church of St. Augustine of Canterbury in Wiesbaden while searching for stability and peace in her new life in Germany. She joined the church choir, where she soon found she wanted to offer more to her new church family and her fellow Ukrainians. “Kunstpause” was a way to bring the two communities together—creating a healing space and keeping the traditions and language of Ukraine alive.

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Christmas Music

Mr FD has put together a “mixed tape” – more like an hours and hours long playlist – of Christmas/Winter themed music from his vast collection.

Here are some of his eclectic choices:

  • The Twelve Days of Christmas by Annie Haslam
  • Run with the Fox – Chris Squires
  • Carol of the Bells – Marillion
  • Cold Coming – Thea Gilmore
  • What Child is this? – The December People
  • I wonder as I wander – I am the Morning
  • Gaudete – Steeleye Span

I would have included a bit of Rend Collective, maybe a bit of classical music (especially THIS) but it’s his collection which I’m borrowing.

It includes one of Big Big Train’s Christmas songs, which I really like. So I’m sharing it with you. I’ve shared it before, but it’s a good song and has a fun video story:

Give a little peace, joy, Love and light To the world